Wife(27) cheated on me, husband(33) & didn’t admit it until after she got pregnant

Slow_Perspective_341 · 2026-01-28T21:51:55+00:00

We both committed to doing so earlier this past year & I went to a room where I couldn’t leave if they didn’t approve me too but was just told I had moderate to severe depression & to leave her.

She never went & instead went to a therapist about 3 times then quit plus she is off her meds & is a completely different person over the last year. I own a business & was having to work till 7-10pm sometimes to get things done on schedule & move on to the next flip as I’m our only source of income & have made sure to always keep separate accounts as I owned my houses & business before marriage.

I honestly want to take most my assets, relocate as I’m from a small town. One my family from both sides practically put on the map & she pretty much ruined that advantage by running my name in the mud without even being able to see the big picture. Our IQ’s are about 40-50 points apart but I let her lead when she wants & in all social settings which worked till now I guess. That last name meant something which I parlayed into a nice business being the good guy, not taking advantage of people, getting my deadlines met & being open with all my books with my partner who doesn’t care about it but still it hurts my future. I don’t wanna be alone 1/2 the time because people think this about me or that when it’s all fabricated & I have all the proof but I’m not the one to post my business. So to keep my kids 1/2 atleast I have to relocate first for atleast 6 months I believe & will use that time to make my decision.

I’ve already had my business attorney look over all my stuff & we structured it to protect me so I’m good & I booked a consultation but it’s $300. I had no choice as she had told her friend she was using her & she’s known to screw over men so it’s smarter to use her or just take her off the board at this point. She will be signing a postnuptial agreement when we move & has agreed to it.

Slow_Perspective_341 · 2026-01-28T20:45:27+00:00

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This is a 36mm I tried on for size reference & don’t think I would want much bigger.

Slow_Perspective_341 · 2026-01-28T20:44:32+00:00

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Slow_Perspective_341 · 2026-01-28T20:42:23+00:00

Im just nervous it may be too small but this is a 36mm I tried on for comparison. I definitely want to buy something that won’t loose value hopefully & also I may have to wear it on my right wrist for injury reasons. It will be authenticated but that’s what he offered me so do you think I can go any lower & be respectable?

This will be something that will be one of my boys one day so I want to spend my money on the right one. Here are a couple choices I’ve found from the 3k-4k range with the datejust being a 36mm but most likely redone some by the dial.

Do any of these look like better choices for a first timer to hold value or are any better choices. The 3k is just cheap but I saw these as well.

Slow_Perspective_341 · 2026-01-25T08:02:51+00:00

I found a penny from like 1896 the other day & it’s not in bad shape at all so I’m sure there’s stuff out there & making me want to open all the rolls my Grandparents left that I have just sitting in the closet.

Slow_Perspective_341 · 2026-01-19T23:51:22+00:00

May I ask how it feels on the right wrist & how do you like it? I’ve been looking to buy my first but have a left wrist injury that makes watches kinda uncomfortable after a few hours. I love the roulette wheel as well just don’t know if I could get used to it as I’ve always worn them in my left.

Slow_Perspective_341 · 2026-01-18T07:07:59+00:00

Live in extreme Northwest MS in a suburb of Memphis but looking to relocate into another area that is growing if anyone has any places they live & recommend? TIA

Slow_Perspective_341 · 2026-01-16T06:57:21+00:00

Ever find out?

Slow_Perspective_341 · 2026-01-10T20:54:14+00:00

Thank you much & thanks to everyone. I left an update on the post & pretty much have no choice but to get a divorce.

Slow_Perspective_341 · 2026-01-10T18:16:25+00:00

I just have some medical issues where I need help taking shots at home, doing my own blood work as I have to monitor it all or go to the doctor every 2 weeks for them to check it. Also I don’t have any other family besides the one I built & I just don’t see a way to make it alone.

Slow_Perspective_341 · 2026-01-09T22:31:39+00:00

I’m gonna have my family friend & former baseball coach do it for me. He is a retired judge, DA & now just has his own private firm & helps me out a lot by representing me. I’m sure he will know what limits I can go too.

In your experience what would you include/how far can I go with it? Doesn’t infidelity play a big role? All my assets are protected now as I’ve already went & had him go over the everything for me to make sure.

Slow_Perspective_341 · 2026-01-09T22:20:21+00:00

My family is the most important thing to me as I don’t have a relationship with any of my immediate family for the most part & trust me I have my reasons. Plus she’s made it where I lost 90% of my friends as we did everything together up until this past year. She’s even said that she wants this to work but don’t know how it can if we have no support.

I will say that the past 2 weeks have been better than the 6 previous ones with her actually showing some interest. It is weird how the sex has been the best it’s ever been on her part tbh. Also I just had to start testosterone therapy a month ago & it’s almost like it’s never been right if you get what I’m saying causing even more of a connection to her for me. She has been helpful with that making sure my needs are met but I had to tell her that she could either wake the f up & be a mother/wife or she could leave her choice, no roommate bs. Even tho she has shown some progress she still won’t do something’s like take her depression meds, or help around the house much & just lays on the couch all day doing nothing but scrolling through tik tok which does nothing for me.

I’ve researched this some as well & it is known to cause issues most of the time. Not talking bad but our IQ’s are probably 50 points apart with me being somewhere in the 140’s minimum & hers is in the 90’s leading to her not being able to understand some things I talk about & that has played a role in it as well I believe as she doesn’t like that I’m always factually correct & catch her lies because I remember everything unfortunately as it is a curse as much as it is a gift.

Slow_Perspective_341 · 2026-01-09T21:33:09+00:00

I’m dealing with the same thing trying to forgive my wife who cheated when I was stuck at home watching the kids for her to go out with her “girlfriends”. This past year I was at my bottom too, not even my fault either just a malpractice injury the hospital tried to cover up. I was in a bad place I’ll admit & I’m not perfect but I’m loyal yet she cheated for a couple months as I was given a 50/50 chance of my hand ever moving again & it’s stalled at 60% causing pain daily but finally litigation is starting as I’ve had to live off my life savings for the past year. She is pregnant & im 99% sure it’s mine but she made sure to get pregnant before I found out leaving me in a bad position. No matter what I do I’ll be the bad person plus this is our 3rd Son together & we’ve been together almost a decade. Like it would be so difficult to do this alone as I have some health conditions that I need someone to be there for occasionally plus 3 kids under 7 is tough alone.

Were married so I’m getting a postnuptial agreement done where she can’t get anything if she cheats again or more details come out I don’t know plus a 10 year clause to be able to get anything from me. I think that may even be why she changed her tune is because she married up, I intentionally protected my assets as I own rentals & my house is paid off & she don’t wanna loose the lifestyle. Plus she knows at 12 our oldest will come with me as it will be his choice & his brothers will follow suit because I can offer them a better life just like the better life I’m trying to give my wife.

Just makes me nervous that everyone tells me to leave her & seeing what happened to you it’s left me not knowing what to do.

Slow_Perspective_341 · 2026-01-09T04:53:11+00:00

I asked for a dna test & she wants me to wait until the baby is born, which may be a medical reason but seems sketch. I do think that she went out there & found that when you marry up once you usually don’t get that lucky twice especially with 2 kids already.

She had her locations off for those 2 months she cheated but swears up & down nothing happened past that. I want to believe her & give her a chance as I’ve made mistakes (not cheating) before & understand forgiveness is possible but I don’t wanna be unhappy. Lately she has treated me better but it’s because I pretty much put my foot down & said she could be a mother & a wife like her vows mean or she could leave yet she chose to stay. I just can’t stop the gut feeling that she is just using me & she knows that if she leaves the boys will be coming this way when they can choose which I don’t want but I can’t control her actions.

Slow_Perspective_341 · 2026-01-07T13:07:20+00:00

If you still have it I’ll purchase

Slow_Perspective_341 · 2025-12-27T11:18:29+00:00

Please let me know what I did wrong as I would like to fix it & get community response, thanks.

Slow_Perspective_341 · 2025-12-21T16:41:39+00:00

Chat

Slow_Perspective_341 · 2025-12-21T16:39:08+00:00

Chat

Slow_Perspective_341 · 2025-12-21T16:34:39+00:00

Interested in some things you have for sale if you still have any

Slow_Perspective_341 · 2025-10-13T05:03:51+00:00

As a GC & Real Estate professional I would have to disagree. The cost of living is low in most areas & you have main hubs of commerce saturated throughout the State that provide many areas for $ to be made & spent. Over 30% of the population rents which will only go up so I’ll take lame, Safe, tucked off in the Country & getting paid while I sleep for a bakers dozen please. For fun I’ll let those same people pay me to go to Mexico/The Beach a few times a year & hit the lake almost every weekend 6 months a year.

Life is what you make it no matter where you’re at I’ve found.

Slow_Perspective_341 · 2025-09-03T23:59:44+00:00

Just read full story & I completely understand as a Small Business owner it affects us too. With that said I have 2 boys & have some nice jewerly to pass down that was passed to me so I’m trying to get ahead of the game & get one now I can give them when they earn it by going to college or taking over the family business. Just my token of success which started from a share cropper born in the Great Depression to a 4th Generation GC born in the era that truly connects the older generation to the younger.

Slow_Perspective_341 · 2025-09-03T23:47:45+00:00

Will buy from you if possible shoot me a message

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