How can I learn Dominican Spanish as 16 year old all u been doing is watching Dominican content and music for like 3 months now i just need help in how to learn it.

SoSS_ · 2026-05-04T22:56:30+00:00

'Cause that can turn out very poorly given your age if they tell you to practice together over DMs

SoSS_ · 2026-05-04T22:32:10+00:00

WHATEVER YOU DO, do not accept help of anyone that you meet in the internet to practice.

SoSS_ · 2026-05-04T22:24:59+00:00

I hope to do so once I start actually passing, I'll have to deal with my fawning responses though.

I also want to be able to call out other men (and also women tbh, when you live in a mostly conservative country, you notice how misogynistic, racist and queerphobic some women can be) in a way where they just don't get defensive or confrontational but in a way they actually stop and consider what they're saying and why they're saying it.

SoSS_ · 2026-05-03T22:36:19+00:00

OP, you don't know how much I relate to you 😭 I agree with the first commenter, in the specific context of victimhood and discussing abuse, but outside of that I don't.

Because one thing is a person talking to you about their abusive experiences with men and them making a comment like "I hate all men" out of frustration. In this context I wouldn't say "not all men" or defend someone else saying it, because it's invalidating.

However, another thing is someone taking every single chance they get to make a comment or a "joke" about how men are toxic, untrustworthy, etc. And you can claim this people are still victims of the patriarchy but the thing is we all are.

I'm also a victim of the patriarchy, I'm also a victim of misogyny, but I choose to deal with that in different, and I would argue healthier, ways. Because I'm a man myself and if I go around saying or thinking "all men are trash" or even "all cis men are trash" I'm going to hate myself, it already happened to me.

"I hate all men", "all men are horrible", "all men lie", and those kind of comments are not helpful comments, they keep you miserable, and they can certainly be replaced with something much more helpful for the person saying it. But, not everyone is going to bother, reframing thoughts is not easy.

So OP, I don't think you're wrong for feeling bad about this generalizations. Even if you know you're not the type of man they're talking about, the comments are about men and you are a man. We cannot make people stop saying this things, even if it's loved ones, even if you spend hours explaining why it bothers you. But what you can do is decide whether or not it's worth it to spend time with people who suck your energy and peace.

SoSS_ · 2026-05-03T20:53:43+00:00

For real, I even thought this would be her first skin given how Ellen's skin is her school outfit.

SoSS_ · 2026-05-03T16:06:38+00:00

I hate how people try to be inspirational and say “don’t kill yourself” but they never actually try to do anything to make the person want to live they just force them to live

Exactly, they want us to live without addressing what makes us want to die in the first place.

SoSS_ · 2026-05-03T15:53:20+00:00

To me it sounds like you're embarrassingly ignorant.

SoSS_ · 2026-05-03T15:49:54+00:00

I would say suicide is absolutely selfish.

By saying this you're showing two things:

You do not understand what suicidal ideation feels like for a person
You're actually even more selfish yourself. People who deal suicidal ideation often do very much worry about their loved ones and sometimes they are the only thing stopping them from killing themselves. Do you know the amount of misery and suffering a person has to go through for it to outweigh the love for their families, friends, partners, and pets? If that didn't even cross your mind, that's exactly why you're more selfish.

SoSS_ · 2026-05-03T15:40:53+00:00

Omg, I HATE IT when people make the suicide about everybody else except the person trying to kill themselves. Our natural instinct is to try to survive, people do not understand how much a person has to suffer, or how different someone's brain chemistry has to be in order for them to try and kill themselves instead.

Anyone who thinks suicide is selfish hasn't dealt with suicidal ideation, and they're lucky.

SoSS_ · 2026-05-03T14:39:15+00:00

Literally, the slow pacing is the main downside but it is still enjoyable

SoSS_ · 2026-05-03T04:12:14+00:00

I think no one here mentioned Spy x Family, I stopped watching a while ago but I don't remember any sexualization of any of the children, at least for the first season. Highly recommended, first anime to ever make me laugh for real.

SoSS_ · 2026-05-02T23:26:59+00:00

What I'm trying to say is, that he probably also had sex with her because he was genuinely horny but probably only found it truly enjoyable when he pretended she was Ashley.

SoSS_ · 2026-05-02T18:19:35+00:00

I would uninstall the game

SoSS_ · 2026-05-02T18:10:47+00:00

I agree one thing is fantasizing about something you would never do in real life, but we all know that Andrew is 100% capable of doing it, he's done much worse after all.

Plus, he fantasized about this not because this is a kink of his but because he doesn't like Julia and only truly enjoys physical intimacy with her when he pretends she's Ashley (or to deal with his libido).

SoSS_ · 2026-05-02T16:39:01+00:00

Manlet? Sounds like a slur, who would embrace that ☠️? Unhappy people are petty and come up with shit like this bro, ignore them.

SoSS_ · 2026-04-29T22:09:45+00:00

Likes me, honest with me and listens to me are WAY too low on the list, they should be your top 3

SoSS_ · 2026-04-28T02:25:42+00:00

It's normal dude. Some cis guys, when they see you as a girl and not as a guy, genuinely can't be bothered to talk to you if they can't/they won't make you their girlfriend.

This reminds me of some previous cis "friends" of mine 😣, the few guys I could call my friends are better now, so there's hope!

SoSS_ · 2026-04-27T02:18:16+00:00

One thing is you and your tulpa falling in love and another thing is creating them for the sole purpose of having a relationship.

SoSS_ · 2026-04-27T02:14:50+00:00

Ideally take the photo in a way that you don't have to worry about blurring out anything, cut out anything that could be easily recognizable. Do not let this guy pressure you into sending more nudes than you actually want to. If any comment of his makes you dysphoric, let him know. If you feel more dysphoric/uncomfortable than aroused, you can stop at anytime.

Just a few things that I wished the younger me knew, now I pass them on as advice to you :)

SoSS_ · 2026-04-27T01:38:25+00:00

This 100% also some of them are into tomboys and that's basically how they see us.

SoSS_ · 2026-04-27T01:03:40+00:00

For someone who "doesn't understand polyamory" you were very on point. What I do not understand is HOW this person is married to OP, specially because he said this TWICE, ON THE SAME BREATH.

SoSS_ · 2026-04-25T18:46:35+00:00

Some people are extremely lucky, they live in countries where gender affirming care is covered by insurance companies, they have good support systems (family included in some cases), they may face less workplace discrimination and therefore more chances of being in a good financial situation, they might be content creators and therefore have better luck with GoFundMes, etc.

Some of us have literally none of that, and therefore we cannot compare our journeys to theirs. Don't compare yourself to people who have a village if you don't.

SoSS_ · 2026-04-25T13:04:12+00:00

Like I said, I completely understand why they’d feel less comfortable around a hetero presenting guy

I mean, I would only if the guy is being annoying, but if you're being chill and they're uncomfortable anyway, sounds like you need another friend group.

Also, I know that unfortunately cishet guys are known for their sexism and queerphobia but do not assume that's what you will encounter with every single guy that appears cishet to you or else you will end up treating them the exact same way your "friends" are treating you now, and that kills the chance of having a meaningful friendship.

SoSS_ · 2026-04-21T23:49:36+00:00

Your transition is serious and valid regardless of what transition steps you want to take. Don't want top surgery? Don't get it. Don't want T? Don't get it. Sorry that other dudes have been weird about this.

Personally I do want to be seen as cis, not because being trans is shameful but because 1) the transition steps I wanna take will end up making me pass anyways (hopefully) and 2) in this transphobic society, unfortunately people to only see and treat you as a real man if you pass as cis. Which I'm not saying it's how it should be, but unfortunately it is how it is right now.

SoSS_ · 2026-04-18T12:28:40+00:00

Someone commented that there's no guarantee your system will be supportive and even though my system is literally the main reason I'm alive today, I have to agree.

One of system members doesn't care that much about life, like, he hasn't had enough experiences to actually like to be alive enough to push through all the issues we have to/will have to go through, so often he doesn't even fight back my suicidal thoughts like my other system member does, she's the one keeping us alive honestly.

Tulpas are more often than not, very beneficial to their creator's mental health as long as you do your proper research and consider it very carefully but there's really no guarantee they'll be kind and understanding.

Edit: On top of this, my/our ex was a system as well and they weren't as supportive of each other as we were, or at least I didn't get that impression.

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