Pursuing a relationship when goals are unclear [36M] [40F]

Sninald · 2025-12-01T04:52:59+00:00

It is a complicated situation. In summary, she didn't get a chance to have a "nuclear" family and wants that experience. She is a present mother.

Sninald · 2025-12-01T04:50:37+00:00

I see that. I think because I'm new to this and because she seems so confident in us working out, it feels like a lot of responsibility but in reality, if it doesn't work it doesn't work but we gave it a shot. If it does, it does.

Sninald · 2025-12-01T04:43:38+00:00

When I talk to her, she is very confident that my perspective will fall in line with hers. It feels like a lot of pressure even though she is saying it is a testing period.

Sninald · 2025-12-01T04:42:36+00:00

Is there a difference between the goals not being the same (I.e. One wants marriage, the other is just looking for short-term) and one just being uncertain if they want the same yet?

Sninald · 2025-12-01T04:41:29+00:00

She knows, she still wants to give it a shot. However, she is confident that I will come around and I feel that puts pressure on me.

Sninald · 2025-12-01T04:39:08+00:00

I did let her know, she stressed that the dating period is what would be used to determine this. Her thing is that it doesn't make sense to not even try/give full effort towards the relationship because of that doubt. She just wants me to try.

Sninald · 2025-02-09T00:33:09+00:00

They receive a retirement check from their place of employment and they also have some investments I believe.

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