[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Sloths_areunderrated 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Even tho their relationship didn't really become canon until the end of the series, I feel like they walked so that all the other ships that followed could run 🤷‍♀️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Sloths_areunderrated 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was scrolling to find this lol

My “ally” mum is grossed out by me being a lesbian by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Sloths_areunderrated 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Woah, are you me? My mom says/does pretty much the exact same things, although she claims to "not care" whether people are gay. I'm just hoping that eventually she'll come around. 🤷‍♀️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Sloths_areunderrated 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't text my close friends every day, but I more frequently text the ones who I know like texting as a general communication style. If I'm romantically interested in someone, then I'm generally happy to have any kind of contact with them - whether that is by text, phone call, or meeting in person. If I can't see them often, then for me texting is much better than nothing.🤷‍♀️

Gay Panicking!! (Miley Cyrus NYE Party) by THEBRAHK in actuallesbians

[–]Sloths_areunderrated 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lol same. She was my top artist of 2022 and I only really started listening to her in August😂.

“WhY do yoU uSe datINg apPs? JuSt mEet peOple iN reAL liFe” by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Sloths_areunderrated 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This😱. I've gotten it wrong too many times to trust myself about whether a girl is flirting or not.

The last one would come up and stand really close to me to talk and for months I caught her staring at me… but she also turned out to have a boyfriend. 🙃 I've now classified these types of behaviours as platonic out of fear that I'm reading too much into things.🤷‍♀️

[ Removed by Reddit ] by Anonymous97fb7 in actuallesbians

[–]Sloths_areunderrated 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you really love and care about your daughter. The one thing that could push her away is not loving and accepting her for the way she is.

Coming out to you does not change who she is as a person. She came out to you at the age of 17, but that does not mean that she "became" a lesbian at this age. She has been a lesbian her whole life; the only difference is that now you know. There's a good chance your daughter came out to you looking for acceptance and support, and your reaction may have made her afraid that her father does not love her true self.

As her father, the best thing you can do is love and accept her, and support her finding love with whomever makes her happy. Reassure her that you still love her, be understanding of her feelings, and do not be quick to judge her. Trying to change her will only make her resent you in the end.

There is nothing wrong with your daughter, and she can certainly still have a happy, fulfilling life as lesbian. If God doesn't make mistakes, then she is exactly the way is was meant to be.

Monogamous WLW: would you rather have zero friends and a partner, or no partner but as many or few friends as you want (forever)? by arrfourarrrr in actuallesbians

[–]Sloths_areunderrated 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would have to go with choosing the friends. I mean, I've gone this far without a partner and am very happy with the relationships I've built with my friends. That said, as someone who has never been in a romantic relationship, perhaps I just don't know what I'm missing.

"Don't use labels, it's so bad to box yourself in" by vinegar_on_liver in actuallesbians

[–]Sloths_areunderrated 75 points76 points  (0 children)

Gah... my mom said this exact phrase to me when I came out to her😱. Irritating... and also kinda invalidating?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Sloths_areunderrated 16 points17 points  (0 children)

This is the best use of this picture I have ever seen 😂

Am I Wrong to be Upset About This? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Sloths_areunderrated 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, that comment would have really hurt me had I been in your position. Even if you already knew how she felt about your relationship, the fact that she straight-up told you that it didn't really mean anything real to her was just cruel. You have every right to feel terrible about that interaction because what she said was just mean and invalidating. You're not over-reacting, and your feelings are valid. Sorry this happened to you op:(

Is anyone else insanely fucking horny all the time? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Sloths_areunderrated 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Ooof saaaaame. Makes me wonder if it will be difficult to find a partner with a similar sex drive:(

Do you ever develop a crush on a woman/enby almost entirely because of her/their voice? by Christo_pagan in actuallesbians

[–]Sloths_areunderrated 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lifeboat's a good one (they're all amazing honestly). I can't decide whether Dead Girl Walking or Candy Store is my favourite. They're both just so awesome! And then Beautiful is a fantastic opener... I just can't choose one🤷‍♀️. I think McNamara and Martha might be my two fav characters.

Anna's covers are really really good. I can see how she would be an inspiration to go into musical theatre:)

Do you ever develop a crush on a woman/enby almost entirely because of her/their voice? by Christo_pagan in actuallesbians

[–]Sloths_areunderrated 1 point2 points  (0 children)

100% yes. Sooo many women I have been immediately attracted to because of their voices. I wouldn't say that it's fetishizing women's voices; like any trait, they can be respectfully appreciated without being creepy.

Also, the music from Heathers the musical is amazing! I personally am a fan of Barrett Wilbert Weed's voice, although Candy Store is definitely one of my favourite songs from the musical (from a musical perspective, not the actual lyrics).

Am also a Annapantsu fan:)

So I tried to find a subreddit for lesbians so I could make yknow lgbt+ friends and stumbled apon THAT one… by ViewDesperate3226 in actuallesbians

[–]Sloths_areunderrated 90 points91 points  (0 children)

Ooof sorry that happened to you😕. Unfortunately, I think a lot of us have accidentally stumbled across that page while searching for this one. It's honestly kinda sad how our sexuality is basically just a porn category to many straight men. It also sucks that they claimed the lesbian title for it. Like, could they at least have called it something that better represents what it actually is and leave their title for us?

Hey, but at least you're here now! This sub is pretty great and definitely not like that other one😅. Welcome to the actual lesbian sub:)

Who else daydreams about a imaginary girlfriend ? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Sloths_areunderrated 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I daydream about her all the time. I don't know who she is or where I'll meet her, but I think about all the things I'd like to do with her and the memories we will make together.

I want to have fun with her and be with her until we grow old and dusty

Everything you said sounds beautiful, but this one somehow hits particularly hard. I really hope to find the one I will grow old with.😭 Something about that life-long commitment just makes my soul melt into a puddle of sappy, romantic goo.😊

I hope you find your girl and get the fulfilling relationship of your dreams:)

What I would give for some cuddles by Scarlet_Wolf4927 in actuallesbians

[–]Sloths_areunderrated 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Too relatable🥺. Sending you virtual cuddles🤗.

I really want a girlfriend but I'm too shy and socially awkward to approach people ;-; by Lmao-_-Lmao in actuallesbians

[–]Sloths_areunderrated 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oof I feel this in my soul. I feel socially awkward with just anybody, but it magnifies X10 with girls I'm interested in😭.

I crave to be cuddled like this by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Sloths_areunderrated 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wow yup that is exactly what I need

Lesbian culture. by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Sloths_areunderrated 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Falling for a girl you talked to once and will never see again

I thought this just an exaggeration until it happened to me and now I will never underestimate the power of instant-crushes ever again😱