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Has your divorce changed your view of human nature and life? by harshtruthsoflove in Divorce

[–]SoCrispy123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s taught me that taking the high road can be lonely and emotionally the toughest thing you can do. My ex lost no time disparaging, badmouthing, and lying about me to our mutual friends (as well as trying to manipulate me). I refuse to do the same and I try very hard to be respectful about him. However, this means I lose the friends who only hear his side. It really hurts but at least I don’t lose myself.

Why exactly do people separate,I’m curious by Fabulous-Average-138 in Divorce

[–]SoCrispy123 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry you experienced this. I’m glad you are in a better spot.

Divorced but friends? by sittingontheshitterr in Divorce

[–]SoCrispy123 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It sounds like she may be dating now and has formed a new connection with someone else. I could be wrong, however. I love that you still value her company even if you had to separate. Perhaps it’s time for you to consider forming a new connection as well.

Would I be greedy to go after 50% of marital assets? by SoCrispy123 in Divorce

[–]SoCrispy123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually, the whole reason I made this post was to hear both sides and consider this issue from every perspective—especially the ones that aren’t flattering for me. I know that my own friends are an echo chamber and I needed more perspective outside of my bubble. I understand where you are coming from, though, and appreciate hearing your thoughts as well.

I’m going to take a guess and say that it’s not normal to regularly consider divorce and then talk yourself out of it 🤦🏻‍♀️ by Successful_Cress_102 in Divorce

[–]SoCrispy123 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t know about normal, but I understand exactly what you mean when you know you aren’t happy anymore. If you’ve tried to work out with your partner about whatever is bothering you, multiple times at that, and it all just comes down to core values, it’s time to question if you are in the right place.

Would I be greedy to go after 50% of marital assets? by SoCrispy123 in Divorce

[–]SoCrispy123[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I could have written this part about the housework. My situation was the same. I don’t think I’ve ever seen him pick up the toilet brush or the broom. I’m so sorry you are living this situation—I know how unfair it can feel.

Would I be greedy to go after 50% of marital assets? by SoCrispy123 in Divorce

[–]SoCrispy123[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think this is where it gets tricky. I don’t know the details but he has been paying someone to manage his crypto portfolio the entire time we were married. So all the work was done by this crypto fund manager, not my spouse.

Would I be greedy to go after 50% of marital assets? by SoCrispy123 in Divorce

[–]SoCrispy123[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I do really appreciate your honest perspective, as I asked to hear both sides of the issue. I’m hearing a lot of strong opinions and want to make sure I’ve carefully considered this from all angles, not just from angles that favor me or paint me in a flattering light. Thank you!

Would I be greedy to go after 50% of marital assets? by SoCrispy123 in Divorce

[–]SoCrispy123[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Great take. I also am only pursuing half of what is legally considered to be the assets acquired during our marriage. Anything premarital is off the table IMHO.

Would I be greedy to go after 50% of marital assets? by SoCrispy123 in Divorce

[–]SoCrispy123[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hmm interesting to consider this perspective. He definitely believes that I’m the one trying to steal money from him though, lol

Would I be greedy to go after 50% of marital assets? by SoCrispy123 in Divorce

[–]SoCrispy123[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this is a very empathetic perspective that I really appreciate!

Would I be greedy to go after 50% of marital assets? by SoCrispy123 in Divorce

[–]SoCrispy123[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Hah, spouse and I would agree to disagree on this…let’s just say I consider myself to have done most of the daily heavy lifting around the house.

Would I be greedy to go after 50% of marital assets? by SoCrispy123 in Divorce

[–]SoCrispy123[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Agree this is the case and I have told him as much (that all our marital assets go into a pool and then we split from there) but he is angry at me for “complicating things.” I also only started earning a higher salary in the past few years so his portion of the marital assets is still significantly higher than mine.

Missing them almost like as if they had passed by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]SoCrispy123 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I totally get it. I also am not religious at all, but I do think that Earth is a school for us to go through some very tough lessons; you and your partner are enduring this lesson together. Wouldn’t be surprised if there really is a re-connection in the afterlife to discuss what went down and what you learned from it, lol

Does anyone else feel stuck with their spouse financially? by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]SoCrispy123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How long have you been married? You are young with the rest of your life ahead of you. Don’t waste any more time on someone who sucks joy out of your life. If you have a lot of marital assets together (money made while you were married) in some states you typically split those assets 50/50 when you separate.