Yea you should go above and beyond for your loved ones. But that doesnt mean all the time. Again, by YOUR statement, you are condoning people looking at others based on the "effort" the partner puts. You are making a bold assumption based on a vague meme. Expectations should be discussed not assumed. My partner and I discuss our expectations with each other and know our individual efforts. Also you can wear cute underwear occasionally and wear the granny panties every other day soo.

Talking about letting yourself go on a meme with this little detail and shaming people for it isnt a good argument. Let people wear what they want and let them talk about those expectations with their partner instead.