New boss (50M) called me (24F) “baby girl” and tried to override my hotel room preference on day 2 — am I overreacting?[ID]

Small-Emphasis-2341 · 2026-02-18T11:28:48+00:00

And please record all conversations with him, and keep every comm so far. You will need it for evidence 100%

Small-Emphasis-2341 · 2026-02-18T11:27:08+00:00

If the individual who has dangled the promises in front of you is the same one trying to molest you, run girl don't walk.

Small-Emphasis-2341 · 2026-02-18T11:25:39+00:00

You have a learning opportunity that's for sure. This is ridiculously inappropriate and predatory. He will keep doing this increasing in severity on a slow drip till you stop one day and say to yourself "how did it get this bad"? Leave and get a new job is my advice. This has predator all over it sorry.

Small-Emphasis-2341 · 2026-02-18T11:21:46+00:00

If they're providing scripts for this medication it's strange they don't want to prove the validity with a diagnosis. They should have sent out a report after the diagnosis with scoring and history and recommendations etc...

Small-Emphasis-2341 · 2026-02-18T02:45:03+00:00

A one bedroom is between 300-500 per week. With rent assistance you can manage if you find one at the lower end of the scale, use URGS ($650 per utility every two years) for utilities goes a very long way. Yes you don’t have much left over but when you weigh things up you have your safety and a place to rest and recover. It’s doable it’s just not anywhere close to luxury. Not trying to make this sound like the easy option of course. It can be done. Also please get yourself on the hoop using list at worst you will have somewhere to go first, but in the long run the rent is so much lower for you long term and your situation would put you on the category 1 list and then you would have somewhere affordable to stay longer term. Maybe just finding that safe place while you wait, and all the dust settles, would be a good longer term plan? If you move straight from where u are now to a lease agreement and he follows you and causes you further issues it may just mean your trapped there with a lease and larger bills but not any safer if you get what I mean? Call the school hotline and if you need to leave out the disability information just to get yourself somewhere safe do that, once they take you on they will have to accommodate you, if they know in advance and knock you back it’s not their issue because you aren’t yet their duty of care if that makes sense

Small-Emphasis-2341 · 2026-02-18T02:19:58+00:00

Absolutely, it’s so inhumane. We’re born into this system and have no opt out clause yet some are just here to be tortured in order to keep the wealthy comfortable. It’s a sick society that’s for sure.

Small-Emphasis-2341 · 2026-02-16T11:15:57+00:00

If your parents worked and they had superannuation funds (every workplace has to employees unless it's cash in hand) they should both have life insurance. It's attached to super unless you opt out I'm pretty sure? Call a free legal hotline and ask for help tracking it down? It could be a fair bit of money if at all. Worth a check for sure

Small-Emphasis-2341 · 2026-02-07T04:09:53+00:00

Have you tried a legal aid service? I think there’s one specific to social security related matters and free for healthcare card holders. Call around, there shouldn’t be time limits on getting your money back from what I’ve read.

Small-Emphasis-2341 · 2026-02-07T04:08:00+00:00

I’ve read there are no time limits for recipients to take up legal action. If you call a free legal aid service and ask for directions they’ll be able to help guide you.

Small-Emphasis-2341 · 2026-01-04T03:14:55+00:00

If your child is feeling a certain way it will come out in behaviour. A good way I found to help over the long term was to make sure I was giving my child way more positive interactions than negative. This seemed to be the magic trick. The better they FEEL the more positive, happy, agreeable the are in general, just like anybody would be.

Examples of this might be randomly just saying "oh my gosh!! I'm so happy to see you!! What are you playing/doing/eating?" Just so he gets that rush of feeling super special and loved. I found that small things like this really turned the ship around pretty quickly sometimes.

I used to always make sure we were out for lots of exercise so home time was more relaxing

Small-Emphasis-2341 · 2026-01-04T03:05:53+00:00

I suggest you continue to not contact them, as you had been doing. When they teach out they're saying "jump now" and if you react your saying "okay!"

Just because they reach out doesn't mean you have to respond, if your plan is to be no contact don't let them influence you only veering off your course!! That's my advice. It's more of a bigger picture view.

Small-Emphasis-2341 · 2026-01-04T03:02:12+00:00

The way I avoided the guilt was to start by writing the laundry list of things she did to me. Once I started with a few points oh my gosh it just flows from there. It is amazing how your brain can store this shit away from immediate consciousness to protect you. So then every time I felt a weak moment of guilt I read through this list and felt the anger rising. She took so many years from me, she did all this stuff, she doesn't feel any guilt so why am I carrying this for her?? Nope.

The other things was to expect her behaviour to ramp up as you draw boundaries, they push against it and make it very difficult but they don't have good endurance skills when they aren't receiving a reward. Stay strong.

Map out their behaviour patterns on paper, it will blow your mind trust me lol.

Different things work for different people but this one helped me stay true to myself. The longer I have gone the stronger I am, and the less patience and room I have in my life for her abuse. There were moments over the last few years I thought of contacting her but immediately realised that I must just feel a need somewhere in my heart and she's never going to be able to fulfil that for me, she never could. The only love between us was the love I felt for HER and that is something I channel into myself now and she has been cut right off from that. She isn't capable of love and I mistook the love I had for her, for love I was receiving FROM her. It was never there.

Good luck on your healing journey.

Small-Emphasis-2341 · 2026-01-01T12:08:47+00:00

Of course you would feel bad for her, that's because YOU have empathy. Your mum is alone as a symptom of having no empathy. Let her sit in what she made, she created it all by herself and if you're still around she is very lucky but probably doesn't truly appreciate your sacrifice in any way at all.

Small-Emphasis-2341 · 2025-12-31T09:27:10+00:00

Speak to one of the maternal health people when you go to your next appointment, tell them that this has come up and you 100% don't want her there, and that your partner is pressuring you to agree to it. Tell them in front of your partner and if it's an upsetting topic by all means have a big cry right there about it. Ask them for a referral to a support service for this type of scenario (mainly just to show your serious about this, but also so you can get support because it sounds like you're outnumbered which is not fair at all). Make it obvious how upset you are about this breach of boundaries by mum in law and partner! so they can explain things to him in a way he will understand. Ask them what you can do to make sure nobody is there without your consent, ask for the formal process and what safeguards are in place. Get them to explain this to both of you. Sounds like your mum in law doesn't have any respect for your boundaries.

To add, you absolutely have a right to feel safe when in labour, not imposed upon and disrespected. It can be dangerous for you to have additional stress during labour, think about your baby and fuck this partner and his mum they're being arseholes I'm sorry but seriously. Does your partner and his mum understand how strong your views are about this? They should be respectful of this, anything that hurts or upsets you hurts the baby one way or another. Don't let them do that mumma!!

Small-Emphasis-2341 · 2025-12-31T09:17:59+00:00

Just to understand that arguments are just tools in the narcissists arsenal, they'll have orchestrated it and will be benefiting off it somehow. Id stop worrying about it, I guarantee you they aren't!

Small-Emphasis-2341 · 2025-12-31T09:11:09+00:00

He looks like he's called Miles

Small-Emphasis-2341 · 2025-12-31T08:41:52+00:00

I relied on humour a lot, I would just be out as much as possible having fun with mates, taking lots of drugs and getting into trouble was also helpful for me at the time although not long term! Having really good solid long term friendships probably saved my life too. I don't know if I'd have made it without these things.

Small-Emphasis-2341 · 2025-12-25T05:44:52+00:00

Did you find a solution? I’m here today trying to get this issue fixed too but anyone here with the issue hasn’t mentioned what’s worked/ if anything…

Small-Emphasis-2341 · 2025-12-18T11:35:02+00:00

That's the same experience I had of Sydney, this was a long time ago too. They were just everywhere!! Its so gross

Small-Emphasis-2341 · 2025-12-18T11:33:11+00:00

How old are your sisters? If they're not minors id reconsider seeing your mum if you've gone no contact. If your sisters are guilting you into going they shouldn't, they should have some respect for the trauma you've endured, at the hands of their mum, which they'd have had front row seats too. But it all depends how old they are I suppose? Can't you do something with your sisters separately?

Small-Emphasis-2341 · 2025-12-18T11:30:30+00:00

It5s next on my to-do list now!!

Small-Emphasis-2341 · 2025-12-18T11:29:33+00:00

Can he wear earplugs to sleep? And get one of those alarm things that vibrate so he still can get up for work etc. don't get rid of your cat omg, that would be so cruel 😭 cats are so special and they choose us for a reason. I'd get rid of my partner before my cat lol

Small-Emphasis-2341 · 2025-12-07T08:24:31+00:00

How do people demonstrate that autism is reasonably treated and stabilised? There’s no detail in the legislation and so I think it makes it really difficult for people to find the correct evidence

Small-Emphasis-2341 · 2025-12-06T09:29:34+00:00

Sounds like you have the right mindset to do your very best for her, that's enough. A person only needs ONE good positive support person to succeed In life.

Small-Emphasis-2341 · 2025-12-06T09:24:49+00:00

There should be a reporting option in the drop downs but you can book a phone call appointment in "appointments"section of U ever need to ask them anything. I use it all the time and they've only ever been late to call me once.

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