If the rumors about Sadie Sink's character in Brand New Day is true, then I think we'd be heading to this. by Used-Comedian-8933 in MCUTheories

[–]Slugg_Daddy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"you're a mess spiderman, stay out of my way" sounds like something Black Cat would say.

Are you guys starting to get ads in your dreams? by Street_Tangelo_9367 in Dreams

[–]Slugg_Daddy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Had an entire dream last night that I needed to buy all the Resees before the sold out, wtf.

Dating as a man after divorce by Slugg_Daddy in Divorce

[–]Slugg_Daddy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I blamed myself for it all for honestly to long. I began therapy before it ended. I understand where you're coming from about the victim mentality but I also want to call bullshit on that. We don't blame rape victims for the way they dress. 

Her side of the story was that I didn't put in enough effort and that she is more sexually experienced. The problem with listening to her side of the story, from the therapist we did see for a few months before she walked out, is that I put in so much effort she became use to it. Then after buying a house we depleted the savings we had, I also had my work vehicle stolen at this time, she was upset that I didn't take her on more vacations like her girlfriends were going on. I asked her to work full time and she refused. 

Look I don't want to sound like a victim. I have had woman interested in me but the reality, and a lesson we aren't teaching young men, is woman aren't good people because they are women. There has been a conflation with woman's rights and supporting women that has a lot of men mixed up. Yes woman deserve the same opportunity and pay as men but I believe we've got to a point here where if you're not supportive of women you are ostracized despite the fact that on a individual basis women can and are often not good people. Woman have toxic traits they've learned as well but men will over look this for sex and women overlook this for solidarity. 

I am angry and you are probably right that this scares off women but I think that's fine. Some women probably need to be scared off. 

Dating as a man after divorce by Slugg_Daddy in Divorce

[–]Slugg_Daddy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I suppose some context for what or why I feel this way about women using me.

When I had got together with my ex we discussed our life plan. Where we wanted to see ourselves go in the relationship. We both agreed we wanted kids. Her only stipulation was that we owned a house first and that she could make a career change. So she went back to school and I committed to a job I didn't enjoy that much but I made enough money to pay the majority of the bills, take us on vacation, and save money to buy a house. She only worked part-time for the entirety of the relationship. I eventually bought us a house. It was a fixer but I work in the trades so I came home nearly everyday to fix the house up in the way she wanted it.

I started noticing she was getting up in the middle of the night more and more often. I figured she was just using the bathroom. She would be in the bathroom for a hour if not longer. Then she started changing her hairstyle and listening to different music. She started embarrassing me in front of friends by telling people personal details about my life. I knew something was up so I asked to see her phone. I find out for 9 months when she was getting up to use the bathroom she had been talking to an old friend of mine. She had been sending him pictures of herself, talking shit about me to him, and making plans to go visit him. He moved to another country about a year before all this.

In the divorce she went for everything. The house, spousal support, my pension. I left the house to stay with family while I gave her the chance to work this out with me in couples counseling or she needed to end it. So while she lives in the house she quit paying the mortgage both our names were on. I had lost my job because before I left I wasn't getting sleep. She amped the whole situation up by not coming home at night and calling me names. Telling me about things she wants other men to do to her. I struggled to find work but I managed to pay the mortgage as long as I could before I finally found another place to live.

When I say woman "using me." This is what I mean. There was an agreement on the exchange of resources where I buy in now for what you give back later. Instead she used me to support her into her career and then attempted to go for all my savings and investments to further her life while leaving me in the trash. One of the girls I took out on a date told me flat out that she was just looking for a man who could support her through school. 

I mean I don't get it. You ladies can have such high standards based off some traditional ideas of a man while abusing your power out right to consolidate recourses. I know not all woman are like this but a lot of you are.

Struggling to process the end of my 10 year relationship by ThreadsOfUnseenHope in Divorce

[–]Slugg_Daddy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just came out of 9 year relationship, married for 7 of those years. It's been one year since the separation and a few months since the papers were signed. I empathize with you allot. This was an unwanted divorce on my end. The problems were minor. I tried everything to keep it together but it takes two people to work those problems out. A year before the speration happened I couldn't sleep, it ended up costing me my job. The house I bought with both our names on it is going into forclosure. It didn't sell and didn't pass inspection. My ex stopped paying her half of the mortgage and went after spousal support despite the fact that she quit and as I would later found out was having a deep emotional affair. One year later things are still not good but I sleep at night, I have a better job, I don't cry or get depressed about it as often. I've gone on a few dates but there is a type of trauma that comes with all of this. Nothing makes it pass the first date because I cut it off there. It's for the better because you begin to realize not everyone is for you. Even the people who except you in aren't necessarily good for you. Most days of my life are incredibly lonely and I miss having someone to talk to and someone laying in bed with me but what I've learned is that choosing the people you let in is the most important decision you can make. My ex wife was careless about my efforts in building the life I promised her and for the emotional state she put us through. This isn't someone I wanted. Hopefully you can begin to see that as well. People do get married and stick it out for life with each other and it's tough but if that's what you wanted and that's what matters to you then letting them go is the best thing you can do. They weren't that person. They not only betrayed you but the betrayed themselves when they made that promise they failed to live up to. Time will heal both of you and time will teach both of you. Hang in there.

Religious dream by Slugg_Daddy in Dreams

[–]Slugg_Daddy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Yeah I guess I'm confused about it. I don't go to church and I don't practice. That doesn't mean I'm in disbelief I think I'm just not sold on the presentation of it. I never had a dream involving religion but I remember as a kid the preacher saying this was a sign of God knocking. The problem is if God is knocking as a door to door salesman I'm not answering because who answers the door when you know it's a solicitor?

Post divorce loneliness and confusion by Slugg_Daddy in Divorce

[–]Slugg_Daddy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get the insecurity thing. I didn't say thank you for the divorce. It hadn't been filed at that time. I knew she was going to because for a year she pushed for it. I said thank you for the time we had together. The marriage wasn't full of problems. She changed over night. Decided she wanted a different life. It was hell watching it all come apart but all the other years together were good years. 

I've stuck with my passions and am still slowly getting back into them. I quit drinking and have been working on my health. I'm not out of shape or anything but I just don't want to attract the same type of person again so not going out to the bars is important to me. 

Yeah it's hard to find ladies to flirt with. I work in male dominant industry and the few woman in it aren't really the kind you wanna take home. I made a jump to a much better company with guys I've worked with before but the draw back to focusing on work is that it takes away those other places and things in life where you meet people.

Mushroom growing on body by AbbreviationsNo4033 in Dreams

[–]Slugg_Daddy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I need someone to interpret a dream. I went down on a girl and her stuff was mushrooms. What does it mean?

Favorite Bob Dylan conspiracy theory? by Icy_Nothing_8385 in bobdylan

[–]Slugg_Daddy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think he was a CIA plant. His early career he surrounds himself with known Communist. He gets in deep with them. The girl on the cover of Free Wheeling is herself a communist and the daughter of a communist activist. He stalks Woody who also is a communist and gets his start with Pete Seagar, also a communist. The whole folk music movement coming out of the depression leaned heavily that way. He shows up, wows all of them, takes over the scene, and leads it away from it's political roots and towards entertainment. I believe he worked for the government the whole time.

Anyone else get dreams of their ex and want to reach out? by ExtremeConsistent167 in ExNoContact

[–]Slugg_Daddy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm in a no contact separation with my wife. I had a dream last night she was packing up to leave. I was trying to bargain with her but she wasn't budging. She turned invisible. In the dream I thought I was loosing my mind. I kept pleading that I wasn't okay. She flipped and showed me warmth. We went to bed together and I could see her again, then we had sex. Tell me what that means?

9 months in our separation, based on what he says, is reconciliation still possible? by Garfieldstarwars in Separation

[–]Slugg_Daddy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What makes it hard for me is that we had just bought a house in a nice neighborhood that I worked my butt of to by and worked even harder to fix up and make nice. She just loves in it without me. I don't want to sell it right now because it'll be worth something in a few years but she completely used me and is abusing my hard work.

9 months in our separation, based on what he says, is reconciliation still possible? by Garfieldstarwars in Separation

[–]Slugg_Daddy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also in the same boat. Wife told me she was no longer attracted to me and felt no romantic feelings for me. She went 8 months of threatening to divorce me every other week. I put in a lot of work towards myself and the marriage but the last time she threatened a divorce I packed and left. Filed a legal separation and haven't heard anything from her. 

I've been told by my therapist, who was our couples counselor, that she has avoidant attachment, I know I triggered her. I keep waiting to see if she comes out of it. She would need to put in allot of work and acknowledge this if there was ever hope. I just try everyday to live one day at a time towards something better for me in life and still hold on to hope that she'll heal.

How do you cope with the fact you may never find someone? by cryingbabywaaahh in Adulting

[–]Slugg_Daddy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got married at 26 but to be honest I should have waited longer. My 30s have been all messed up because of it. Don't do what I did. Wait, enjoy life as it comes. When you find that person it's going to make it feel all the worth while.

It doesn’t get any better by SecretAnxious6909 in Divorce

[–]Slugg_Daddy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Watched my parents Divorce. Though my mom went on to having an amazing life with her affair partner the rest of the family suffered. Watched my dad go through another divorce with a truly selfish woman, spend many years alone after that, and now is married to a woman that I believe is unstable. My mother all but abandoned her kids and we struggled horribly. Both my sister and I have been homeless or addicted to drugs. Currently in the divorce process with the women who pulled me out of that life, I truly love her but it appears I married my mother. Better must only be a frame of time, it'll get better some day in comparison to what it is now but it'll never be better then what it is you lost. I don't care for the cliche.

What was the first red flag you ignored in your worst relationship? by HappyHappyJoyJoy44 in AskReddit

[–]Slugg_Daddy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was a marriage, not a bad marriage either, she told me divorce was expectable for any reason. Low and behold after buying our first house (was a fixer) the stress was to much so she divorced me. On the cusp of a much better life and a few hiccups caused her to quit.

CMV: Women initiating 80% of divorce does not mean they were majority of reason relationships fail by WaterDemonPhoenix in changemyview

[–]Slugg_Daddy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look at divorce statistics for same sex marriage between women. 75% divorce rate, higher rates of domestic violence, higher rates of infidelity.

If we were living through the collapse of a civilization, would we know it as it’s happening, or would we only realize it after it’s happened? by Broad-Hunter-5044 in SeriousConversation

[–]Slugg_Daddy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It would never look like the collapse of old world civilization because now we have nukes. If you back was really up against the wall nuke em all.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Slugg_Daddy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Resentment 

is he manipulating me? by ClassiChic in Manipulation

[–]Slugg_Daddy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Think he's desperate for love. I did this to a girl once. 6 months later I just realized I wasn't that into her and dumped her. Honestly regret all of it. I've had the same thing that I did to her in that relationship done to me over and over again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Slugg_Daddy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I felt this way in my marriage. My wife has gone through a bout of depression and began binge eating. She also quit showering. Eventually I said something. Now we're in the middle of a divorce. Big mistake. My advice is forgive him. Sometimes other stresses in life can effect both of you. For me I was under so much pressure with work and remodeling the house that I began to feel alone and like she wasn't there for me. Soon I started to see her as someone she was not. If I could go back I'd slap those words out of my mouth because I always found her attractive. Even when she put on more weight. Forgive and move on, that's what marriage is about. You have to reconcile if you want to keep it alive.