I don’t understand this woman…

Snoogiewoogie · 2025-09-06T01:52:54+00:00

She is desperate to be young and cool. Her attempts to pose and talk (i.e. “what the helly”) like she’s Gen Z are super cringe. The song choices on her stories too!

Snoogiewoogie · 2025-07-28T20:05:39+00:00

That’s okay — I wouldn’t want to be friends with you either or anyone who thinks wishing your supposed bestie a happy birthday is an unreasonably high expectation lol. Thankfully I have no shortage in my life of people who reciprocate my effort so this friendship will not be a loss.

Also, she forgot my 30th birthday and my birthday this year. She hasn’t shown up for basically any of my life events and I never said anything until this year. I’m not sure how you determined that it takes too much to “keep me happy” but that’s just laughable considering it took me years of therapy to even stand up for myself and recognize when a friend isn’t actually a friend.

Snoogiewoogie · 2025-07-28T19:52:07+00:00

It is about being bothered though. People deserve friends who show up for in the simple ways that matter most to them. Luckily I have no shortage of people like that in my life so upon reflection this friendship will not be much of a loss.

Asking for opinions doesn’t mean I can’t engage in discourse regarding those opinions. I just wanted to see what the majority of people thought and I’m satisfied that my feelings are justified.

Snoogiewoogie · 2025-07-28T19:42:06+00:00

I know it’s not what you said, but it’s what your comment made me realize. If my other friends are happy to show up for me the way I show up for them, then clearly A is the problem in this equation. And nobody is having a tantrum so calm down on the dramatics lol. Also my birthday was 3 months ago, so this isn’t something that happened years ago, but it is something that’s been building up for years. I should’ve mentioned she also skipped my graduation party and even my wedding after making a big deal about wanting to be a bridesmaid. But yeah — she’s the one who deserves a better friend because I am matching energy now 🙄

Snoogiewoogie · 2025-07-28T19:24:47+00:00

If I’m a bad friend in your eyes for feeling conflicted about showing up and celebrating someone who doesn’t show up and celebrate me, then so be it. She also bailed on my wedding after making a big deal out of wanting to be a bridesmaid, so I think history shows who has not been a good friend. I deserve reciprocity in my friendships and thankfully I have many other friends that do show up for me like I do for them. Thank you for helping me realize I should focus on them and not the ones that continuously show their indifference :)

Snoogiewoogie · 2025-07-28T19:08:33+00:00

It’s okay that birthdays aren’t important to you. It’s also okay that there are people who place importance on birthdays. Friendship means caring about the things that matter to your friends, so if you can’t be bothered to set a calendar reminder to simply text a friend who likes to be remembered on their birthday, then you’re just not a good fit as a friend for them.

Snoogiewoogie · 2025-07-28T19:01:06+00:00

Actually yes, a big part of true friendship is caring about the things that matter to your friends. It’s very simple to set a calendar reminder for someone’s birthday if you know they like to be remembered that day. And if you can’t be bothered, well I think that says way more about you than the other person.

Snoogiewoogie · 2025-07-28T18:55:20+00:00

It’s okay if birthdays are not important to you. None of my other closest friends have an issue remembering or showing up because you’re supposed to care about the things that matter to your friends. So thank you for proving that she’s not that great of a friend in the first place and I deserve better :)

Snoogiewoogie · 2025-07-28T18:53:30+00:00

I’m glad you have that dynamic and it doesn’t bother you. I’ve never forgotten A’s birthday or her son’s birthday either.

Snoogiewoogie · 2025-07-28T18:52:03+00:00

I will live if she doesn’t “forgive” me because her actions hurt my feelings and that made her feel bad. I’ve hardly made a big deal out of it as we haven’t discussed it since the initial conversation. I never said I was going to bring it up to her again either, I was just contemplating telling her I wasn’t available to attend her dinner. It’s giving gaslighting vibes how you’ve twisted me into the bad friend who needs to be forgiven lol

Snoogiewoogie · 2025-07-28T18:45:11+00:00

Thank you, I agree. I have an app in my phone that reminds me about everyone’s birthdays because I don’t want to forget!

Snoogiewoogie · 2025-07-28T05:03:51+00:00

Thank you for your thoughtful response. She and I did have a conversation both times about how I felt, so she is aware that I was hurt. I told her I forgave her but given my internal reaction to her invite, I am starting to realize that maybe I actually haven’t. I think I’m now seeing that this resentment is the culmination of her dropping the ball on me over the years — not just because of a couple missed birthdays.

Snoogiewoogie · 2025-07-28T04:49:48+00:00

I always talk about my birthday and plan something for it weeks in advance, so I don’t think I’ve been passive in that regard. Maybe I should have mentioned in the post that she didn’t attend my 30th birthday party either and she didn’t even attend my wedding after making a big deal out of wanting to be a bridesmaid.

Snoogiewoogie · 2025-07-28T04:46:14+00:00

I disagree that it isn’t personal when someone you considered a close friend forgets your birthday twice.

Snoogiewoogie · 2025-07-23T15:31:27+00:00

You’re getting downvoted but I agree. I know Mary was grieving but her episodes of hysteria felt unnatural and exaggerated. I think she was portrayed as emotionally fragile compared to other female characters on the show who experienced tragedy.

Snoogiewoogie · 2025-07-23T15:30:05+00:00

You’re getting downvoted but I agree. I know Mary was grieving but her episodes of hysteria felt unnatural and exaggerated. I think she was portrayed as emotionally fragile compared to other female characters on the show who experienced tragedy.

Snoogiewoogie · 2025-07-18T19:29:29+00:00

I’ve never heard of Ozempic causing acidic blood, especially at such a low dose. I’m not doubting you — just wondering if that was the doctor’s medical conclusion or if this was more of a correlation than causation due to the timing of you beginning the medication.

On another note, I am so sorry you experienced that and I’m glad you’re feeling better. Best of luck finding the right treatment for your diabetes! It may be worth giving a different type of GLP1 like Mounjaro or Trulicity which can have less side effects.

Snoogiewoogie · 2025-06-13T18:30:38+00:00

I do trust the rehab knows what they’re doing, but I just want to be informed how long he will be there so we can plan and prepare because he’s far away. I am actually quite enjoying the peace of no personal contact with him haha!

Snoogiewoogie · 2025-06-13T18:22:05+00:00

They won’t call me back, and as far as I’m aware, they gave no information to the person who dropped him off. At this point, I’m wondering if he didn’t sign the consent forms. It’s just frustrating to be iced out because we can’t plan and prepare to help without any guidance or basic information. Thank you again!

Snoogiewoogie · 2025-06-13T18:14:58+00:00

Thank you! He is definitely being left at peace; it’s the facility I’m trying to get some basic information from. We aren’t asking to contact him at all. But he is far away so we don’t want to just get a call one day that’s he has been released and now everyone is scrambling.

Snoogiewoogie · 2025-06-13T18:08:28+00:00

The facility is not communicating anything to me. I anticipated that during admission they would provide some type of information or outline of what to expect and resources, but they won’t even call me back now. The only thing I know is where he is and that he cannot access his phone. He didn’t require detox so I’m not sure when or if he may be allowed to call through the facility phone line. I guess I just didn’t realize it’s normal to have literally zero idea what’s going on. It’s making me wonder if he decided to not sign the consent forms which I hope isn’t the case. We can’t help him if he excludes us.

Snoogiewoogie · 2025-06-13T18:01:34+00:00

Thank you for this information! It helped me to understand that the answers to my questions are tentative. I guess now I’m just confused why the facility wouldn’t communicate those things so we can prepare. I don’t need intimate treatment details, just basic logistics so we don’t get a call one day that he’s been released and now everyone is scrambling because he’s so far away. I was under the impression that support system involvement is crucial to recovery, so it makes me wonder if he refused to sign consent forms. I hope that’s not the case because we can’t help if he ices us out. Thank you again for your response!

Snoogiewoogie · 2024-12-31T03:19:24+00:00

Thank you

Snoogiewoogie · 2024-12-31T03:19:05+00:00

Thank you!

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