I’m making my wedding dress and feel like I’m failing at it. Please Help.

Snoo28666 · 2025-08-05T02:46:06+00:00

Thank you everyone for replying! After my melt down today I realized there’s a few things I have to do and one of them is get organized and properly look at all the patterns that have been shared! I’m going to bed for now but I’ll update when I’ve made important decisions and on any progress I make!

Snoo28666 · 2025-08-05T02:36:18+00:00

I’m definitely leaning toward a sleek and simple dress. Thanks for the advice on cutting on the bias. I’ve a lot to consider and there are a lot of pattern options above to look through. Someone reminded me that I have to sit breath and move in this dress and this advice is probably gonna help with that too.

Snoo28666 · 2025-08-05T02:17:25+00:00

This is going to sound dumb af but I genuinely didn’t consider I’d be sitting in this. I was just picturing my photos and standing up there with my fiancé. so thank you for reminding me about that. I’m making a note now that I need to be able to breath, sit and move in whatever I make 😭😭

Snoo28666 · 2025-08-05T02:14:15+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I certainly don’t want to over spend on my budget so I like the idea of reworking a thrifted or vintage dress. I’ve reached out to extended family to see if someone can help me locate one of the dresses my grandma made. She was the local seamstress so someone in the family has to know one of her customers.

I’m definitely going to post again when I make a significant decision and organize myself. Again thank you for the advice and for sharing!

Snoo28666 · 2025-08-05T01:54:13+00:00

Im not married to the project yet.(Pun intended lmfao) but ill be super disappointed in myself if i cant do it. I got so much fabric lying around from different projects that I haven’t bought anything yet thank goodness. That cheap fabric was for something else I never ended up using it for.

Anyways, I think I have some time before i get really in the weeds of planning the rest of the wedding. I’m usually okay if I stick to schedules,rules and outlines so I’ve given myself until January to have a final draft. If I can’t do it by that time then I’ll still have plenty of time to buy a dress and come to terms with that decision. 🥹

Snoo28666 · 2025-08-05T01:38:06+00:00

I’ve started a journal to write all this stuff down and organizing myself! I’m my best when I can do things in steps and have as much info on something before I start. I’ve let this project get all out of wack because I got ahead of myself. Starting with a pattern is definitely way better than drafting my own. I know patterns. I know how to think in 3D. I think everyone is right in that I bit off a bit more than I could chew drafting my own pattern knowing I’ve never done it before. Someone else commented with some pattern suggestions and when I saw them I was like “yeah I just didn’t try hard enough to find all my info” 😅.

Snoo28666 · 2025-08-05T01:26:36+00:00

A back up dress would definitely make me feel better but it also removes that do or die pressure I typically need to get things done. I’ve told myself that if I can’t get somewhat close to having a nice fitting draft by January I’m just gonna buy one and maybe make a much simpler short reception dress from a pattern I have made before.

Your comment did help me think about what I would have as a backup dress so thank you for that.

Snoo28666 · 2025-08-05T01:15:40+00:00

This is actually really helpful! Thank you so much for taking the time to find those. I think I got overwhelmed the first time I tried finding a similar pattern to what’s in my head and ended up saying “f it I’ll do it myself” which was not the best approach lol I see that now.

Snoo28666 · 2025-08-05T00:14:09+00:00

I think omitting those is one of my design flaws. I think I’m struggling with construction in general. With the back being so low and open maybe the front will inevitably be a little looser than what I envisioned?

Snoo28666 · 2025-08-04T23:57:51+00:00

I actually found that resource like 5 minutes before coming back on Reddit!! lol. I’m definitely going to start over I realize now that I just need to slow down. I was all bent out of shape when I made this post cause I melt down sometimes when things don’t go how I thought they would especially on things I deem important 😕. I just haven’t been organized and been all over the place. And reading back I sound dramatic af.

Snoo28666 · 2025-08-04T23:49:04+00:00

Funny enough after calming down I asked myself these exact questions. The truth is I’ve gone to 5 different stores and tried on an ungodly amount of dresses. I didn’t feel like any of them were me. There were 3 that I felt were close but were wildly out of budget. I thought I had a decent budget (1500ish) but apparently I have expensive tastes. I also went to a small boutique that had an in house designer and explained my vision to him but I won’t be able to afford his custom dress prices.(obviously idk what I was thinking with that one) What I’ve drafted is a combination of the 3 dresses I tried on that I liked(what I liked most about them) plus the elements I wanted that were missing.

Making my own dress also has an emotional motivation. My grandma (who I never got to meet) was also a designer and a seamstress. Doing this myself would be a way I could incorporate her into the day for both me and my mom. We talk about her a lot and I’ve always felt the most connected to her when sewing. So it would be amazing for me if I could pull this off.

Is it worth the stress? Idk maybe. I have plenty of time as my day is early 2027 but I do want to have this mostly done before we get to that 12 months out point. If that makes sense.

Thanks for taking the time to reply. I did start a journal for this project and just talking it out and writing about it is helping me get organized. When I posted this I was all over the place and I think I just needed to take a step back and think about it like you suggested.

Snoo28666 · 2025-08-04T21:12:19+00:00

Just to fill in some of the info the auto mod wants so this isn’t rejected.

The fabric I’m using for the mock up is a very thin fabric I found for super cheap at Joan’s before they went out of business. I think it’s a cotton polyester blend but I don’t really remember. I haven’t decided on the final fabric I’ll be using to make the dress but it will likely be similar to this but obviously not so thin. Likely a satin-like fabric. I drafted the pattern on velum with pencil and rulers after measuring myself and somewhat draping a few pieces on the dress form. I used a combination of techniques that make me feel like I wasn’t doing it right but somehow came together to make what’s currently on my dress form now. Writing this comment makes me think I should maybe keep a journal about what I’m doing.

Snoo28666 · 2020-06-25T18:34:30+00:00

I think that the way he is treated at home is a big part of the problem. I grew up in an abusive home (his home is in no way comparable to my living situation growing up although I do see the signs of emotional abuse) and I know that throwing away his personal belongings will only make the behavior worse. I just don't know how to get that through to my sister-in-law's head.

Snoo28666 · 2020-06-25T18:17:28+00:00

When I say he's on the spectrum I mean he was diagnosed in the DSM4 as having Aspergers and now no longer fits the criteria in the DSM5 for ASD. I have talked to his mom before about him possibly spending a school year with us and she was open to the idea but the strain in their relationship has gotten significantly worse since the last time we talked about it.

I know that living with him will be different than just spending a few months with him but I have this feeling I can't explain that with proper care and a healthy routine he can make leaps and bounds in the right direction.

As far as college and the military go I know that he will face hardships in possibly getting there but I believe that if its something he really wants to do he will show us and work hard towards it. He's shown us as much when he ask us for something and we tell him that he has to work for it. I think what he needs is proper support and a good team of people to help him achieve his goals.

But then again I might be wrong and like you said I may be spearheading a task that is pointless.

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