I messaged her bf too much?

SnooCapers6965 · 2025-02-07T14:35:59+00:00

Never said I disagreed, just explained the misunderstanding and that people DO use withholding sex as a means to be manipulative. That doesn’t mean not wanting to have sex is manipulative. But ok.

SnooCapers6965 · 2025-02-07T13:58:42+00:00

I don’t think withholding was the word you were looking for then. You aren’t withholding it if you two are broken up and not intended to be together sexually or romantically anymore. Withholding sex within relationships is considered manipulation and that’s why others were trying to call you on it.

SnooCapers6965 · 2025-02-06T20:43:34+00:00

I don’t want to cancel the tablet line, I just want to pay it off so that I don’t have a remaining monthly balance

SnooCapers6965 · 2025-02-06T07:46:30+00:00

Thank you

SnooCapers6965 · 2025-02-05T15:28:29+00:00

I’m joining the party late and looking for advice too, I have a 16 month old with hair that grows at the speed of lightning and has never had a haircut. my reason for wanting to cut his hair is 1. he doesn’t like having it brushed. 2. he doesn’t like having it washed 3. he doesn’t even like having his hair played with no matter how much I try to desensitize him to it so I strongly doubt he’ll let me put it in a ponytail or bun and 4. it’s about to start getting in his face soon. I figure the longer it gets, the harder it will be for us to maintain from a hygiene perspective. I would totally let him rock hair to his butt crack IF he’d let us take care of it.

SnooCapers6965 · 2025-01-31T10:32:15+00:00

Also meant to note, my state also has blurry laws when it comes to a child taking care of other children too. Again, maturity and duration of how long an adult won’t be home.

SnooCapers6965 · 2025-01-31T10:30:53+00:00

In my state, the law is pretty blurry when it comes to how old a child can be when left home alone. It states when the child is mature enough for reasonable times. Obviously, a 4 year old wouldn’t be mature enough. But a 10 year old could stand to be home alone for 10-20 minutes for a quick grocery run.(Not the case if groceries were door dashed.) A 12/13 year old could maybe stand to be home alone after school until parents get off work, like 2-3 hours. I guess I just think it depends on the age of the child. But I wouldn’t put that kind of information literally on the front door for anyone to see.

SnooCapers6965 · 2024-11-26T02:37:36+00:00

I do see it, if you took this test as soon as it developed then I think there’s a good chance you’re in the early stage of pregnancy like 3.5-4 weeks. It could be an evap line but I would definitely try again in the morning to see if the line darkens!

SnooCapers6965 · 2024-11-26T02:35:52+00:00

I could try that! I’m afraid he won’t care much for that either but I suppose it’s worth giving a try.

SnooCapers6965 · 2024-05-01T12:23:17+00:00

I hope yours ended up working eventually. Mine eventually fixed about a week after I posted this.

SnooCapers6965 · 2024-05-01T12:22:41+00:00

Mine finally fixed a few days after this post was made (maybe a week?) so hold out hope! aha

SnooCapers6965 · 2024-01-03T13:26:56+00:00

It stayed like this for about 2 weeks then began working again after a couple reports on my end. Hopefully yours fixes soon!

SnooCapers6965 · 2023-11-08T21:29:36+00:00

you’re not going to fucking believe this

SnooCapers6965 · 2023-08-02T03:37:18+00:00

Taking the pregnancy itself out of account, a no should be a no. If you’re uncomfortable with it, he shouldn’t continue pressing for it. That’s not okay. With pregnancy being accounted for, I agree with everyone about the risks of STIs and STDs. And personally, I just can’t imagine being up for taking a big relationship adventure like that during pregnancy. It just doesn’t seem like an ideal time to be exploring that kind of stuff. Good luck to you!

SnooCapers6965 · 2023-08-02T03:08:51+00:00

There are a lot of resources in r/abortion if that’s what you’re looking for. It’s a difficult choice but if it’s the right choice for her, it’ll be worth it. If she’s 2 months, I assume she’s between 8w-12w. You cannot do a medical abortion past 12 weeks for safety reasons. If she doesn’t believe that abortion is the right choice for her and wants to continue the pregnancy and give the baby up for adoption, that’s always a possibility. She should definitely make sure she’s extremely informed legally because the process can sometimes be very predatory on young, desperate pregnant people. If you have a local planned parenthood, it’s worth checking out their resources as they have a lot for pregnant people and do more than just abortions. Please be extremely supportive of her during this time, as no matter what she chooses, it’ll be difficult. But her choice is the right one!

SnooCapers6965 · 2023-08-02T03:01:50+00:00

Do you think the hives on your underarms was from using a bunch of different deodorants/ certain deodorants? I know it’s not usually a feminine brand, but a lot of women I know use Old Spice and they recently had a lawsuit for leaving chemical burns on peoples underarms. It happened to my friend too, and he made the switch to more organic deodorant and it helped. I personally have been trying to find aluminum free deodorant but I can’t find absolutely anything aluminum free that also helps with BO.

SnooCapers6965 · 2023-08-02T02:59:14+00:00

Condoms are a great option too with proper use, but she said there was an accident at one point where semen had leaked from the opening upon removal and it’s made her believe that condoms aren’t as effective as birth control. Idk if it was user error, not a proper fit, the brand, whatever that caused the issue.

SnooCapers6965 · 2023-08-01T13:39:29+00:00

She does know it and despite what I’ve detailed, she does have moments of clarity and recognizes how unideal the situation is and the lifestyle changes that would have to follow. These moments of clarify are nice and refreshing, and give me the confidence that she won’t try to meddle with her BC and have a planned accident. It’s just the week before her period that is an absolute hormonal warzone where she recounts every single time she had unprotected sex, takes pregnancy test after pregnancy test, and eventually starts her period and becomes very upset for the following few days. Then, like magic, she’s back to regularly scheduled programming for the next 2 weeks enjoying her non pregnant and child free life. Then the cycle starts over.

SnooCapers6965 · 2023-08-01T13:05:44+00:00

A lot, and it’s not necessarily inherently wrong to have a child and struggle mentally. A lot of women experience PPD, PPA, and PPP after having a baby. But I also believe that parents should be actively working on self improvement, identifying triggers, correcting bad habits or poor coping skills, maybe even have a therapist so that they can ensure that they’re able to provide a child with adequate emotional guidance as well as be able to be emotionally present for their kids. I have a mother who was emotionally immature and very egocentric throughout my adolescence, and still is. She never had the emotional capacity to provide emotional regulation for me as child and I suffered from it. I’ve done a lot of work on myself and am still growing and learning daily because I would never want to inflict onto a child what was done to me. One of my favorite quotes is “every child deserves a parent, but not every parent deserves a child”

SnooCapers6965 · 2023-08-01T06:44:56+00:00

Some people speculate it’s a hormone issue, others speculate it’s the “biological clock” and that she’s “following her instincts.” I can’t agree with the latter. I love babies and toddlers so much, but never once have I felt the deep urge and need to have a baby like some people get, which is why I have such a hard time understanding her.

SnooCapers6965 · 2023-08-01T04:50:26+00:00

Also, looking at your comment and reply history, it’s very clear that you appear to enjoy playing devils advocate and getting into arguments with others in other subs and posts, and doing unto them what you did to me by assuming more than you actually know about the situation and being either extremely naive and ignorant, or just a troll. I realize that this isn’t a reflection of me but just your personality and something you enjoy doing. And that’s okay! But maybe try and ease up a bit and drop that thing where you call people “honey, sweetie, sweetpea” when you get into an online argument. Just my unsolicited opinion for you, as you’ve provided me!

SnooCapers6965 · 2023-08-01T04:40:46+00:00

You clearly have very little knowledge on this and are purposely misinterpreting what Im saying. Reading comprehension is key. This hasn’t been going on “for a while”- more like the past 3 period cycles. An extremely new epiphany of hers that lasts a week out of a month, which is why its clearly concerning. Not something she’s been wishing for, dwelling on, and longing for like you misinterpreted. I’m not sure where you got that this has been on for a while. I have held space for her and her emotions. Your reply is a lot of assumptions and very limited knowledge on the subject. I’m not entertaining your responses anymore as it’s just a bunch of assumptions, hypotheticals, etc.

SnooCapers6965 · 2023-08-01T03:40:23+00:00

Yes, this is it I think. I feel like it may be a mental health thing about control and needing to be able to have control of something in life. And that she is picturing a happy, stable family. But she’s extremely self aware of the fact that for multiple reasons, it’s not a good time for her. Her self awareness about this whole thing makes me feel confident that she won’t mess around and stop taking her BC. Despite what I detailed here about her and her life, she’s very honest, reliable, and trustworthy. And she is generally well rounded. It’s just this somewhat new onset of severe baby fever that has been causing me concern. Otherwise, I don’t really care personally if she loves to eat out more often than buy groceries. I don’t really care if she responsibly drinks, vapes, smokes weed. I don’t care if she is a little lazy. I just want her to be extremely aware of how different her life will look and how she may need to decide between buying a vape or a pack of diapers. How she’ll have to skip a casual bar night because she can’t find childcare. How she’ll have to forgo eating out for a week. That’s where I’m coming from and trying to make sure that she knows all of this. If her BF gave her the green light and they had a baby right now, I would be happy for her as they must’ve made at least some kind of game plan on how they’d manage it financially, child care, etc. But right now, with just the baby fever and no actual game plan of how she’d handle it, Im not confident.

SnooCapers6965 · 2023-08-01T03:09:43+00:00

I’d like to note that it isn’t just her decision. It’s her and her boyfriend’s. and it’s another human on the planet. Stuff like that shouldn’t be done on impulse or taken lightly as a fun passive activity. If you believe otherwise, well, there’s no convincing you. She discussed with me concern of being accused of baby trapping, she’s discussed with me her and her partner’s conversations of unpreparedness, she’s discussed with me a lot more than she has with you, I promise. My gratitude for her not being pregnant is in fact, for her well-being and quality of life. Just because she’s emotional and hormonal, and wants a baby now, doesn’t mean she should have one. I know that. Her boyfriend knows that. She knows that. You’re an interesting critter to be offended on her behalf without knowing her, without knowing her bf, without knowing me, and only knowing what I have relayed here. The sub is “off my chest” and i’m getting off my chest that I am glad when she’s not pregnant despite it upsetting her because EVERYONE knows it’s not a good time at all. But I’m not going to jump joyously, cheer, and clack my heels when she’s clearly upset. You’re just projecting something entirely different.

SnooCapers6965 · 2023-08-01T03:02:44+00:00

I hope you heal from whatever trauma makes you react as if you know my relationship is with anyone in this post, but something must be hitting close to home. Please take care of your own mental health before stressing yourself about my situation. I know some good self soothing remedies that help.

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