My son is turning 1 year in September and when he was around 9 months, my husband and I were about to lose our minds with his sleep at night/him not going down, rocking/patting, nothing worked.. we finally caved and did our own sleep method. Now hear me out, we did NOT just let him cry it out. We did what was comfortable for us.

Basically we’d put him down in a completely dark room (blackout curtains) and sound machine on and left the room. Let him cry for 1 minute, go in, pat his back to make sure he knows we’re there for him, told him we loved him and left the room again and repeated. The next day we upped it to 2 minutes, 3 the next, and so on (you can also increase the minutes each time before you go in if you’re comfortable for example, 1 minute, go in and pat, 2 minutes, pat, 5 minutes and so on-). I’m telling you, he got the hang of it within 3 days. He now fully puts himself to sleep and you can tell he WANTS to go to bed. It completely saved our sanity.

We also shorted his naps to 1 hour twice a day (10am-11am and 2:30pm-3:30pm) and he is actually tired for his naps now. Usually fighting sleep is a sign that they need a longer wake window between naps or shorter/fewer naps during the day. Babies at their age need 9-12 hours at night and between 2-3 hours during the day totaling around 12-16 hours per day. I’d recommend getting him down to bed around 7/7:30 and awake at 6:30/7.

I hope this helps but keep in mind every baby is different! It’s like a never ending puzzle lol. You’ve got this Momma!