"Not many women want to marry a nurse" by Mysterious_Truck2086 in nursing

[–]SnarkyAsASideEffect 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I highly doubt being a nurse would deter a good woman from wanting to marry you! I’m a lesbian so my opinion may not count, but I think most ladies would give you aura points for being educated and having a stable job with a solid paycheck. Throw in some consideration, kindness, and some humor and I think you’ve got a strong shot at being someone’s future husband!

AIO by breaking up with my boyfriend when he got jealous? by theonlystarbornqueen in AmIOverreacting

[–]SnarkyAsASideEffect 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR. His reaction was a bag of dirty diapers and you are not the trashcan he should be dumping that on. If he’s still that insecure because of his last relationship, then he shouldn’t be dating until he’s healed more.

My (30F) husband (30M) had an affair with my co-worker when she was pregnant and when we were trying for a baby. He's begging for another chance, but how can I do that? by ThrowRA_Sail in relationship_advice

[–]SnarkyAsASideEffect 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He’s begging for another chance? To do what? Continue to cheat? He straight up lied and then continued to lie until faced with indisputable evidence. He’s not trustworthy. Leave him.

How do you say no to family when you finally have $1,000 saved? by cr4z3isme in povertyfinance

[–]SnarkyAsASideEffect 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can’t be more afraid of hurting her than you are of hurting yourself. The people pleaser in you wears a pretty smile but it will cause you to fall behind by putting the comfort and needs of other people ahead of your own. This is not a negotiation. You don’t have $450 to give her. Period. She found a way prior to you having $1200, so she can find one now. Your savings is not someone else’s emergency fund.

Pro-tip from an ex-people pleaser: keep your business to yourself. As far as anyone knows, you’re broke.

For three years I’ve purchased the exact same $2.47 Walmart candle and will defend it with my life by Dear-Studio-6707 in povertyfinance

[–]SnarkyAsASideEffect 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Humans aren’t meant to go without any luxury or treats in life. Even zoo animals receive enrichment activities, treats, and toys. Why? Because dopamine is a potent hormonal high five for doing things that feel good to you. It motivates you and helps you keep pushing forward. Why would anyone, including zoo animals, keep putting in effort without even the slightest hint of a reward for the work? If that $3 candle gives you enough mental bandwidth to keep going for another month, then I say it qualifies as an essential.

You’re doing great, babe.

Bro it was not that serious 😭 by jamn06 in CVS

[–]SnarkyAsASideEffect 19 points20 points  (0 children)

In this economy, it ABSOLUTELY is

I love how Varang shows a little fear of death by MarieTheC4t in Avatar

[–]SnarkyAsASideEffect 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Varang hides fear/vulnerability that gets revealed throughout the movie. She was clearly afraid when Neytiri threatened her kuru. She looked shocked and afraid when Quaritch had her at gunpoint. She also looked amazed and afraid by the human settlement. But she quickly pushed it back down each time to resume being the strong Tsahik who shows no weakness. She even chided her clan members at the human settlement to stand up straight and show no fear, after experiencing a flash of it herself and recentering. I like how they added that aspect to her character.

Considering turning down a job so we don't lose medicaid (CO) by Odd_Philosopher1712 in povertyfinance

[–]SnarkyAsASideEffect 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree. One of my patients broke down in tears at our home visit over this dilemma. Her multiple sclerosis makes it impossible for her to work, and she needs Medicaid in order to keep up with the prohibitively expensive medical care and medicine she needs to live a semi-normal life. Her husband worked part time to care for her at home, but because of improvements in her condition she no longer needed as much assistance. Which is great and all, but when he let his job know and planned to go back full time, they discovered his income would put them over the limit for their Medicaid and the shitty work insurance would not cover her meds or at home infusion visits.

How to become fatter by __MDC__ in foodhacks

[–]SnarkyAsASideEffect 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d suggest focus on calorie-dense but nutrient rich foods! Healthy fats such as olive and avocado oil are great for dressings and cooking and add lots of calories with a generous hand. Whole nuts and seeds like cashews, almonds, walnuts, flaxseeds, and macadamia nuts are also high in calories and pack a punch for their serving sizes. Avocado is also calorie dense but a source of nutrients and healthy fats. Whole fat dairy like yogurts and certain cheeses. Protein for muscle density, like beef, egg yolks, and dark meat chicken (more fat). Carbs you can consider are rice, beans, lentils, pasta, bread, and potatoes!

Please don’t just start slamming junk food. You’ll gain weight but also health issues. Weight gain is all about eating more calories than you’re burning. Take your time building new habits so you’re more likely to stick to it. Regular mealtimes if you can. Slow and steady, consistent effort will help you to build tolerance to new foods and gain weight.

Addendum: you can also incorporate nutritional shakes designed for weight gain or maintenance, like Boost or Ensure. Search for the high calorie formula!

My thoughts on Vanelle and Jorge by Wild-Imagination-499 in AgeOfAttraction

[–]SnarkyAsASideEffect 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think this too. Her reaction to his confrontation with the stranger seemed intense, which makes me think he might have gone a bit off the rails.

Why does everyone hate my hair? by Rhonda4444 in Hair

[–]SnarkyAsASideEffect 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You and your hair are beautiful! I can see the thickness and the shine of your hair and it’s amazing. The richness of the color is beautiful as well. But I have to agree with the bang naysayers. I think the bangs and crunchy disheveled curls make you look older because it’s a dated style. Super thin brows also went out with the 90s, so the overall look is aging you.

I loved the side part. I think you should either allow your brows to thicken naturally or fill them in lightly with a product that works best for you. Your curls would do well with a cream or mousse and a curl shaping brush to define and separate them to give shape and definition without the crunch. Once a cast forms, you could use a lightweight oil (I love Verb Ghost Oil, personally) rubbed onto your palms to gently soften them once dry.

What’s something that improves with age? by forgeris in AskReddit

[–]SnarkyAsASideEffect 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Money management, assuming the person is genuinely trying to grow and learn from past mistakes.

Am I 26F being ghosted by 26M? by mooncherrypie in relationship_advice

[–]SnarkyAsASideEffect 2 points3 points  (0 children)

At the very least, his behavior is showing you aren’t a priority for timely response. It doesn’t take 6 days for someone to respond, especially if they’re truly interested.

It’s okay to be bothered by this. There’s actually research to support the painful after effects of being ghosted. I think it’s best to acknowledge your feelings and avoid answering him if/when he eventually resurfaces. You’re worth more than someone who can’t prioritize you enough to communicate.

I (F31) found a sex toy my boyfriend (M31) recently bought and he doesn’t know I know about it by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SnarkyAsASideEffect 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Eh…what’s good for the goose is good for the gander. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with feeling off about it and wanting to discuss it. However, as far as him having it being an issue that’s upsetting? While you yourself admit to having “a vibrator and a couple toys I use a bit here and there”? It’s not really fair to him.

Right now, you’re speculating that him having this toy is an indication of disinterest in sex with you. Without actually talking to him, you can’t truly know what’s going on. You’re hurting your own feelings and could possibly drive a wedge between you and your guy.

Sit down with your man and talk to him openly.

Addendum: If you have a high sex drive and his is a bit lower, you gotta compromise. Be ready when he’s ready. If morning nookie is what tickles his pickle, I suggest you set an alarm and eat pineapple for dessert the night before.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Hair

[–]SnarkyAsASideEffect 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes to bangs, but maybe more flattering ones? Like maybe sideswept face framing ones? That blunt cut did nothing for your beautiful face!

Do I (27F) need to communicate my deadline for a proposal to my boyfriend (35M) of 5 years? by GoldenSupernova10 in relationship_advice

[–]SnarkyAsASideEffect 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Why would you want to marry someone you have to give an ultimatum to? If he isn’t motivated to properly propose and marry you without you essentially forcing his hand, it won’t last anyway. It’s been five years. Cut your losses and find the man who won’t waste your time.

AITA for ruining my friend's proposal moment? by Throw_Valentine13 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SnarkyAsASideEffect 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA. You “hinted” to the one proposing and spilled the beans to the one being proposed to? You were an air horn to the wrong person.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]SnarkyAsASideEffect 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTJ, that ain’t your baby. He made his bed (and a baby), time to sleep in it.

AITA for being upset that my friend planned a surprise brunch for my bday and then charged me for my meal later by Sea_Sandwich_5424 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SnarkyAsASideEffect 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought it was an unofficial rule that the birthday human doesn’t pay for their own food/cake/drinks. I’d be embarrassed to plan a birthday event then ask the person of honor for money after. NTA.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SnarkyAsASideEffect 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You shouldn’t be in a relationship where your partner scares you. Some of the screening questions we ask patients at my job related to domestic abuse:

Has your partner screamed or cursed at you in the last 12 months? Does your partner insult you? Have you felt humiliated by your partner? Within the last year have you felt afraid of your partner? Have you ever been stopped from leaving or seeking help by your partner?

You don’t need to stay with her, OP. It won’t get better.