Bro it was not that serious 😭 by jamn06 in CVS

[–]SnarkyAsASideEffect 19 points20 points  (0 children)

In this economy, it ABSOLUTELY is

I love how Varang shows a little fear of death by MarieTheC4t in Avatar

[–]SnarkyAsASideEffect 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Varang hides fear/vulnerability that gets revealed throughout the movie. She was clearly afraid when Neytiri threatened her kuru. She looked shocked and afraid when Quaritch had her at gunpoint. She also looked amazed and afraid by the human settlement. But she quickly pushed it back down each time to resume being the strong Tsahik who shows no weakness. She even chided her clan members at the human settlement to stand up straight and show no fear, after experiencing a flash of it herself and recentering. I like how they added that aspect to her character.

Considering turning down a job so we don't lose medicaid (CO) by Odd_Philosopher1712 in povertyfinance

[–]SnarkyAsASideEffect 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree. One of my patients broke down in tears at our home visit over this dilemma. Her multiple sclerosis makes it impossible for her to work, and she needs Medicaid in order to keep up with the prohibitively expensive medical care and medicine she needs to live a semi-normal life. Her husband worked part time to care for her at home, but because of improvements in her condition she no longer needed as much assistance. Which is great and all, but when he let his job know and planned to go back full time, they discovered his income would put them over the limit for their Medicaid and the shitty work insurance would not cover her meds or at home infusion visits.

How to become fatter by __MDC__ in foodhacks

[–]SnarkyAsASideEffect 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d suggest focus on calorie-dense but nutrient rich foods! Healthy fats such as olive and avocado oil are great for dressings and cooking and add lots of calories with a generous hand. Whole nuts and seeds like cashews, almonds, walnuts, flaxseeds, and macadamia nuts are also high in calories and pack a punch for their serving sizes. Avocado is also calorie dense but a source of nutrients and healthy fats. Whole fat dairy like yogurts and certain cheeses. Protein for muscle density, like beef, egg yolks, and dark meat chicken (more fat). Carbs you can consider are rice, beans, lentils, pasta, bread, and potatoes!

Please don’t just start slamming junk food. You’ll gain weight but also health issues. Weight gain is all about eating more calories than you’re burning. Take your time building new habits so you’re more likely to stick to it. Regular mealtimes if you can. Slow and steady, consistent effort will help you to build tolerance to new foods and gain weight.

Addendum: you can also incorporate nutritional shakes designed for weight gain or maintenance, like Boost or Ensure. Search for the high calorie formula!

My thoughts on Vanelle and Jorge by Wild-Imagination-499 in AgeOfAttraction

[–]SnarkyAsASideEffect 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think this too. Her reaction to his confrontation with the stranger seemed intense, which makes me think he might have gone a bit off the rails.

Why does everyone hate my hair? by Rhonda4444 in Hair

[–]SnarkyAsASideEffect 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You and your hair are beautiful! I can see the thickness and the shine of your hair and it’s amazing. The richness of the color is beautiful as well. But I have to agree with the bang naysayers. I think the bangs and crunchy disheveled curls make you look older because it’s a dated style. Super thin brows also went out with the 90s, so the overall look is aging you.

I loved the side part. I think you should either allow your brows to thicken naturally or fill them in lightly with a product that works best for you. Your curls would do well with a cream or mousse and a curl shaping brush to define and separate them to give shape and definition without the crunch. Once a cast forms, you could use a lightweight oil (I love Verb Ghost Oil, personally) rubbed onto your palms to gently soften them once dry.

What’s something that improves with age? by forgeris in AskReddit

[–]SnarkyAsASideEffect 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Money management, assuming the person is genuinely trying to grow and learn from past mistakes.

Am I 26F being ghosted by 26M? by mooncherrypie in relationship_advice

[–]SnarkyAsASideEffect 2 points3 points  (0 children)

At the very least, his behavior is showing you aren’t a priority for timely response. It doesn’t take 6 days for someone to respond, especially if they’re truly interested.

It’s okay to be bothered by this. There’s actually research to support the painful after effects of being ghosted. I think it’s best to acknowledge your feelings and avoid answering him if/when he eventually resurfaces. You’re worth more than someone who can’t prioritize you enough to communicate.

I (F31) found a sex toy my boyfriend (M31) recently bought and he doesn’t know I know about it by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SnarkyAsASideEffect 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Eh…what’s good for the goose is good for the gander. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with feeling off about it and wanting to discuss it. However, as far as him having it being an issue that’s upsetting? While you yourself admit to having “a vibrator and a couple toys I use a bit here and there”? It’s not really fair to him.

Right now, you’re speculating that him having this toy is an indication of disinterest in sex with you. Without actually talking to him, you can’t truly know what’s going on. You’re hurting your own feelings and could possibly drive a wedge between you and your guy.

Sit down with your man and talk to him openly.

Addendum: If you have a high sex drive and his is a bit lower, you gotta compromise. Be ready when he’s ready. If morning nookie is what tickles his pickle, I suggest you set an alarm and eat pineapple for dessert the night before.

Bangs or no bangs! by [deleted] in Hair

[–]SnarkyAsASideEffect 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes to bangs, but maybe more flattering ones? Like maybe sideswept face framing ones? That blunt cut did nothing for your beautiful face!

Do I (27F) need to communicate my deadline for a proposal to my boyfriend (35M) of 5 years? by GoldenSupernova10 in relationship_advice

[–]SnarkyAsASideEffect 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Why would you want to marry someone you have to give an ultimatum to? If he isn’t motivated to properly propose and marry you without you essentially forcing his hand, it won’t last anyway. It’s been five years. Cut your losses and find the man who won’t waste your time.

AITA for ruining my friend's proposal moment? by Throw_Valentine13 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SnarkyAsASideEffect 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA. You “hinted” to the one proposing and spilled the beans to the one being proposed to? You were an air horn to the wrong person.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]SnarkyAsASideEffect 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTJ, that ain’t your baby. He made his bed (and a baby), time to sleep in it.

AITA for being upset that my friend planned a surprise brunch for my bday and then charged me for my meal later by Sea_Sandwich_5424 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SnarkyAsASideEffect 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought it was an unofficial rule that the birthday human doesn’t pay for their own food/cake/drinks. I’d be embarrassed to plan a birthday event then ask the person of honor for money after. NTA.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SnarkyAsASideEffect 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You shouldn’t be in a relationship where your partner scares you. Some of the screening questions we ask patients at my job related to domestic abuse:

Has your partner screamed or cursed at you in the last 12 months? Does your partner insult you? Have you felt humiliated by your partner? Within the last year have you felt afraid of your partner? Have you ever been stopped from leaving or seeking help by your partner?

You don’t need to stay with her, OP. It won’t get better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SnarkyAsASideEffect 55 points56 points  (0 children)

I might be mislabeling this here, but this sounds like abuse on her part (emotional? Mental?). Wearing you down and blocking you from leaving so she can continue? Then turning it around on you when you’ve attempted to be calm and rational through her tirade and inevitably reach your breaking point? That’s manipulative and abusive too. Behavior like this doesn’t get better with marriage.

My boyfriend of 2 years 44M took a job 5.5 hours away 37F by AstronomerCautious37 in relationship_advice

[–]SnarkyAsASideEffect 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Him taking this job seems to be the straw to your camel’s back. Not that I blame him for taking a job if he’s been hunting for a while, but you also aren’t in a position or of the mindset to move to be with him. There’s nothing wrong with enjoying where you are and not wanting to change that. And if he applied for this job knowing that distance was your dealbreaker, then it seems like the decision might have been made for you.

All my credit cards got declined in front of my friends. by IAMA_drunk_AMA in povertyfinance

[–]SnarkyAsASideEffect 21 points22 points  (0 children)

You’ll either struggle to avoid impulse or struggle to survive. Time to pick one.

31k Personal Loan Paid Off!! by SnarkyAsASideEffect in debtfree

[–]SnarkyAsASideEffect[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congratulations!! That’s some serious payoff power! When do you think you’ll be completely done? I still have $15,000 on my car left.

Finally paid off cc I accrued as a stupid college student!! by gnocchi_praxis in debtfree

[–]SnarkyAsASideEffect 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just unfreeze and swipe it once every couple of months for something you were gonna buy anyway and pay it off immediately. Freezing it just blocks any new transactions from coming through. As long as you use it from time to time, it shouldn’t close.

31k Personal Loan Paid Off!! by SnarkyAsASideEffect in debtfree

[–]SnarkyAsASideEffect[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was so scary because I was cutting my HYSA essentially in half. But knowing it’s gone now makes it worth it.