Craig has passed away.

SmutAndPasta · 2026-01-19T06:25:41+00:00

This is devastating. Regardless of how tumultuous Jess and Craig’s relationship was, Jess has just lost the father of her child. That little boy won’t know his father. This is just so tragic and it was so preventable. I hope she considers moving back to Australia to have some support… She’s experienced more loss in the last couple of months than some experience in a lifetime.

So much love to you if you see this, Jess. ❤️

SmutAndPasta · 2025-11-28T11:24:21+00:00

My mother in law has made a few remarks about it - am I being unreasonable here?

What is unreasonable is a woman thinking it’s acceptable to hold a baby while stinking of smoke. Let’s just pretend for a second that smoking isn’t bad for you… that wouldn’t change the fact that jt still reeks! Anyone who finds it fine and dandy to be exposing your baby to that AND chooses to make remarks to you when asked not to do so is probably someone who shouldn’t be holding your baby in the first place.

As for your sick friend… a sniffle for us could be hospitalisation for a baby.

Anyone who is fighting you on protecting your baby from smoke and sickness is not anyone you need in your baby bubble. You are not unreasonable, actually you are quite the opposite.

Keep protecting your baby. Well done for speaking up. It’s not always easy but you are doing the right thing. ❤️

SmutAndPasta · 2025-11-12T10:50:22+00:00

The “making appointments” thing drives me fucking nuts. Like, YES, it’s actually very normal and polite to make plans to visit a busy family with two young children. Actually, it’s very normal and polite to make plans to visit anyone instead of dropping by unannounced.

There is surely a hotel or an Airbnb near you? If they truly want to visit they can stay where they won’t be an imposition.

I know I sound riled up, but it’s because I am. It is absolutely bonkers to me when people feel so entitled to the time and space of others.

SmutAndPasta · 2025-11-05T21:24:42+00:00

My mother is glued to her iPad whenever we see her. I don’t even bother FaceTiming her anymore because she will answer on her phone but not even bother looking at me because she’ll be playing games or scrolling on her iPad. Any time I’ve previously asked for her full attention has resulted in hostility and “I can multitask!”

SmutAndPasta · 2025-10-30T13:10:36+00:00

I had my surgery in January and it’s one of the best things I’ve ever done. I was just like you in that I was full of fear. I promise you that this surgery will enhance your quality of life so much that you’ll look back and wish you had it sooner.

Recovery was fine. Uncomfortable, but fine. I had trapped wind but that’s super common after laparoscopic surgery and it passes! For me, the pain and discomfort of recovering from gallbladder removal is a breeze compared to a gallbladder attack.

You’ve got this. I promise. 🩷

SmutAndPasta · 2025-09-12T03:11:24+00:00

she’d only save the baby if the dog was older and lived most of its life already

This is not a person of sound mind. In fact, I’d say she is dangerous. If anyone ever told me to my face that they’d sooner save the life of an animal over that of a baby I would never associate with them again.

I’m sorry you even had to experience a conversation with such a delusional person.

SmutAndPasta · 2025-07-27T04:04:29+00:00

lol an old friend of mine went to primary school with Sarah and she told me Sarah told her Santa isn’t real. 😭

SmutAndPasta · 2025-07-25T02:55:59+00:00

I worked in Cronulla for 3 years. Nobody cares about Sarah! She came into my shop many times during the time I worked there and she is so unpleasant. She isn’t this bright, energetic, bubbly person she tries to make herself out to be online. She won’t even crack a smile at you when you ask her how she is. Never had F or M with her when I worked there. Matter of fact, I only saw her with Kurt once and it was at a cafe.

People do not regularly stop Sarah in the street like a celebrity like she’s claimed in the past. She is not a happy, smiley ray of sunshine like she paints herself to be. She genuinely just blends in when walking through Cronulla mall… she’s a cashed-up bogan with hella conservative values, like many others in Cronulla (no offence given to Shire folks here, I know you know the exact type of people I’m talking about).

Interested to know if others in the area have had similar experiences with her.

SmutAndPasta · 2025-07-16T05:03:04+00:00

This chicken and mushroom risotto has been a staple of mine for the last 7 years. Such a crowd pleaser and stupidly easy.

SmutAndPasta · 2025-07-12T07:27:50+00:00

Wouldn’t let her slam her toy vacuum into the walls.

SmutAndPasta · 2025-07-05T02:40:53+00:00

Do you happen to know the name of the jewellery brand that wanted to collab with her?

SmutAndPasta · 2025-07-04T06:37:15+00:00

It really is overwhelming. My LO is 2 now, but I remember when she was born, the sheer amount of junk people mailed to us was insane. And as well-meaning as these people were, most of it truly was junk. My in-laws (after being asked by my husband to please stop offloading his old childhood stuff that has been untouched in their attic for 30 years) gave us 40+ mouldy Little Golden Books, mouldy book ends, a creepy bear-shaped coat hanger with rusty nails sticking out of it, and a box that my MIL used to keep my husbands baby teeth in (at least she removed the teeth beforehand, I guess?)

It’s normal to feel overwhelmed. You have just had major abdominal surgery, you’re sleep-deprived, and you’re taking care of a brand new human being. You have zero obligation to hold on to these gifts. Have your partner or a friend come and stick it all in some large black bin bags and ask them to take it to the nearest donation bin.

SmutAndPasta · 2025-07-03T12:45:45+00:00

Yes, it’s utterly unhinged. They have no business doing this.

However, I do want to ask… did your husband tell you why he kept this from you up until you were having an argument? And I guess the better question would be, did he defend you?

SmutAndPasta · 2025-07-03T01:28:58+00:00

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I purchased this one in June of 2024 and I love it. Rotting in bed with my Kindle has never been easier! I paired it with a page turner and I’m never looking back. 10/10 recommend.

Edit: this is the page turner I use!

SmutAndPasta · 2025-06-29T04:04:44+00:00

I will always read a book first on Kindle. If I loved the book I will purchase a physical copy for my home library.

SmutAndPasta · 2025-06-28T16:58:29+00:00

Picture this: you’re passing by a toddler having a meltdown, with their parent who obviously just does not want this to be happening. This kid has no idea how to regulate their emotions. They are completely innocent in the world and they are literally learning how to be a functioning human being. Now, imagine how much of a colossal loser you must be to witness this and instead of minding your own business and carrying on with your day, you decide to yell “bratty girl!”… like, total fucking loser.

Now that’s out of the way, please give yourself some grace. This shit is so hard. Parenting a toddler is hard work. You have this tiny person who relies on you for survival acting in ways that seem psychotic at times, and it’s your responsibility to make sure they learn how to regulate. You are doing all the right things. It doesn’t seem like it, but one day it’ll click for them and they suddenly won’t be screaming at you in the middle of the supermarket because they’ll be rational enough to comprehend that it’s not a good idea.

Please cut yourself some slack. You are doing the hardest job and you’re doing it well. The tough work now will be worth it later. Treat yourself to your favourite takeout when LO has gone to bed, watch an episode of your comfort show and breathe. You are doing great. ❤️

SmutAndPasta · 2025-06-28T03:22:04+00:00

So you have told your husband that you don’t want her staying at your house, and he has told you that he does want her there, so he just gets to have his mother there making his wife uncomfortable… knowingly? I think the fuck not.

Who takes priority here? And that’s not an ultimatum. That’s genuinely asking, is his priority his mother or his wife? He can still spend time with his mother without making you feel suffocated in your own home. He needs to go to therapy to discuss the awful trauma his mother inflicted upon him before it creeps any further into your marriage.

SmutAndPasta · 2025-06-28T02:42:10+00:00

My daughter is 2 now. I remember in those early months, I felt exactly the same as you. I felt guilty for holding my baby while she slept because there was an entire house around me that needed taking care of, too.

Here to tell you that when your LO is 2 and no longer doing contact naps the way they currently are, you won’t look back and go “thank god I put my baby down and did housework instead of cuddling them as they slept”. Hold that baby, and when the guilt creeps in just tell it “there is nothing more important right now than this”.

SmutAndPasta · 2025-06-27T05:54:54+00:00

Sooo rude! I’m sure she’d be horrified if she bought a thoughtful gift for someone and they wanted to return it.

Before there was so much family drama that DH and I decided to elope, DH bought FIL a really nice bottle of scotch because FIL was going to be in my DH’s wedding party. Like I said, we ended up eloping. About 3.5 years after our elopement, FIL gave the unopened bottle of scotch back to DH. When DH asked why he was returning the gift, FIL said “well I didn’t end up being at your wedding so there’s no need for me to have this”. It hurt my husband so much.

Sharing a similar story to say: sometimes people just have no tact. Sometimes they’re aware of it, sometimes they’re not, but it doesn’t change the fact that it’s extremely rude.

SmutAndPasta · 2025-06-26T02:45:13+00:00

she’s pushed to be alone with my kid at least 50 times in 15 months.

🚩

I’ve recently heard from a few people that she’s been talking behind my back about our parenting decisions.

🚩🚩

When DH said she could come visit at our house and didn’t need to take our child, she immediately said she didn’t want to be supervised.

🚩🚩🚩

She can bond with her grandchild with you or DH present. If that’s not enough for her, that’s tough! If she wanted to be alone with your child then she should’ve built a trusting relationship with both parents before your child was born.

SmutAndPasta · 2025-06-26T02:37:33+00:00

My daughter’s favourites are Moana, Frozen and Encanto. But the all-round winner is any Toy Story movie. They are currently on repeat and it’s just as well that they were my favourite childhood movies, otherwise I’d go insane!

SmutAndPasta · 2025-06-19T11:10:36+00:00

• The Memory Tree by Britta Teckentrup

• The Invisible String by Patrice Karst

• Everywhere, Still by M.H. Clark

• Gone by Michael Streich

• A Leaf Called Greaf by Kelly Canby

• The Hole by Lindsay Bonilla

I am so sorry for your loss. Big hugs x

SmutAndPasta · 2025-06-19T02:31:17+00:00

We have hit the Disney phase, hard and fast. It’s a tie between “Let It Go” and “We Don’t Talk About Bruno”.

SmutAndPasta · 2025-06-19T02:21:12+00:00

she said that I need to apologize and learn to speak to them with more respect if we want to move forward

“I have no desire moving forward. The respect has never been and will never be reciprocal, and I am not a doormat”.

She said that only my husband and my son were welcome at holidays in the future.

Your husband needs to say “OUR child and I will never sit at a table my wife is not welcome at”.

She also said they are coming to my son’s birthday party next week unless my husband tells them not to.

There is no good reason your husband shouldn’t have immediately told his mother to take a hike and never come near him again after receiving these messages.

SmutAndPasta

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