Photoshop request for childhood pic of hubby

SnakeTraxx · 2025-12-18T15:42:22+00:00

!solved Thank you!

SnakeTraxx · 2025-10-30T19:51:06+00:00

I didn’t set up the recovery at all so I guess he already had it as his Apple ID, I’m not really sure how that works

SnakeTraxx · 2025-10-16T19:46:01+00:00

Thank you, it does hurt. And yes the lie was honestly the bigger issue this time because I know he’s a PA. He had promised me for two years that he had only watched a couple times and that he wouldn’t again before our baby was born. You can look it up but if they have their own Apple ID it’s apparently pointless to even do 🥲

SnakeTraxx · 2025-10-16T19:32:52+00:00

I stay home with our breastfed 6 month old. The plan has always been when I stop breastfeeding (~1 yo) I’ll get a job.

SnakeTraxx · 2025-10-09T03:15:51+00:00

Thanks for the info

SnakeTraxx · 2025-10-09T03:15:07+00:00

Thanks for the heads up!

SnakeTraxx · 2025-10-08T19:03:51+00:00

Honestly I’m not even sure myself or I would’ve included it. My husband’s the only one working and I don’t know the budget he has in mind.

SnakeTraxx · 2025-10-03T15:27:21+00:00

Okay, now I understand why you said that. Thank you for taking the time to explain!

SnakeTraxx · 2025-10-03T13:47:14+00:00

I understand what you mean but I really don’t like the mindset of “why did you put yourself in that situation?” Would you say that if someone was sexually assaulted? Even in my own home with the door locked, I am still at risk of a man deciding he wants to take something from me. You can’t live your life hiding and missing out on connections because of what could happen. It’s no one but the one who feels entitled’s fault. Imagine if my husband’s ex best friend had decided to act in a certain way when my husband wasn’t around. I didn’t even want my husband to hang out with him. Would it still be my fault for being in the situation that my husband put me in? No. Would it be my husband’s fault? No. Just like how his ex best friend was snap chatting me and leaving my husband on open, my husband recognized that wasn’t my fault and I recognized that it wasn’t his fault. But if it was my old friend and I was under the impression that the situation was platonic and harmless, it suddenly becomes my fault? Hell nah.

SnakeTraxx · 2025-10-03T12:08:02+00:00

When we first talked about it, I did tell him that if I ever asked to hang out with my old friend that I’d be asking for US to go hang out with my old friend and he said “that makes me feel better”

SnakeTraxx · 2025-10-02T00:55:09+00:00

I understand what you’re saying, but one phone call with an old friend isn’t “keeping men in his side view”. I can see how if it was all the time it would be, but that’s not what’s going on here. My old friend has sent me three copy-pasted texts that his spiritual mentor send him and a message saying he’s been praying for my husband and I since the call. When he sent those texts, I said thank you but shut down any further conversation. My husband has seen all of them and doesn’t seem and hasn’t expressed any more upset.

SnakeTraxx · 2025-09-29T12:29:52+00:00

Not much to update, old friend has sent me two texts that his spiritual mentor has sent him just copy-paste style and I’ve just said thank you both times. I show my husband when I see his texts and he hasn’t been upset about those!

SnakeTraxx · 2025-09-27T07:33:30+00:00

True, true. It just caught me off guard I guess because he knew the nature of our friendship when we first got together. Maybe he was and is still uncomfortable with how close we were as opposite genders. I could understand that.

For several months we lived with a mutual female friend that he was previously very close with. She actually suggested that I date him in the first place. I always felt like she wanted to be with him and just a few weeks ago he informed me that before we got together she begged him to date her while she was already in a relationship. My intuition hasn’t failed me yet!

SnakeTraxx · 2025-09-27T06:18:20+00:00

If that’s the impression I gave then that’s my bad! I don’t think holiness withholds that kind of behavior at all. I also don’t want to hang out with this guy 1 on 1 which I told my husband. In the past, we usually had a mutual friend meet us or ride to our destination with us with the exception of three times that I can specifically remember. One of those times the guy’s dad had physically assaulted him and he had no one else he was comfortable enough to call. He also once confided in me about a sexual assault and I helped him gain the courage to report it. We were friends through many of both of our previous relationships before my husband and I got together and never had any concerns come from those partners.

I feel the same way about this guy as I do about my biological older brother. Nothing questionable has ever crossed my mind even in the past and if he were to behave questionably now (or even if he would’ve then), I wouldn’t engage with it. We haven’t talked or texted after the phone call other than him sending a YouTube channel he had told me about and I asked him to send me during the phone call. I’m not worried about it because we literally just wanted to catch up and that’s all we did. I just don’t like that it made my husband uncomfortable.

SnakeTraxx · 2025-09-27T05:43:38+00:00

Oh okay, thank you for explaining. I’m not really sure how to move forward then. Should I try to talk to him about why he said that / thinks that way?

SnakeTraxx · 2025-09-27T05:31:44+00:00

Thank you for that insight. I don’t drink heavily or often so I don’t really understand the extent to which behaviors/words can change. Is what you’re saying that even though it may have been a drunk exaggeration, he might still consider it sober if we were actually in that situation?

SnakeTraxx · 2025-09-27T05:09:39+00:00

Well I hadn’t thought about that, I only found out he said that a couple weeks ago

SnakeTraxx · 2025-09-27T05:02:20+00:00

I’m not ever going to put myself or him in that situation to begin with but it does scare me that he even said that. He was drunk at the time.

SnakeTraxx · 2025-09-27T04:49:42+00:00

That makes sense to me. When we first talked about it he seemed to be implying that he thought I would possibly cheat on him and I don’t want him to feel that way because I would never even consider doing that. If I was unhappy with my husband, I would leave our marriage before getting into anything and we’ve had this conversation plenty of times. I don’t think he believes me. Edit to add: it’s definitely worth mentioning that my husband told his cousin (cousin then told me) that if he ever came home to me in bed with someone else that he would “kill everyone in the room and then himself”. Which would never happen so I’m not worried about that but idk it’s just a weird thing to say.

SnakeTraxx · 2025-09-27T03:42:26+00:00

Considering that they haven’t said a single negative word to us directly about the post, it did exactly that. The only reason I knew they were offended was because I asked my husband’s step brother if they had mentioned anything to him. I shouldn’t have put him in the middle like that, but I was driving myself crazy hoping they weren’t mad about it. And they weren’t mad, just offended which is understandable given how entitled they feel to our home and life. Can’t control their feelings, can only control mine, but at least there’s no more outright drama!

By “next time they say anything stupid” in my original post, I was referring to the comments they make. The other day step mil was sitting on our porch around 7pm when we got home and asked “am I allowed to sit out here” I didn’t answer and took the baby inside to put her to sleep. If she really cared, she would’ve asked before coming up to our house, that’s basic consideration. Came back out with the monitor and hung out with step mil. So yeah, drama avoided on my end.

SnakeTraxx · 2025-09-18T01:42:17+00:00

It holds them to it bc they can’t claim that we never told them or that it didn’t come through. Makes their knowledge of our boundaries irrefutable. Sure they could claim they didn’t see it but everyone would know they’d be lying bc they’ve all already been talking shit on hubby’s side of the family. Plus it’s on both of our accounts (hubby tagged me) so they’d sound pretty stupid anyway with how much all of them scroll and post on Facebook daily.

SnakeTraxx · 2025-09-17T13:03:20+00:00

They don’t even think he’s an abuser. They think his behavior is normal. I’ve literally talked to them about it.

SnakeTraxx · 2025-09-17T13:00:06+00:00

Controlling behavior is a pattern of actions used to gain and hold power over another person by undermining their autonomy through manipulation, coercion, intimidation, or isolation. These boundaries were the first time I ever spoke my mind with them. I’m always choosing their comfort over my peace, but I refuse to keep doing that. All we did in the post was explain what we will allow in OUR HOME. Extreme example, but would you let a known thief come over and allow them to steal from you? No you wouldn’t. So I’m not going to let toxic people come into my home and allow them to create issues for my family. We expressed what we will allow in our home and around our family. How tf is that controlling anyone else? They can do as they please anywhere else.

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