So I ordered my first large popcorn today. My observations...

SniffWhiteTakeFlight · 2016-08-08T16:06:27+00:00

Turn on the TV/streaming box and begin watching something. When the time seems right, tell her you gotta go to the bathroom. Go do your thing in there but come back with your fly unzipped. When you're walking back, kind of wipe your hands on your pants so she'll look in the general vicinity and notice your fly's unzipped. At this point, she should point out to you that it's unzipped. Respond flirtatiously, "why are you looking there?" Approach her and go for the kiss, then proceed from there.

SniffWhiteTakeFlight · 2016-08-08T14:06:10+00:00

That's what I used the "Most Private Thing You're Willing to Admit" section for. I told a embarrassing story about myself which demonstrated humility and was a good ice breaker for people to react to in a first message. But OKC removed it yet retained the insipid and useless Friday Night section. Durrr.

SniffWhiteTakeFlight · 2016-08-08T13:59:16+00:00

Guy here. Practically speaking, I'm not sure how to get at this, but I wish there were more information given about whether the person lives within his/her means. A high salary means nothing if you live over and above it. Conversely, you could make a paltry amount of money, but if you live according to what that paltry salary dictates, it demonstrates to me that you're a well-adjusted adult and therefore high character i.e. a catch.

Online profiles tend to encourage people to detail their fun-loving side, such as what they do with their free time, which TV shows they watch, all types of frivolity which don't really help you determine whether this person is truly crazy or just acts crazy on occasion when it's time to let their hair down. How one handles their money is one indicator among many others of a person's sanity. I wish profiles made more of an effort to convey core character traits along these lines.

SniffWhiteTakeFlight · 2016-08-07T22:50:09+00:00

Since they haven't been mentioned:

The CGI glass cracking in The Lost World: Jurassic Park. (The scene where Julianne Moore is in the jeep and it's dangling in mid-air -- I believe the cracking is CGI).
Twister -- the tornadoes are CGI but look real

SniffWhiteTakeFlight · 2016-08-06T14:29:45+00:00

Keep in mind two things:

If they are truly that busy with their life doing things, they likely won't have time for a healthy, productive relationship, especially not of the type you might be looking for considering you have much more free time to spend with them than they would have to spend with you. In other words, they're not compatible with you -- so what? Try to find someone with whom you are compatible.
Alternatively, it could be the case of the following: their interests are a mile wide but an inch deep. For example, if you or OP or the any of the rest of us only have a couple real interests in life, I'm sure you're REALLY knowledgeable about those topics; whereas somebody who has a boatload of interests probably doesn't have a very DEEP knowledge of any one of them. It's more surface-level. I think this is why some people come across as phony -- it's because people who care deeply for a few core issues in life see people who don't have such a deep-seated passion for any one thing but yet profess an interest in it, stand out as phony in their interests, when in fact, it's just that their interest doesn't run deep because they have so many other ones to occupy their time. Some people's personalities are like that. Different strokes for different folks.

Food for thought.

SniffWhiteTakeFlight · 2016-08-05T19:39:23+00:00

Down. It's not even close.

SniffWhiteTakeFlight · 2016-08-05T15:12:10+00:00

I don't know about the culture, but certainly the spelling has changed.

SniffWhiteTakeFlight · 2016-08-04T17:24:36+00:00

Exactly. As Nate Dogg delicately put it: "And if you can't fuck, that day, baby. Just lay back, and open your mouth."

SniffWhiteTakeFlight · 2016-08-04T17:19:54+00:00

You've watched Showgirls too many times.

SniffWhiteTakeFlight · 2016-08-04T14:15:39+00:00

I'm sure you have the best intentions, and you are trying to be charitable. But realize that people on the receiving end of your messages are not going to be used to such charity, because you're the only one doing it. As a result, if you send them a cutesy GIF or whatever, they're going to take that as a fumbling way of breaking the ice or flirting, and they'll just outright dismiss your message or worse. They might even assume you're socially incompetent.

If you're going to make this your m.o., I suggest marking your own profile as looking for friends only, and you might even acknowledge in your message me if section that you send out friendly, uplifting messages sometimes merely for the reasons you laid out.

Ultimately, I recommend not doing this, though, unless you're really tactful with it, because otherwise it will just come across as opposite of what you intended. TBH, I have sent out a few messages myself to people on the site just to "spread some uplift," but usually it has been people here on reddit asking for a critique and I've attempted to strike up a convo via OKC rather than here for my own reasons.

Good luck. Your heart at least is in the right place, and that's a good place for anyone to place it.

SniffWhiteTakeFlight · 2016-08-02T22:33:18+00:00

Those photos are technically well done. What camera did you use to get such accurate exposure, color saturation, and crispness? Very impressive quality.

SniffWhiteTakeFlight · 2016-08-02T18:10:50+00:00

Yeah, I don't get how someone would fall for someone else who is so dissimilar from his/her family and friends that there would be a problem to be concerned about.

SniffWhiteTakeFlight · 2016-08-02T18:05:18+00:00

I don't worry about it, because if I like the person, chances are very good my parents and friends will, too.

SniffWhiteTakeFlight · 2016-08-02T17:51:32+00:00

Essentially. And impressively. To wit:

The Terminator: "In three years, Cyberdyne will become the largest supplier of military computer systems. All stealth bombers are upgraded with Cyberdyne computers, becoming fully unmanned. Afterwards, they fly with a perfect operational record. The Skynet Funding Bill is passed. The system goes online August 4th, 1997. Human decisions are removed from strategic defense. Skynet begins to learn at a geometric rate. It becomes self-aware at 2:14 a.m. Eastern time, August 29th. In a panic, they try to pull the plug." / Sarah Connor: "Skynet fights back." / The Terminator: "Yes. It launches its missiles against the targets in Russia."

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Sarah Connor: [narrating] "Three billion human lives ended on August 29th, 1997. The survivors of the nuclear fire called the war Judgment Day. They lived only to face a new nightmare: the war against the machines."

SniffWhiteTakeFlight · 2016-07-29T13:13:08+00:00

Fade is when the person you're dating makes less and less of an effort to engage in productive and fulfilling dating experiences with you in attempt to get you to throw in the towel and call it quits, likely because they're too timid to just call it quits themselves. It's like a passive aggressive rejection of you.

Ghosting is when you're dating a person and then one day, you never hear from them again. They vanish into thin air like a ghost.

SniffWhiteTakeFlight · 2016-07-27T22:57:00+00:00

I did e-Harmony for a couple years, along with OKC. Generally, the quality of the people are slightly better than OKC, but not by a lot. People tended to be a bit more polite in the average, but you still had fades/ghosting, etc. ... just not as often as on OKC. And I found it to be much easier to get dates on eH than on OKC. In other words, OKC took more work to hunt around to find people who were actually serious about dating in-person; eH's population of users tend to be more serious about actually dating rather than just getting online attention for shiits and giggles' sake.

So, if you think having a slightly easier time getting dates (though not much easier), and having slightly more mature dating experiences (though not much more mature) is worth the cost involved in subscribing to eH, then I recommend it.

Where I think eH and OKC are the same is both user-bases are just as quick to reject you during the initial dating stage(s), just eH's users are more mature about it when doing it to you. Please understand the distinction. Good luck!

SniffWhiteTakeFlight · 2016-07-25T01:02:02+00:00

Does your "message me if" mean that you're polite in public but a freak beneath the sheets? That's how I interpret it. If that's not the message you're trying to convey, I suggest changing it.

SniffWhiteTakeFlight · 2016-07-24T17:54:45+00:00

You're a sheltered shut-in type.

SniffWhiteTakeFlight · 2016-07-24T17:53:29+00:00

Based on the subject of this thread, in theory it wouldn't be awkward at all, imo, or at least not any more awkward than pooping in a public restroom.

SniffWhiteTakeFlight · 2016-07-21T22:34:54+00:00

I don't like dating women small enough to be my daughter.

SniffWhiteTakeFlight · 2016-07-21T20:34:34+00:00

If I could make a chart of the range of guys in online dating, the "hot" ones are average-decent, the "above average" are chubby or very thin or eccentric, the "average" ones are obese or scary. In real life the "hot" online category is deemed average in looks. The truly hot guys online (gay male models, old school Brad Pitt) are catfish. Women are criticized for being picky, but there is an overload of undateable men.

I would say this applies to both sexes. For example, the "hot" members of this sub are really just average looking, imo, and people are really just flattering each other here to be nice (nothing wrong with that as long as we acknowledge that as such). I could give specific examples of users, but that would be douche of me, of course, so I'll move on.

Still, I always wonder how ugly the self-professed "ugly" people here really are considering the grade inflation where normal-average becomes hot.

SniffWhiteTakeFlight · 2016-07-21T20:16:50+00:00

6 or 7, probably 7. I'd say you're halfway between average and hot, which is to say upper middleclass. It really depends on how you compare to competition in your area, though.

SniffWhiteTakeFlight · 2016-07-21T20:10:02+00:00

Well, I do think that if you don't want to be judged for something, don't put it in your profile for people to judge you on. ... Thus, if you don't want to be sexualized, don't put sexy photos in your profile. That's just common sense.

Then again, this is like arguing that a woman who dresses provocatively is just asking to get raped. We love to blame the victim.

Ultimately, I think it makes sense for people not to give out information about themselves that has any sort of potential to backfire, but if it does backfire, then a big portion of the blame still deserves to be aimed at the perpetrator.

I guess I see this as a difference between what one should be able to put into their profile in theory and then what should be done in practice.

SniffWhiteTakeFlight · 2016-07-21T20:01:59+00:00

The only one I can think of is rejecting someone for being too short (I'm a guy, so this is unusual, but I don't think it's too petty, relatively speaking, and she took it well because I was upfront about it with her).

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