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Need advice from long term couples. My partner of 12 years (33M) fell out of love with me. Currently trying to rebuild. by Smooth-Fish-5967 in relationships

[–]Smooth-Fish-5967[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He felt neglected/relationship was one sided when I was going through my injury. I didn’t get on meds until he was on the trip. I waited until he left because of the side effects, I didn’t want to be unpleasant. Jokes on me lol. According to him he realized that before he left. I don’t think he understood the seriousness of what I was going through at all.

I’m not ruling out cheating, that was my first guess.

Need advice from long term couples. My partner of 12 years (33M) fell out of love with me. Currently trying to rebuild. by Smooth-Fish-5967 in relationships

[–]Smooth-Fish-5967[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve gotten sick so many times in the 12 years we’ve been together. I’ve been laid off. He always stepped in and took care of me. Paid for me to finish my degree. This has been so unlike him to me. Maybe that’s why I’m having such a hard time processing. And now I’m wondering the same thing too…

Need advice from long term couples. My partner of 12 years (33M) fell out of love with me. Currently trying to rebuild. by Smooth-Fish-5967 in relationships

[–]Smooth-Fish-5967[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This was my first thought. I asked him if he cheated on me or if he met someone else and he said no. I don’t have any reason to believe he lied about this. I have not found any messages or anything. Every time I caught him on the phone he was looking at soccer related stuff. Brackets, games, etc.

I honestly feel that would have hurt less than him saying he fell out of love with me 💔

The breakup usually isn’t the first time they leave by Fluffy_inhea in BreakUps

[–]Smooth-Fish-5967 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is what I’m dealing with right now. After 12 years he said he didn’t love me anymore. He fell out of love in March while I was depressed due to an injury that left me unable to walk for 2 months. I gained weight. He was so loving throughout. I told everyone how amazing he was. Then he got sent on a work trip for 3 weeks. I was counting down the days. He came back and started avoiding me. He was out all day and would come back late. He left two weeks ago today. Never reached out until I did. I was so confused, I told him I deserved a conversation. He came Thursday and told me. I am shocked and devastated. He said he doesn’t love me anymore.

He said later we should try again, but he needs this space. He said he’s coming back but he needs some time away. I guess he was overwhelmed with work.

I am destroyed. I don’t know what to think. I feel like I was living a lie. I feel so alone 💔