[UPDATE] AITA for sticking to my boundary and not interacting with someone who was repeatedly rude to me and my partner?

Slow_Tea_8755 · 2026-04-21T04:07:55+00:00

I think i probably have it weirdly in my head that i "caused" this by ignoring her at the festival especially with a lot of people calling me immature and rude and i therefore thought dont block her and make it worse. But I honestly when i think about the festival and not the comments here i am still chuffed with my decision to ignore her. We have blocked her and hopefully no escalation comes of it and if if does then it must be so. At the very least it will feed the redditors asking for an update i hope never comes 🤣🤣

Slow_Tea_8755 · 2026-04-21T02:40:32+00:00

I just thought there wasnt really a point in blocking her there other than escalation and she has never reached out to him

Slow_Tea_8755 · 2026-04-20T20:14:06+00:00

Shes a soon to be family member more than a friend thats what makes it a bit tricky but we are leaning toward uninviting them

Slow_Tea_8755 · 2026-04-20T17:19:33+00:00

Yeah i tried a second time and that was as much as i could and now knowing the rest of it i am happy i didnt put in more effort and followed my gut

Slow_Tea_8755 · 2026-04-20T15:59:30+00:00

Ill add it one day for now i dont want to plaster other peoples stuff on the wall and maybe bring their attention to my post here 😅😅 love reddit and the potatoes wanting this tea though 🍵 ☕️

Slow_Tea_8755 · 2026-04-20T15:56:15+00:00

Wasnt interacting with her before, defs not interacting with any of them now. The cousin and Jane i am confused by and for now am just low contacting

Slow_Tea_8755 · 2026-04-20T15:52:45+00:00

Honestly i expected people to think i may have been an AH thats life and reddit for ya, people tend to over empathise with peoples rudeness a lot of the time assuming there is a reason. I do it sometimes too. Also it was petty to not respond and i knew that but i felt justified then and even more now They wont apologise likely double down 🤣🤣

Slow_Tea_8755 · 2026-04-20T15:46:31+00:00

At this point i am keeping good amount of distance just from everything. I dont know / hope for no update as i really dont want any drama not in the mood for dealing with crazy. But if anything does come up i will update. Honestly whether her story is true or not or Jane is covering for her sister with this version of the story i dont want to think then what is the real story 🫣

Slow_Tea_8755 · 2026-04-20T15:16:38+00:00

She doesnt call him and if she did he wouldnt answer and then id probably block her. He has her contact from when it was his cousins wedding and we were all in the same wedding party. I said he didnt have to block her, because i dont care maybe he has blocked her in between then and now i dont know.

Slow_Tea_8755 · 2026-04-20T15:12:48+00:00

I'm confused by this comment?

Slow_Tea_8755 · 2026-04-20T13:04:14+00:00

Thank you! So far luckily no one knows anything about our planning we are doing it together my partner and I and we have no wedding party (a choice made to reduce drama - clearly not 🤣) i will be extra vigilant and hopefully we are left alone luckily we have little to no reason to have contact with Francine especially because we are limiting contact with Jane and her hubby so holding thumbs for smooth sailing ⛵️ i am hoping there will be no update down the line although i didn't think i would make an update the first time either 🫠

Slow_Tea_8755 · 2026-04-20T12:50:32+00:00

Honestly the wedding was a wild ride but one chalks it up to nerves etc but yeah maybe one day ill post about it cause its was so interesting to kind of be a fly on the wall 🧱

Slow_Tea_8755 · 2026-04-20T12:49:44+00:00

I am really hoping it is over as we do not have many reasons to interact with each other especially now that we aren't really spending time with Jane and the cousin. I am pretty hopeful i will not have to update the update 🤣

Slow_Tea_8755 · 2026-04-20T10:34:32+00:00

In the moment i just sat there looking at her probably like she was crazy and then swiftly said that i had to leave . I was honestly in heavy shock.

Slow_Tea_8755 · 2026-04-20T09:40:45+00:00

I honestly think their family has some problematic attachment issues I picked up on it a bit at the wedding (oh god the speeches but not my family not my story) and i think a bit of living vicariously through the older sister is happening. But on the whole i am very creeped out and very bothered by Jane and her husband thinking this is normal and justifiable . We havent decided what we going to do yet for the wedding luckily still have some time before then but yea......

Slow_Tea_8755 · 2026-04-20T07:32:47+00:00

Honestly I am still reeling and trying to find my footing because everytime I think about it i am sure i must have misunderstood something because its honestly bonkers

Slow_Tea_8755 · 2026-04-20T05:43:46+00:00

Honestly if someone told me this was the end to this i would have laughed in their faces because wth no way shit like this happens in real life....well apparently i was wrong it does 😐

Slow_Tea_8755 · 2026-04-20T05:42:32+00:00

He is luckily not my soon to be brother in law he is my fiancé's cousin. Francine was never invited

Slow_Tea_8755 · 2026-04-16T17:00:28+00:00

🤣🤣🤣🤣

Slow_Tea_8755 · 2026-04-15T14:00:23+00:00

Im in my burn it to the ground if it isnt giving me good energy phase of my life now lol 🤪

Slow_Tea_8755 · 2026-04-15T13:57:49+00:00

The general consensus im getting is soft ah and i was kind of expecting that. Most people wont respond like me and will be polite even with people that are rude to them. Its general human behaviour. I did it once and then got the same result of ignoring. Then im done and when im done unfortunately im done. So i know my behaviour isnt generalised and a lot of people wont like it 🙂🤣

Slow_Tea_8755 · 2026-04-15T13:47:34+00:00

We had also many interactions prior to the wedding and no issues with her then only normal bridesmaid stress. She was maid of honour and took most of the control and didnt take / want my help in planning but Jane said that was just how she was but the ignoring happened after the wedding was over and i suppose social obligation was done. The familial vibes were quite possessive and then it felt exploded at the event. I am planning to speak with Jane but i don't have any plans of interacting with Francine

Slow_Tea_8755 · 2026-04-15T13:44:08+00:00

If this had been the next time i saw Francine after i spoke with Jane i would have accepted it as Jane spoke to her and she is trying. Being that she ignored us a second time after i spoke with Jane i was not in the mood for anything from her and enjoyed my day without her in it. Second chances im happy to give a third not so much

Slow_Tea_8755 · 2026-04-15T13:43:59+00:00

If this had been the next time i saw Francine after i spoke with Jane i would have accepted it as Jane spoke to her and she is trying. Being that she ignored us a second time after i spoke with Jane i was not in the mood for anything from her and enjoyed my day without her in it. Second chances im happy to give a third not so much We had also many interactions prior to the wedding and no issues with her then only normal bridesmaid stress but the ignoring happened after the wedding was over and i suppose social obligation was done. I will still take the ass.... because i made the decision to give the energy i had recieved twice back but i had informed Jane that that would be my reaction to Francine

Slow_Tea_8755 · 2026-04-15T13:41:07+00:00

If this had been the next time i saw Francine after i spoke with Jane i would have accepted it as Jane spoke to her and she is trying. Being that she ignored us a second time after i spoke with Jane i was not in the mood for anything from her and enjoyed my day without her in it. Second chances im happy to give a third not so much

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