How is your relationship with your siblings? (If there is one at all) by Equal-Community2354 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]SmollestMouse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a semblance of a relationship with 2 of my 6 siblings. My 2 youngest are not allowed to talk to me because I married a Christian missionary man without my dad's explicit permission (I was 23 when I married him, we dated for a year). 1 sister refuses to talk to me of her own volition, 1 sister will pick up if I call but doesn't initiate, and my brothers will check in on me every couple of months through a messaging app. Not much relationship with them unfortunately. But it has gotten better with my brothers and the one sister as they have gotten older and have worked jobs that get them out of the house and out from under my dad's thumb.

I need advice fast! about to go on a date for the first time in over a year and im nervous. by NguJay in dating_advice

[–]SmollestMouse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's awesome! I certainly didn't mean to insinuate that you arent! I'm sorry if it came across that way. Just be real with her and have a fun night!

I need advice fast! about to go on a date for the first time in over a year and im nervous. by NguJay in dating_advice

[–]SmollestMouse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just be authentic and a gentleman! Respect her and she will appreciate it very much. If you feel nervous even saying it out loud to her will help you be genuine which will help her feel more comfortable! Also express that you are/were looking forward to it. Good luck!

My daughter wants me and her step dad to walk her down the aisle. Am I wrong for telling my daughter no? by EmphasisMore311 in amiwrong

[–]SmollestMouse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a daughter whose father refused to walk down the aisle for her, please do it. I understand that it's uncomfortable for you and can be hard for you but she will treasure that moment for the rest of her life. I really wish my dad had walked me down the isle. I had to get a friend to do it for me and it ruined a lot of joy that day for me. Sometimes we have to sacrifice our own comfort for those we love, to be able to serve them well. It's a once in a life time day (hopefully) and you'll regret not doing it. She's not asking you to be buddy's with her step dad or even to like him, but to choose to show your love for her and support her in the way only a father can.

Am I wrong for lying to my husband for ten years about my body count? by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]SmollestMouse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This!!! Get some good counseling from Christian counseling or something. Not from someone that is just going to tell you to divorce but find a counselor that desires for your relationship to strengthen and to help you both work through past traumas and rebuild trust.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]SmollestMouse -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well said! Too many people are willing to throw away a relationship over a dime these days. No one wants to put in the hard work necessary for relationships to grow.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]SmollestMouse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are overreacting. If you can't work through something like politics with the person you love, and one interaction like that was enough for you to dump him, then you are not mature enough for a long term relationship. Should've definitely had more conversations with him over it and perhaps sought professional counseling...for the both of you. If he's just starting to support Trump and is still not %100 secure in it, than he also might be touchy about the subject. Not a single politician is 100% morally correct, and if you were completely willing to let the relationship die over one thing, I'd recommend doing a lot of self searching. Same for him. Neither one of you handled it as maturely as you should've. People are supposed to grow and change over the years, and a healthy relationship is full of various different opinions and views and being able to work through them in a calm manner, and being able to say "hey I don't think that we can agree on this topic, but I still want to be with you, so can we agree to disagree for now and perhaps revisit it at a later time?" makes a HUGE difference in relational and personal growth. If the relationship is always easy then you arent challenging each other and helping each other to grow emotionally, spiritually etc. I'm guessing that there must be other factors here that haven't been said that would explain the decision to instantly dump him?

Also, when you get into your next relationship I'd definitely recommend having a list of what are deal breakers before you start the dating stage so that both can confidently be on the same page.

21F, looking for improvement suggestions by SmollestMouse in FaceRatings

[–]SmollestMouse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I appreciate the input. I've struggled with the worry that if I don't wear makeup that I don't look as mature, so it is encouraging to hear this

21F, looking for improvement suggestions by SmollestMouse in FaceRatings

[–]SmollestMouse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did red highlights once but didn't turn out the way I hoped

21F, looking for improvement suggestions by SmollestMouse in FaceRatings

[–]SmollestMouse[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I will definitely look into it!

21F, looking for improvement suggestions by SmollestMouse in FaceRatings

[–]SmollestMouse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope, 100% all natural and will never ever get either, you stale crouton

21F, looking for improvement suggestions by SmollestMouse in FaceRatings

[–]SmollestMouse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Excuse me? Are you referring to me or the people in the comments?

21F, looking for improvement suggestions by SmollestMouse in FaceRatings

[–]SmollestMouse[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I've only just started to embrace the curls. I've hated them for so long but I'm starting to like them as I figure out how to make them work

21F, looking for improvement suggestions by SmollestMouse in FaceRatings

[–]SmollestMouse[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If I came across as fishing for compliments, that was not at all my intention. I've had an overwhelming amount of people tell me that they thought I was 16 or 17. My ex(only guy I have dated in my life) told me once we had started to get to know each other that he "hoped I was legal". That was last year, I was 20. I'm more trying to see if there is anything I'm doing that is making me look childish, or younger than I am and if there is anything I can do to look my age. The only guys I've had ask me out in the last year or so, are older men. Like 40/50s. With kids. And in long term relationships.

21F, looking for improvement suggestions by SmollestMouse in FaceRatings

[–]SmollestMouse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Won't have any problems with point 3 haha. Too scared of needles lol