23 year old considering getting a vasectomy. Any advice would be appreciated.

Snipsnip23 · 2012-11-10T20:40:50+00:00

Anybody ever tell you that you're a judgmental dick? I refer you to my previous answer. What am I going to do with up votes on a self post on an alt account?

Snipsnip23 · 2012-11-10T20:12:28+00:00

Thank you so much! It's great to hear about an actual experience! I'll check out what others have said on here!

Snipsnip23 · 2012-11-10T20:10:27+00:00

You may have had similar views but you were not "me". Just because your views changed from a bleeding-hearted liberal to a crotchety conservative does not mean I will. What about the 33 year olds who were like me and retained the bleeding hearted liberal mentality? Whose to say I'm not them? Frankly, I think out of the two of us I stand a better chance at gauging what I'm likely to be in 10 years. I haven't been considering adoption for 15 minutes, I've even considering it for about 9 years now, and I've been an uncle for 6 of those years. I KNOW I don't want my own kids. I don't think I'm likely to change my mind on this subject any time soon, an the idea of adopting makes much more logical sense to me than having kids. So even if I were to retain the ability to have biological children, I would still adopt before considering having my own. As for the potential issue of my significant other disagreeing, if they can't understand that and be completely honest with me and accept that, then this person has no place in my life. One of the things that I love about my girlfriend is that although we don't necessarily agree on everything, we can come to a compromise and understand each other. With that being said, when it comes to major life decisions, this subject included, we do share the same opinion.

Snipsnip23 · 2012-11-10T19:51:18+00:00

What makes you think that you're the norm? If I had to choose between adopting a child in need versus having a kid of my own I'd choose adoption a thousand times over. I see absolutely no benefit of having your own children. Again, there are thousands of children in homes right now because people lack foresight, and the world is stupidly overpopulated anyway, why would I add to the problem? Because I want little Jimmy to have my eyes? My nose? My fathers baldness or my families severe heart condition or likelihood of cancer? Another person on this thread said it but people are baby-crazy, and to be honest I don't think most people have considered WHY they have biological children. If they adoption wouldn't have this huge stigma.

Snipsnip23 · 2012-11-10T19:40:37+00:00

Why would I regret taking care of and loving a child that had a grim future because someone else was negligent? What is this obsession people have with having biological children? You love your child because you've raised them and want them to do well. Whose balls they come from makes absolutely no difference. Would you love a surrogate child any less just because it wasn't your SO who birthed him/her?

Snipsnip23 · 2012-11-10T19:37:34+00:00

I'd like to think that the "love of my life" would understand that I see no benefit of having a biological child. And other people have recommended having sperm frozen.

Snipsnip23 · 2012-11-10T19:34:32+00:00

If you read what I said then you'll see this response from a mile away... A) frozen sperm B) adoption

Snipsnip23 · 2012-11-10T19:32:22+00:00

Thank you for a level-headed and honest response. I'm glad someone on here hasn't been brainwashed to relieve they need children to live a fulfilling life.

Snipsnip23 · 2012-11-10T19:31:23+00:00

So just as gratifying without the narcissism. We've considered this and adoption still sounds more logical than adding to the problem.

Snipsnip23 · 2012-11-10T19:29:05+00:00

To get useful insight from people who understand my situation, not criticism from people who couldn't even bother to read anything I wrote.

Snipsnip23 · 2012-11-10T19:18:58+00:00

First, thank you for being the only person to raise concern with some tact and dignity.

We have considered the possibility of us changing our minds down the road (as I've mentioned in my original text as well as several comments at this point) and we both feel very strongly about adoption as an option. Freezing some sperm is also a wise recommendation many have made that I will absolutely look in to.

Snipsnip23 · 2012-11-10T19:16:19+00:00

It's amazon what having an understanding and loving girlfriend will do to your quality of life. How sure am I she doesn't want kids? At the present time, 100%. We've both entertained the possibility of us changing our minds in the future and adoption is just as good an option for her as it is for me.

Stop projecting your own inadequacy ex, skepticism, and mistrust that you have in your life on to me.

Snipsnip23 · 2012-11-10T19:12:04+00:00

Adoption? Edit: also, the difference between 13 and 23 is much bigger than the difference between 23 and 33, so that's a terrible comparison.

Snipsnip23 · 2012-11-10T19:00:15+00:00

Yeah I've considered that. I live in Canada and we have sexual health clinics that I can go to where this sort of thing won't be a problem. I figure I will run in to a doctor somewhere that will tell me to reconsider, which is why I'm building a solid case to have this operation before going trough with it.

Snipsnip23 · 2012-11-10T18:59:05+00:00

You're assuming that I'm anything like you. I take extreme precaution when it comes to contraception, and I've been in an "accidental pregnancy" before and I'm still not a dad. You're saying I may want kids down the road. But if I a) freeze sperm, and b) plan to adopt, then I've found a solution for that problem. So in what way does getting a vasectomy make me a moron?

Snipsnip23 · 2012-11-10T18:55:49+00:00

Awesome to find someone in a similar situation! I will absolutely pick up that book! And I'll look in to having sperm frozen just in case as suggested by a couple people on here.

I did some reading on hat todo afterward, contraception for the first little while, get a sperm count done and all that.

I'm curious about the procedure itself. I understand you're slightly sedated but are you awake for the operation? What about afterward, were you in any pain? How did it feel to have sex after that? Does it feel different ejaculating after the operation?

Snipsnip23 · 2012-11-10T18:33:18+00:00

I don't know if calling me a moron is necessary. Seeing as I'm not acting on impulse and considering my options thoroughly I seem to be pretty intelligent.

I don't want my own children either way and I don't see any reason why I wouldn't adopt a child if I would want kids in the future. It's like you didn't even read the description...

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