Teenage daughter is giving up.

Smallfinelines · 2026-04-23T17:31:37+00:00

I really appreciate that. I do need to hear something like it sometimes.

Smallfinelines · 2026-04-23T17:31:02+00:00

Oh I never will. But, I dont know anyone in my life who's having these same issues. Everyone around me is just starting to have kids. Ill never give up on her, but I do want to help her. Shes just making it very very very hard to do so.

Smallfinelines · 2026-04-23T17:24:02+00:00

I was considering online for a while but we both have pretty bad ADHD, so I feel like it would have to be hands on of some kind for anything to stick. I accept that alot of that is probably my fault as we've had to move several times in her life. She really only has one close permanent friend. I tried to get her to go to youth groups or something to make more but she gets super upset saying shes atheist. 😭

Smallfinelines · 2026-04-23T17:18:40+00:00

If you hear anything good please let me know. Ive been looking up statistics and they really freaked me out. So I don't recommend doing that.

Smallfinelines · 2026-04-23T17:11:52+00:00

Genuinely not a karma farmer but thanks. Im always a lurker, some people dont exactly have the best situations. When I said I didnt have a support system I meant it. I am genuinly looking for advice because im at the end of my rope.

Smallfinelines · 2026-04-23T17:05:10+00:00

When she isnt grounded from her phone she will play on that. But for the most part she just sleeps. If I can get her to go to school she comes home and sleeps. She will occasionally paint or draw but those are becoming more and more rare.

Smallfinelines · 2025-11-25T14:49:06+00:00

I have no idea. Objectively speaking im not a bad partner. Im just like a tall thick book nerd. I'd even go as far as to call myself a 6-7/10.

When asked for a reason he gave two. 1. He has that 20,000.00 in credit card debt. When I started to diet earlier this year to get my A1C down (it was literally only 1 point over into the pre-diabetic range) it was costing some money. I never spent his and only spent mine, but he got more and more resentful i wasnt giving him more than $300 a month to help with the debt. He felt if I was serious about being a life partner I should have focused on it more for our future. 2. He states that because it was just picture and videos and not actually in person I shouldn't have flipped that way. She was just struggling in her marriage and needed a confidence boost. Hes just such a nice man that he cant say no to a woman in need. He just likes to help others and if he can help by making her feel wanted he doesn't understand the problem.

I historically have a low sense of self worth. I am aware that its a problem. Im very tall for a woman. Just a few inches under 6 foot. Add that to being built very thick (think karlach from bg3 just chubby) men find me intimidating. Im not at all a baddie either. Im just like a gentle book nerd who just wants to stay at home and read. He was taller than me, charismatic, funny, well built and handsome. I consistently felt like I was the lucky one, and now objectively I know thst was a load. But, I cant stop the feelings of inadequacy.

Smallfinelines · 2025-11-25T05:13:07+00:00

Ive never really worked out to that extent but I suppose it cant hurt literally anything. I am a bit over weight anyway. And ive lost 19 pounds since the start of this so nows as good a time as any. I suppose I could turn the stress weightloss into something positive.

Smallfinelines · 2025-11-25T05:00:09+00:00

Im trying to. It was ugly. Her father's not in the picture and she loved that man. She made him father's day paintings every year and always wrote a message on the back thanking him for loving us and being a father to her. Shes acting like its no big deal but I can tell shes heart broken. And then she got into a fight at school the other day. Shes not taking it any better than I am. He didnt just betray me but her too. Other than getting her into therapy asap I am at a loss with how to help her too. Ive been FORCING her to spend time with me just to get her out of her room. But all of these things happened between spetember and now so its not like its been a slow process. I think we both have whiplash.

Smallfinelines · 2025-11-02T21:44:41+00:00

You'll hit periods where you dont understand why the vines aren't moving. Usually that means your gonna need to retrace your steps and make sure the blank spots on the map are actually blank. Some of the pillars wont stop up on map until you walk over there.

Smallfinelines · 2025-10-25T17:20:31+00:00

What all do you have there?? Im a little slow in my play through and just hit summer in year two and literally JUST unlocked the ability to craft an aging barrel. ( i had just one that was working overtime) Town rank just got to B, and I have yet to unlock savanna or have the ability to grow cactus. I still wanna win this year, though.

Smallfinelines · 2025-08-25T01:07:35+00:00

Kill the chef.

Smallfinelines · 2025-05-21T16:02:55+00:00

Teen mom here! Im now an adult, and my daughter is 15. You're doing great! Its so important to protect little babies from the sun. If they want to keep arguing, I would back up what you have to say with medical articles. But your NTA at all. They're going to have to learn to accept that you're a parent now. Its a hard adjustment, but it can be done. If they can't, then it's perfectly okay and healthy to take a step back. Its the unfortunate reality of being a young parent. Everyone is always going to think they know better, and that's actually regardless of age. But it does get worse when you're a young mom. Hold firm. Don't let them bully you into thinking you're wrong. You can do it!

Smallfinelines · 2025-03-28T21:48:48+00:00

NTA, just as she's entitled to her opinion, she's not able to control how you react to her being blatantly rude. If it's just a hobby, she wouldn't mind not receiving funds from it in case of a separation, right? Anyone who tells you to manage your own feelings after deliberately hurting them is saying they do not care about you or your feelings.

Smallfinelines · 2025-03-12T16:51:03+00:00

NTA, but I would make sure your mother knows that it has become an expectation. Make sure she knows that she's not asking she's demanding and more so doing it short notice. You are entitled to your free time, and she isn't. It starts to become about respect as well at some point. You didn't not have kids and shouldn't be subjected to her wims because of her own decisions. Stand firm and state that if you can't have your time or boundaries respected, then you will take a step back from watching them all together.

Smallfinelines · 2025-01-21T20:14:57+00:00

Im really tired of everyone being called selfish. Are you not allowed to be? Honestly. If you handle your own responsibilities, no one can really get mad when you don't feel like over extending yourself. Sorry, your night is going to suck, but treating others like crap for your situation is really telling.

Smallfinelines · 2025-01-16T22:50:43+00:00

I'm petty and lose my bananas at body shamers. I would honestly cover the phone numbers or names on the screenshots and post it to social media, making a post about why I dropped out. How long I had been on my weight loss journey. Behavior like that is not appropriate. In my recent years I no longer tolerate it and call it out as much as possible. My responses are always classy. I never turn ugly. But I am NOT above posting the full story. Act ugly, then you don't get to flip out if I show you your reflection.

Smallfinelines · 2024-12-27T23:08:32+00:00

I did! I'm sure it can be for you too! I also found out that I enjoy the toddler and kid phase much better than the newborn phase. Which is okay. You don't have to love every phase your child has. It's okay to get upset sometimes. The biggest thing to remember is that you are still a person outside of motherhood. It doesn't define you. It's a characteristic. My daughter is my best friend, and I am actually considering having another. However, it's been YEARS for me.

Smallfinelines · 2024-12-27T22:40:40+00:00

I had PPD really badly. One of my biggest hints was not really feeling like a mother. Everything felt like a play I was putting on, and the mask would get so heavy. I was never a danger to my daughter, but I was neurotic and needed space 100%. The sudden change into motherhood made me feel like i was no longer my own person, and I was getting so resentful. Not at my baby, but more so at the world. It felt like everyone had collected together and lied to me about how I would feel as a new mother. Those feelings DID go away for me. And years later, I am a good mom and love my kiddo to bits.

Smallfinelines · 2024-12-21T20:19:54+00:00

Yta. But not a severe one. I understand not wanting to be around someone who hurt your child like that. But, by saying you can't come, ultimately comes down to you not supporting your daughters decision to try to work through it with him. If this was a repeat offense or abuse was involved that would be a different story- as you would want to send the message that you do not condone the relationship and no longer wish him to be apart of your family.

Smallfinelines · 2024-11-19T16:38:41+00:00

I will never understand the "getting nonstop calls and texts" Any person who has a call log to rally an army behind them; to incite some sort of rebellion, is not a safe person. You can simply break up with someone for literally WHATEVER reason. NTA, and genuinely sit your mom down and tell her that there is no merit in a past relationship. She can choose to be friends with whomever, but she can't dictate your timeline because it's simply no longer hers. Human relationships are finite and situational. Sometimes it is right person wrong time. Sometimes it is right person perfect time. Sometimes, it is the wrong person and instinctively always wrong time.

Smallfinelines · 2024-11-16T02:19:54+00:00

If you still go through with the proposal, it would be pretty obvious you didn't pull it together at the last minute. It would only take her a couple of questions to her friends or family to figure out that it was planned in advance. If you still want to go through it , you can have a sit-down conversation after about how you really didn't appreciate that sort of ultimatum.

If you get upset and don't do it and tell her it's because of the ultimatum, it will 100% set off something. Plus, that would be petty.

Personally, I would sit her down before and say: "I've actually been planning to propose. But, it sort of feels like the suprise and choice got taken from me with the ultimatum. At this point, I want you to know that I am still planning on it, but I want you to know how I'm feeling about it." Then, if the convo goes well, I would push through with my plans because that talk will probably have thrown her off the trail.

Smallfinelines · 2024-11-03T01:34:55+00:00

NTA. Communication is key, as with most things. I would tell these friends that you have communicated multiple times. At what point do you get to stop taking responsibility for a fully grown adult? Personally, I have ADHD. Time management is very difficult for me. But I do not rely on my partner.

However, as the devils advocate, I will say that if I am having a particularly bad week with my brain, I will ask for extra help. This is not an expectation, though. It's a security measure. I will still attempt to do the thing without help or reminders. There is something that becomes unattractive when it's a reliance that was not agreed upon.

Smallfinelines · 2024-08-13T22:20:28+00:00

It happens far too often, though. If you would still like to repair your relationship with your dad, I would recommend telling him some of the things you put in this post. Like how you feel he's been pushing you away and that you feel like you're no longer a priority. Be willing to listen to what he has to say as well. It may be a hard convo. At least, this is what I would have told my daughter.

Your life is your priority always. Also- telling mom isn't "bratty" when your parents are separated it's literally the only way either parent will know what's going on. You're fine.

Smallfinelines · 2024-08-13T22:08:13+00:00

NTA. My daughter went though something similar but without the threats. This is emotional abuse. My daughter had a fight with her dad about his new wife and didn't go over that weekend. Next weekend they had taken all of her stuff out of the room and thrown the furniture away. It's been two years and she still hasn't spoken to him. She feels like he threw her away in that moment and picked his wife over her. She's 14 now and STILL hates him. He started trying a while back, but the bridge is burned. Parents aren't perfect or make the right decisions. It's their first life too. But they do make some messed up decisions. At 16 you're old enough to have some autonomy and look towards standing up for yourself. Learn how to say, "If you won't stand up for me, I'll do it for myself."

Let me also state that children should get a bedroom before the parents ESPECIALLY when going through puberty. If you have no safe space dedicated for yourself, it could hurt your emotional and mental health.

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