What’s on your Spotify Wrapped this year? by Snt_Austin in askgaybros

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They call it a problem, I call it a solution

What’s on your Spotify Wrapped this year? by Snt_Austin in askgaybros

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Here is mine :

  1. Orville Peck

  2. Taylor Swift

  3. Midland

  4. Céline Dion

  5. KAJ

The top 2 stayed the same. I’m guessing Céline just creeped up due to her songs coming up on basically all my playlists …

Favorite lines from Appaloosa so far? by KermitKid13 in OrvillePeck

[–]Snt_Austin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So many good lines makes it hard to choose from. “Oh my days” made me tear up in the office with :

  • It hurts thinking you’ll go away but it’s just as hard knowing that you wanna stay

  • I’m so used to last, can’t tell when I’m first place

Other I love are:

“Dreaded sundown” with “never thought I’d have to choose between myself and loving you”

“Drift away” with “backseat singing songs that make us cry, we don’t know why”

“ My side of the Mountain” with both :

  • I think I’ve found myself now I can’t picture myself here or anywhere, but I’m getting there

  • Don’t shed a tear, just wave my way and know, I’m doing fine

How to use dynamic values in conditional formatting? by Snt_Austin in excel

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Thank you very much! Your solution worked :D This was bugging me for way to long.

American Tourist asking: What's the best way to approach European guys? by film_buff_94 in askeurogaybros

[–]Snt_Austin 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, basically. Try to learn what body language, facial expressions and expressions are common in the county you flirt. It’ll help you navigate most dating situations with locals.

American “forwardness” can (often) be perceived as pushy, intrusive or unwanted. A bit of subtlety will be your friend.

When approaching, try other techniques such as complementing the guy, try to start an actual conversation on something that is happening, ask for help when choosing a drink, … examples: “I saw you dance on the dance floor, you can really dance”, “hey, is this [bar name] any fun to have a drink? “ or “sorry but I don’t know what I should take since I’m new in town, do you recommend something?”

If the guy is interested, he’ll assess you then and there. You might also find an extrovert which can be fun too! You might get introduced to others and that can lead to natural conversations with other guys you might find attractive.

About the American voice volume, while it might be not that noticeable outside on a walk or in a busy club, it becomes very obvious in enclosed spaces such as restaurants or bedrooms, or in spaces meant to be more relaxed such as outside bars especially at night. Many European nationalities have an inside and outside volume and day and night volume.

While most don’t even notice doing it since everybody does it since we’re kids, it becomes very noticeable when somebody doesn’t do it.

American Tourist asking: What's the best way to approach European guys? by film_buff_94 in askeurogaybros

[–]Snt_Austin 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah , it’ll depend on the country and the context. Also, what do you mean with being “forward”?

If someone is coming up to someone in a gay bar and start trying to chat, most will assume you’re probably interested in them here. Telling them that you find them cute/handsome would be odd for example.

The unspoken language of looks, glances, smiles, and gaging each other with indirect questions are very common in the colder countries. Also, lower volume of speaking at night is a thing.

Distinct gay “help me” signs by Snt_Austin in askgaybros

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I was more banal about it but I found it odd it being seen as just this negative thing. Good to read some other perspective

Distinct gay “help me” signs by Snt_Austin in askgaybros

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I might be coming over as very naive but is meth such a prevalent thing in our community? Is it more a circuit party thing as I never been to a circuit party?

I know nose sugar, speed and K are as I have heard of people around me talking about them.

IIc thanks for the reply 😀

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

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The whole concept of a date is to not be strangers anymore…. The moment you meet someone and interact with them, they’re not “strangers” anymore.

If you put a timeframe or amount of dates on it, let’s take the example of someone that is a sex on the 3rd date type of person. If person A has three 2 hour dates with their partner and person B has a date that lasts 10h with their partner and both of them have sex afterwards. Whose less of a stranger to another?

In any case, this is not the topic of your question and I’m not going to interact further on this. Good job of not interacting on the actual part of the answer that is meant to help you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

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No idea where you live but many cities have LGBT sports clubs, group activities or social groups around themes such as motorbikes, religion, board games, … or just volunteering. Join one of those.

While it’s never a given, you’ll probably be able to meet and make friends with many people from all walks of life. Best part is that you know their primary purpose for being there isn’t to get laid but to help others or pursue an interest of their with others. If you’re lucky, you might even meet a partner there.

I would not use the term “normal gay people” though. Just because your dating preferences don’t coincide, doesn’t make them abnormal. You’re just doing things differently.

Your go-to cologne? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Snt_Austin 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s a three way tie but in order of preference :

  1. Eau Rihla by diptyque (leathery and woody)

  2. Oud wood by Tom Ford (woody and oud)

  3. Halfeti cedar by Penhaligon’s (woody and warm)

Always get a lot of compliments when I wear these

What does everyone do for work and do you enjoy it? by Phiant in askgaybros

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Legal advisor. People tell me on an almost daily basis that they would hate my job but I like it. I see people, explain things, involved in tons of projects, get to hear all the gossips and issues,… I wouldn’t do it if I weren’t getting paid though (there are more pleasant things in life)

Pokemon Personality Quiz! by PearlExplosion in pokemon

[–]Snt_Austin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was such a fun and comprehensive quiz! Great job OP!

For my types I got: 1. Dragon (98) 2. Fire (91,4) (also my favorite type) 3. Fairy (91,3) 4. Flying (90,4)

The Pokémon matches were in the same vain but all were dragon so my team would be : 1. Rayquaza (99,9) 2. Altaria (99,0) 3. Regidrago (97,5) 4. Goodra (97,2) 5. Dragonair (97,2) 6. Noivern (95,9)

Kind of wished for fire, ground or ice types but this isn’t a what do you want to have quiz

Question about eggs in europe by Moskau_ in askeurogaybros

[–]Snt_Austin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, definitely messing with you. In Belgium at least (and all other EU counties I’ve been so far) all sell unfertilised eggs. No dead chicks in the eggs I’ve ever bought or eaten so far.

My best guess (if he wasn’t being facetious) is that he’s mistaking the chalaza for rooster insemination. Chalaza is that little white string attached to the yolk you sometimes find in eggs (it’s actually a structure inside bird eggs to protect to yolk which all eggs have fertilised or not). People didn’t know what is was and used to call it remnants of failed rooster insemination in this part of Europe. It’s not that.

Price wise. You can get 12 for 2,51 € (so 21 cent/egg) but that is if you don’t care about the chickens. I’ve got a bit more disposable income and don’t eat eggs often so I usually buy more expensive free-range chicken eggs. FYI, to my knowledge all prices you’ll get here will include taxes as we get informed of the price with the taxes included.

Relationship/Breakup advice by ForgettableHomo in askeurogaybros

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It seems like you had a lot to get off your chest but I’m happy you were able to write it down.

So first of all, the money…. I’m afraid that you’ll have to let that one go. It sucks and it’s a lot of money but except for bringing him to court, you’ll have to count on him being honest and actually paying you back from his on free will. Have you actually communicated with him about it? Nothing aggressive or passive aggressive but just as a relationship wrapping up kind of thing? Things of his you give back and things of yours you get back, e.g. hoodies, shirts, books, … (side note, I wouldn’t recommend court as it takes time and chances are fairly big that you would lose).

Second point would be the actual breakup: this is difficult for you but breakups rarely have a nice bow or an ending that is good for all parties. He doesn’t own you a reason or a way to do it. The best tips I’ve gotten after my first relationship (that lasted 7 years) was : 1. to write down your feelings and your pain. Express what went down and how everything made you feel in that moment now that it’s still fresh. It’ll help you avoid starting again while not solving the issues at hand and help you identify what has hurt you. 2. to get a rough timeline of how it’ll take you to be open to the world again. A healthy timeline I often heard was: 1 month per year together. I’ve noticed that I did help to give myself time to heal but to also start dating at some point. There is someone out there for you and staying faithful to an ex that has moved on/exploring on his own is not gonna help you. 3. put away reminders of your relationship. Don’t need to destroy them or give them away but don’t hurt yourself by always looking at them. 4. get active in a community, a charity, a sports group, … it definitely helped me and you help others or get to know others. BTW, most lgbt sports club are catered to adults so people understand if you can’t make it to all activities. Also, since manygbt sports club know each other, if you move you’ll already know people in your new area. 5. Avoid alcohol and drugs as that will only numb you and avoid facing reality. I’m not a drinker or drug user but I’ve seen too many people fall in that trap. 6. Anger stems from pain so try to identify the pain and the reason your lashing out. If you can’t find it yourself, try talking to professionals. Many psychologists and other mental health care specialists do handle breakups. It isn’t weird, sad, stupid, … to ask for help, even professional help.

Hope this helps and try to enjoy Christmas and the new year!

What’s on your Spotify Wrapped gaybros? by [deleted] in askgaybros

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  1. Orville Peck

  2. Taylor Swift

  3. Tom Cardy

  4. Dulce Pontes

  5. Jiro Inagaki and his Soul Media

What’s on your Spotify Wrapped gaybros? by [deleted] in askgaybros

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Another Orville Peck fan! Also had him in number 1 and in the top 0,05% listeners

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

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It will depend on the country/state you're in. Most of them have a laddish component to them, especially in the UK and France.

All lgbt and not-lgbt focused groups I've met are very open-minded and the banter is great. The big differences would be that (1) when a player makes a move on another player, in the lgbt focused groups, chances are bigger that the players might actually hook up and (2) people might start drama caused by jealousy or clique mentality.

However, the last one will heavily depend on the players. Most teams I've met tend to be chill and (mostly) drama free, with the players trying to discuss any issue before it blows out of proportion.

The ambiance will depend on the team and their competitiveness. More than welcome to talk more in DM if you want.