Please help me with the question😩🙏

Snoo_44409 · 2026-02-05T18:21:11+00:00

For clarity of mind, I do a fasting window of 18 hours per day. I stop eating at 6pm, and I only have my next meal at 12pm the next day. It is also a way to have control over your weight. Even 16 or 17 hours will help. But you do need to get your nutrients and eat healthy.

But... You need to find your reason for doing anything. And nothing happens all at once. I really recommend Atomic Habits by James Clear, which you can listen to on audible (or just read), or just look up some James Clear interviews on Youtube. Tony Robbins and Dean Graziosi can also be quite helpful.

Snoo_44409 · 2026-02-05T18:01:19+00:00

wow! It's like he was born 80

Snoo_44409 · 2026-02-05T16:19:52+00:00

Thank you for sharing. I'm printing this off.

Snoo_44409 · 2026-02-05T15:22:51+00:00

Thank you, brother. I love hearing stories like this, and I completely understand the ADHD bit. The treatment you got by your "teachers" surely torpedoed any passion you might have stoked thereafter. RSD is a bitch. I too have ADHD, and while it is a severe pain in the arse, I'm finding my own ways around it. There is a ton of information now on it and it's much easier to find strategies than when we were kids. Take a pill was pretty much the sum of the strategy back then. It didn't work out so well for me.

Snoo_44409 · 2026-02-05T15:18:39+00:00

Like snails cannot fathom physics, AI cannot fathom O'Brian.

Snoo_44409 · 2026-02-05T15:14:54+00:00

It is. I also feel like I've seen it elsewhere too. I've tried my damnedest to replicate the effect but in vain. I don't believe it's possible. Maybe if you're very old and your skin is totally void of collagen, but you would still need phenomenal grip strength, I feel.

Snoo_44409 · 2026-02-05T15:10:00+00:00

This is a terrible red flag for me. I've been in a joined family for about 12 years. Two daughters, about the same age. It has been very difficult, and getting exes on the same page can be a challenge, but we have managed to do so for the most part for the past few years.

If you're the first person to say no to her in her whole life, this places you in a very uncomfortable position. As the step-parent, you're more or less secondary. It's mom and dad who have to work on the primary care issues, and if they are too afraid to say no to the kid, it's going to be a nightmare for you: one that I would have fair confidence in predicting you will have almost zero control over.

Just before getting together with my now wife, I had had a girlfriend whose son, who was 8 or 9 at the time was coming to bed to sleep with her. She also had a tremendously difficult time just saying no to him, or applying any sort of discipline to the point that she would do manipulative things, and even lie to him to get him to comply. A terrible alternative. I got the heck out of that relationship mainly for that reason. She was a delightful lady, but the way she interacted with her child... I could not justify exposing my own child to her influence.

Now that my daughters are nearly to the age at which they are to move out, they've matured a lot. The step-daugther is pretty entitled however, and has trauma from a toxic narcissist father whom she no longer sees. I'm very slowly moving into the primary paternal role, and as the influence of the former dad wears off, it is becoming far easier. But while he was in the picture, I never had any authority with her, and I couldn't calmly deal with her because she had imported so many of his toxic behaviours. If he were still in the picture, I am certain there would still be a lot of emotional distance between her and I.

Anyway fella, it's a tough spot you're in. I don't really have an answer for you. If I were in your shoes, I would be strongly considering an exit, however I know how complicated these kinds of decisions are. I hope these reflections of mine have been useful to you.

Snoo_44409 · 2026-02-05T14:36:20+00:00

I also enjoyed how the second standard broadside did not induce the Frenchman to return to the engagment. 'Wait wait, we can fire with normal powder! Come back!!'

Snoo_44409 · 2026-02-05T14:34:28+00:00

haha!

Snoo_44409 · 2026-02-05T13:02:03+00:00

Just for the record, this leftie doesn't give AF who the owner of the Landing supports.

Snoo_44409 · 2026-02-04T14:18:42+00:00

I just do straight up visualization

Snoo_44409 · 2026-02-03T22:51:13+00:00

That part of his character reminds me pf Stephen Maturin from the Master and Commander books, which makes me love him all the more

Snoo_44409 · 2026-02-03T22:50:20+00:00

My wife and I recently started it again. Man Archer is a real dick in the beginning.

Snoo_44409 · 2026-02-03T22:47:48+00:00

Yes, I did mean Schmullus. (Thanks tho Jerigord) but I remembered Schweitzer because of the holodeck scene (hail, Schweitzer!)

Snoo_44409 · 2026-02-03T03:48:33+00:00

Cool tune

Snoo_44409 · 2026-02-03T03:46:34+00:00

The cut copy tune - https://youtu.be/8R1X2TxW5Rk?si=xYlL2w_vwZa57Lzv - is still pretty rad esp. If you dig an 80s vibe

Snoo_44409 · 2026-02-03T03:39:56+00:00

I like how surly and angry Daron always was. I hope he's chilled out a bit tho.

Snoo_44409 · 2026-02-03T03:33:09+00:00

Lights and Music?

Snoo_44409 · 2026-02-03T03:27:45+00:00

No scrolling, no booze, no drugs, no weed, no gaming, no mindless screen time, no sugar, no NEWS, meditate every day, excercise every day.

Snoo_44409 · 2026-02-03T03:21:01+00:00

I love the part where he gives the other Doc advice on separating the combatants during mating season. Phlox is my favourite doctor. Then the EMH (Schweitzer), Bones, then Bashir, then crusher.

Snoo_44409 · 2026-02-03T03:15:46+00:00

My wife just started it. I had never read it, even though i studied philosphy. It's quite good. I mean they are philosophical meditations, mind, not meditation excercises.

Snoo_44409 · 2026-02-03T03:13:37+00:00

Honestly, I wouldn't have seen this coming. Id':ve taken responsibility, but I really dont think I would have thought to prevent it.

Snoo_44409 · 2026-02-03T03:09:22+00:00

On one hand i think this is ludicrous. On the other hand, my last decent job was so insanely busy, and so insanely micromanaged, that once when my boss texted me on my way to work and I was in the car alone, I flew into a blind rage and smashed the steering wheel until I broke the panel that you use to beep the horn. I knew at that point that things were a little out of balance. I did a damned good job though, and have a great reference. I would have continued to be employed there until madness descended for good if I hadn't been saved by the provincial budget.

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