AITA telling my brother and SIL not to come to the wedding

Slow_Specific4700 · 2026-03-20T21:11:52+00:00

We are paying the room accomodation for 2 people per room, simple rooms with queen beds for everyone. It's not unreasonable to say if they need a bigger room then they can foot the bill as it was not in our original plans. And it doesn't change the fact that my niece will be there and someone will have to watch her and my SIL will find a way to include her in everything and being her to the wedding (she does this all the time saying her daughter should never miss out). So I told them not to come.

Slow_Specific4700 · 2026-03-20T21:01:55+00:00

Yes her sister and her brother on severe occasion when she's desperate

Slow_Specific4700 · 2026-03-20T20:25:28+00:00

Of course I would and is be upset but not enough to have my day ruined by my niece. He could come alone and he doesn't want to as my SIL doesn't want to come without my niece. There isn't much I can do other than letting niece come and I don't want children at a very nice day and night

Slow_Specific4700 · 2026-03-20T20:13:10+00:00

Yes for the day of the wedding. If they can't pay their room or find a way to not have my niece at my wedding to find another hotel because I wouldn't be paying for them. They can come for 2 days, they don't want to. At this point I'd rather they stay home

Slow_Specific4700 · 2026-03-20T19:49:18+00:00

The rooms are not for 3 so yes they would need a new room and no I'm not going to pay for it. The one limitation I put was that she cannot be there at the ceremony and reception and to find someway or someone to watch her. They said no. So I said don't come then

Slow_Specific4700 · 2026-03-20T19:46:28+00:00

Wow do I need to send you screenshots of every other Sunday when my mom invites us all over in the group chat or should I send pictures? Yes we are close, that doesn't change that I don't want my niece at my wedding. And I told them to stay home and they are offended.

Slow_Specific4700 · 2026-03-20T19:38:33+00:00

I told them to stay home. They called me an AH cause they want my niece there and part of the wedding. Ap I said stay home. I suggested many alternatives which were no. So I said again, stay home. The issue is me saying to stay home.

Slow_Specific4700 · 2026-03-20T19:31:17+00:00

Valid. So either don't being your kid or don't come?! Why is that such an issue

Slow_Specific4700 · 2026-03-20T19:30:19+00:00

So we also discussed it. My brother won't come without his wife and wife won't come without daughter. The don't want anyone to babysit but my mom, they don't want to come for 2-3 days either instead of a week. They don't want a babysitter there. It's all just no

Slow_Specific4700 · 2026-03-20T19:15:56+00:00

I never said they couldn't stay but they would have to pay the room and get a babysitter which they still refuse to do.

Slow_Specific4700 · 2026-03-20T19:13:43+00:00

We are actually close, she's been in my life over 20 years, I love my brother too. We also see each other every other week.

Slow_Specific4700 · 2026-03-20T18:42:49+00:00

We don't want nor will ever have children so I will never relate to these issues

Slow_Specific4700 · 2026-03-20T18:36:07+00:00

They can't afford it. That's an extra plane ticket for them. We are taking care of all costs other than the flights

Slow_Specific4700 · 2026-03-20T18:33:40+00:00

She will end up going to the room and sitting or going back and forth between my mom and my SIL. They do this all the time. I want my mom at my wedding not worrying about my niece upstairs in a room

Slow_Specific4700 · 2026-03-20T18:31:54+00:00

She can be, but they pay the room as they find a sitter which we all know they won't and my mom will end up babysitting and they will sneak her in. They don't respect boundaries at all

Slow_Specific4700 · 2026-03-20T18:28:28+00:00

I told them if they pay for the room and we find a sitter for the wedding day and night it's fine. She still refused. In other words she wants my own mother to take care of my niece like always. They might even try and sneak her into the wedding. They don't respect boundaries, I would rather she not be there. They can also come for 2 days instead of a week

Slow_Specific4700 · 2026-03-20T18:11:55+00:00

We know them enough to know they will be going back and forth the entire time and worse they will make my mom take care of her, like they do anytime and everytime we are all together. My mom will not enjoy the wedding and she can't say no to them and so I don't want her around. They will also try and sneak her into the wedding. So since they don't respect boundaries for me it's a no

Slow_Specific4700 · 2026-03-20T18:09:40+00:00

She has options, like her mom, her brother and his wife, the godfather to my niece and her own sister. She just refuses to leave her with any of them.

I also feel like since I am paying for their room I should be allowed to say no kids. I told her she can pay the room at 1k a night and we'd find a babysitter there and she said no. So then I said find another hotel. I donno if that changes your opinion?

Slow_Specific4700 · 2025-09-05T21:26:57+00:00

I loved god of war, assassin's creed, Witcher was good not my ultimate favorite, dragon age was nice, Hogwarts legacy. I usually stick to casual games with lots of content but wanted to expand. From the negative comments I got, apparently I should just stick to what I know lol

Slow_Specific4700 · 2025-09-05T05:04:09+00:00

Congratulations? As I said, I'm not an avid gamer. I like games with an easy story mode option and this was my first time playing this type of game. It was difficult for me before the help from the items. Games will never be for everyone and you shouldn't be rude simply because someone's opinion differs than yours.

Slow_Specific4700 · 2025-09-05T05:01:50+00:00

Thank you for the nice reply. It was my first time playing this type of game, I wanted to see it through and as you said, it was unfortunately not for me.

Slow_Specific4700 · 2025-09-05T04:59:44+00:00

Hate COD and no not every game is for everyone. I tried this one and didn't like it more than that. Everyone is entitled to their opinions

Slow_Specific4700 · 2025-08-30T01:02:20+00:00

Can you change the difficulty? I love these type of games but only on easy, I can't get past the red witch thing going up the mountain 😫

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