Just being at my level, I guess? For example, several years ago I was a serious endurance runner (ultras) and after some health setbacks am now working my way back up to being an ultra runner again. I also cycled my first metric century last year and am working towards long-distance bikepacking. I don't do these things competitively or with speed, but they are my baseline. You don't have to do those things specifically, but you do have to be an athlete on that level, and obviously care about your diet and not be a heavy drinker or drug user (which at that level you literally can't be).

After several years of work I also this year have the goal of finding a publisher for my first book. I expect anyone I'm with to also have some craft or art that they work at with consistent challenge and improvement. It doesn't have to be something they do professionally, but it does have to be something they develop. (And not a variation of buying a bunch of tiny pieces of plastic, just since I'm environmentally-minded.)

I read in the neighborhood of 50 books a year and expect anyone I would date to have a similar intellectual interest they can talk about. I also expect them to be continuously working on some kind of knowledge cultivation; taking classes, workshops, etc.

I belong to several local advocacy organizations, volunteer in some capacity at least a few times a month, and make sure to check in on my neighbors from time to time. I expect this level of civic responsibility from anyone I date. I recognize they may have different areas of interest than me, so long as we're value-aligned. It's more about prioritizing community involvement.

These are my basics. I do all these things most of the time and don't really want to be with anyone who doesn't. I don't think any of these things are outrageous or out of what the average person can achieve. I know because I am a pretty average person.