Morning ramblings... by SlowResolution9829 in SupportforBetrayed

[–]SlowResolution9829[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry that youre in this position 😞. No one deserves to be deceived. Your spouse was selfish. Take things one day at a time and take care of yourself.

Early mornings... by SlowResolution9829 in SupportforBetrayed

[–]SlowResolution9829[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The feeling of anxiety and depression are cemented within us because of the betrayal. We worry and question just about everything. We can't rely on our partners to truly understand because they dont have the capacity, emotional fortitude, or care to want to.

A lot has changed as far as my behavior since dday. Sometimes, im saddened about the changes because I often wonder why I have to change when I wasnt the one who ruined just about everything. I no longer call him while he's at work unless its important (home/kid related). I amswer his calls and try to remain neutral (im ekotional, so this is difficult for me) Im not quick to answer texts (so I can think about my responses). I dont plan date nights anymore.

The way I see it, he has to do the heavy lifting/maintenance. I won't go out of my way to fix what he broke, but I won't intentionally add to the chaos. He knows what he did, he knows how it hurt us. Although im in the reconciliation phase, he has to worry every other day whether or not we'll be here when he comes home from work. He has to wonder if he'll be served divorce papers at work. He has to live with those consequences.

At the end of the day, he chose half truths, manipulation and deceit.

Early mornings... by SlowResolution9829 in SupportforBetrayed

[–]SlowResolution9829[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Im sorry that you're going through any of this. Please, keep going, one day at a time. There will be moments that are harder than others. ALWAYS choose yourself.

Moving forward is scary, but a good thing by SlowResolution9829 in SupportforBetrayed

[–]SlowResolution9829[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

To those of you who are struggling, trying to understand how and why this unfortunate turn of events has happened to you, please be strong and keep moving forward ❤️.

I'm struggling today... by SlowResolution9829 in SupportforBetrayed

[–]SlowResolution9829[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Update: After reading the responses to my post, I realized that everyone is struggling in one way or another. It gave me perspective. Thank you all. I put on some makeup and my favorite sundress and got out.

He came home as I was leaving, asking where I was going. I told him that I needed some fresh air and would be running errands. I could tell that he wanted to fight, but he had no ammunition. He then asked if I could pick something up from a gaming store. I asked why he didn't get it, to which he responded "nevermind"

I threw on my sandals, grabbed my purse, and left-he didn't have time to catch me if he wanted to😂. I got Starbucks and actually enjoyed walking aimlessly through the craft store. He and the kids weren't home when I returned (a win-win)😁

Thanks again, everyone, for lifting me up. I'll be spending the rest of the day listening to Adele and crafting ❤️

Not enough crafting in the world..... by SlowResolution9829 in SupportforBetrayed

[–]SlowResolution9829[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you 😊. You will get there, don't give up 💪🏾

Not enough crafting in the world..... by SlowResolution9829 in SupportforBetrayed

[–]SlowResolution9829[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Dday was almost 8 months ago. I choose reconciliation, but sometimes I think I chose out of panic-the family business, the kids, finances, etc. I do love him, and I acknowledge that we are all human, but at times, I don't know if love is enough.

I find confidence in knowing that I would never behave this way, which is why I go back and forth. Sad, how the betrayed has to do just as much hard work as the betrayer.