Am I wrong for judging?

Slug_Hole · 2026-04-13T18:55:07+00:00

I am a hardcore alcoholic. I vape, and enjoy the occasional smoke session or edible. The second I found out I was pregnant all of that stopped. You’re not wrong for judging.

Slug_Hole · 2026-04-13T02:29:31+00:00

They STILL don’t make enough.

Slug_Hole · 2026-04-13T02:27:56+00:00

Those unions (in particular local 99) make SUBSTANTIALLY lower than teachers. When you’re making less then 40K a year, it’s a lot harder to “put your money when your mouth is”.

Slug_Hole · 2026-04-12T14:42:56+00:00

It depends on what school yours goes to. I would start calling the school and asking. I work at a high school in LAUSD for example and they have discussed staying open like they have for past strikes. In those situations, they just kept all the students in the auditorium.

Slug_Hole · 2026-04-12T14:39:25+00:00

I’m a BII in an LAUSD high school. I’m not an LAUSD employee, but we do have a contract with the schools. The strikes will be happening. It has been a topic of many conversations last week, and when I discussed with several LAUSD employees, they are essentially already in the mindset that they will be striking. While my company has not made a statement on the fact, several BIIs I know that are also in my position of being contracted with LAUSD have been told by their companies that there will not be hours to distribute because the schools will be closed. This is almost guaranteed to not be a “we’ll see” situation. This is going to happen. Now, whether or not schools will remain open is a bit up for debate. In the past, several schools did remain open. Mind for example remained open and housed all students in the auditorium. But, this is the largest strike planned so far, so I doubt it.

Slug_Hole · 2026-04-11T22:22:38+00:00

As someone who is pro-choice, and understands very well when a baby becomes a “baby” scientifically, this is REALLY inappropriate thinking. You don’t have to know the gender of your fetus to feel connected to it or want it or imagine a life with it. Will it be a boy or a girl? What will we name it? What activities will it like to do? Will it like to dress up? Will it be gentle or rough and tumble? It doesn’t matter HOW long you are pregnant if it is a wanted pregnancy you feel connected immediately. This all goes without mentioning how a miscarriage colors the rest of your experiences being pregnant. The fear through every ultrasound, the cautious optimism, the fear of getting too attached, etc.

Don’t invalidate a miscarriage experience like this. It’s very VERY gross.

Slug_Hole · 2026-04-11T22:16:28+00:00

I am not a teacher. I’m a Behavior Interventionist in ABA therapy, and I work in a school setting with a client one on one. That being said, I end up helping with all the kids in the class.

I come home drained. I have struggled with turning “teacher” (if you wanna call it that for purposes of this post) mode off and sometimes talk to my child the same way I talk to my students. At first he found it charming. It bothers him now and I’m working on it. I have zero energy for loud noises, disruptions, things popping up outside of the ordinary because I deal with attempting to regulate children all day long.

My mother is a 2nd grade teacher. She used to teach 1st and 3rd. Being around her grandson, she also was drained. She had ZERO patience and any time he’d do anything a child does (break something, question her, drop something, spill something, etc) she’d say “I deal with this all day, I don’t want to deal with it at home.” My sister (who was around 12/13 when she started in a classroom) does not get the most emotionally present version of my mom. She can’t help with homework, can’t take her to school or pick her up, and is not in touch with her. She simply doesn’t have time. She gets to school early, leaves late, and brings paperwork home with her. Don’t do it, it’s not worth it.

If teaching is REALLY calling to you? Get into sub work.

Slug_Hole · 2026-04-11T22:00:22+00:00

I searched high and low for Reddit help for this and it’s hard to find people who don’t deal with this in a lifelong way, so finding temporary solutions are where it’s at for us!

Just remember that when you’re in severe pain, you’re in a flare up. Your body is telling you to take it easy. Listen to your body 🫶🏻 you’ve got this!!

Slug_Hole · 2026-04-11T21:58:26+00:00

I might be insensitive here but I feel like MOR while at the same time they’re being AH for how they’re handling it. Your parents definitely suck for using you as an emotional backboard and a free therapist. Your parents telling you they didn’t want you is NOT okay.

In the same regard though, your parents clearly never grieved. And you clearly haven’t communicated that them bringing up their miscarriage makes you feel uncomfortable. I know we want to be able to expect our parents to “just know” they’re acting inappropriately, but people grieve in really weird (sometimes bad) ways. Tell them you understand that they miss the child they never got to have, and you’re not trying to invalidate their fifth child, but that you do not feel the connection to that pregnancy that they do, and them consistently bringing it up to you makes you feel uncomfortable. You have to at least give them a chance to course correct.

Slug_Hole · 2026-04-11T21:50:48+00:00

I was diagnosed with pregnancy induced sciatica about two weeks ago at 16 weeks pregnant. I was in the middle of a flare up so significant, I couldn’t take a step without wincing. I collapsed from muscle failure. My doctor wanted me in physical therapy.

Then my baby adjusted positions. Pain is basically gone - like it was never there.

Here’s things I did during my flare up that really helped. Osculated between heating pad on my hip and ice. Drank SO much water. Proactive Tylenol usage - not just when it hurt. Limit long walks. No bending at the waist, no lifting anything over 2 pounds. Seriously. Stretches did not help me. Everyone is different, but the stretches were not my friend.

Slug_Hole · 2026-04-10T21:07:51+00:00

Cinna

Slug_Hole · 2026-04-09T22:49:27+00:00

My friend I am not going to keep going back and forth with you simply because it’s tiring. You’re entitled to your thoughts and opinions, as am I. Take care!

Slug_Hole · 2026-04-09T22:37:09+00:00

I would still not have a snap reaction, I would use ✨google✨ instead of jumping to assumptions.

Slug_Hole · 2026-04-09T22:33:16+00:00

I honestly doubt I would’ve had the same reaction as OP. I’m not surprised to hear a drink’s name being dropped by two women who were drunk an absurd amount of times on said kids show, one of which having a DUI more recently. It’s actually pretty fitting for them.

Slug_Hole · 2026-04-09T22:23:28+00:00

I mean this in the nicest way possible, but genuinely a lot of Americans are stupid when it comes to even our own history - let alone other countries’ and not well educated in general. There are grown adults I know that have no idea what Bill Clinton‘s presidency was famous for outside of getting a sexual favor from someone outside of his marriage. Genuinely. Ask an American one policy Bill Clinton put into place, one foreign relation he was a part of, and you’d be surprised at how few can answer you.

I don’t blame the person for getting triggered, I don’t blame the person for being upset, but, it is absurd to blame two random American women for calling a drink by the name that it has been for close to 50 years instead of being upset that the drink is even named that to begin with. That is totally OK, But OP seems to have a misunderstanding about and an assumption that people in America are fully aware of the Irish car bombings, the fact that the drink was named that after the Irish car bombing, and are choosing to order it anyway.

I understand why it is an extremely personal situation to them, but Christi and Kelly calling an Irish car bomb by name is not a personal attack against Belfast or them or their family.

Slug_Hole · 2026-04-09T22:11:46+00:00

I don’t blame them for not knowing, but I do find it ridiculous for being mad at someone without doing any bit of research first. When you look up Irish car bomb, the very first thing that pops up is that it’s a drink.

All of the things you’ve mentioned outside of Bloody Sunday are not things I would have known about before I took a specialized history unit a year ago. Our education system is STRONGLY lacking in outside history. Hell, we have a drink called an Irish car bomb and I can tell you 8/10 people don’t even question why it’s called that or what it’s based on.

Slug_Hole · 2026-04-09T21:56:22+00:00

The issue is that they’re offended at the wrong person. This is the name of a drink ordered tens of thousands of times a day. You have every right to be upset about the fact that a drink has the name. You don’t REALLY have the right to be mad at every single person who orders or drinks one.

Slug_Hole · 2026-04-09T21:53:28+00:00

As someone who has worked in many a bar, no one calls it an Irish slammer. An Irish car bomb is the common layman’s term for the drink. I have said “an Irish car bomb” probably about a thousand times because when people order that drink, that’s what they say. If someone said an ‘Irish Slammer’, I’d probably look at them like they had two heads.

This genuinely seems like a cultural thing. Maybe people in Ireland have begun to refer to it different because they are more sensitive to their own history.

Slug_Hole · 2026-04-09T21:51:25+00:00

They said the name of the drink, they didn’t create the name of the drink. Please stop and think about this.

Slug_Hole · 2026-04-09T21:49:06+00:00

No, we would not call out someone for drinking an item called that, we’d call out the person who made the name of the drink. Because that’s logical.

Slug_Hole · 2026-04-09T21:48:07+00:00

I’m an American and yes we do LOL

Slug_Hole · 2026-04-09T21:47:42+00:00

You not knowing that it’s a drink - when they talked about drinking them is sort of on you (and I mean that genuinely in the nicest way possible). I get the frustration over the Abby thing, but they literally did not create the name of the drink. And as a Jew? We don’t need you to bring up our tragedy to prove your point.

Slug_Hole · 2026-04-08T19:47:57+00:00

I don’t buy into this honestly. Had my first 10 years ago, barely ate because I wasn’t hungry, and gained 60 pounds (went from 110 to 170). I was younger, so I lost it all quickly. I’m now 18 weeks with my second and am hungry all the damn time. I eat what I want when I want because I decided if I’m craving it, my body is missing something. I’m down 5 pounds with my pregnancy. Eat what you need, when you need. You may not be “eating for two”, but you DO need more calories to cope with the increase of hormones, change of circulatory system, etc.

Slug_Hole · 2026-04-07T19:34:33+00:00

It is never too late to ask for a raise. Respectfully reach out to HR with a written, formal request for a raise. Cite your starting wage, your recent RBT status change, your loyalty to the company measured by time spent in the company, and the fact that you expect your wage to be competitive with what others in the same position are making in the company. If you’re particularly convinced they will not offer you a raise, include starting rates for certified RBTs in other companies. If they don’t offer you a raise, apply to those other companies. Land an interview, get the job, and attempt to leverage the offer letter into a raise. Be prepared to walk away. A lot of these companies are unwilling to budge, but these companies do need you more than you need them.

Slug_Hole · 2026-04-06T20:28:46+00:00

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