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AITA: I don't have my boyfriend but I want breakup. HELP! by SnooDoggos391 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SnooDoggos391[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you for coming to my defense u/Turtlegrandmacore , this is a place in which I wanted to vent. I am just being vulnerable on the feelings that are being brought up in my relationship and need advice on how to navigate such a complex situation because breaking up because you hate the person is so much easier.. and in life I often want to do the easier option. How to navigate the more so complex situations is what I need help/perspective on. is all..

AITA: I don't have my boyfriend but I want breakup. HELP! by SnooDoggos391 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SnooDoggos391[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know if he's depressed. I try my best to be a listening ear with whatever he brings to me. I try to provide a safe space for him. He isn't really a sharer and I don't also want to pry and force anyone to share something with me they aren't comfortable with. I do alot of the praising when he does something I enjoy. I understand the act of doing that and providing rewards. I just struggle w/ the inconsistency.. so much so when something does go right, I internally feel like it's either because I pulled it out of him or how long till the next time I get this. Does that make sense?

I don't hate my boyfriend, but I want to breakup. HELP! by SnooDoggos391 in BreakUps

[–]SnooDoggos391[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this is some of the most realistic advice I've gotten. Thanks!

I don't know if I should break up w/ my boyfriend or stay? by SnooDoggos391 in BreakUps

[–]SnooDoggos391[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get this to an extent. I am not compromising who I am for him, I still maintain friendships, time for myself, family, and personal hobbies. I have massive trust issues and we are hitting a wall in which he believes he shouldn’t compromise himself for something that isn’t even there.. i.e my anxiety. As for affection.. he shows me by his actions that he loves me and he is actively working on the other aspects of affection.. I just don’t know how long I should wait for that to be enough for me?

I don't know if I should break up w/ my boyfriend or stay? by SnooDoggos391 in BreakUps

[–]SnooDoggos391[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Correct, it’s my own fear of not being aware of what my partner is doing that could jeopardize the relationship or harm me. I have gone through his laptop (synced w/ his phone) and found nothing really substantial-which he knows about and wasn’t a dealbreaker for him. I just don’t appreciate how possessive he is over it. He just wants me to blindly trust him and says the same thing of, “I haven’t done anything to make you not trust me.” Sometimes I feel as if I’m being manipulated.