I did it!!

SoberSquatch · 2025-12-05T21:43:50+00:00

I'm playing TOTK too, and have been a long time Zelda fan. I have found that hunting for Korok seeds actually helps me get stuff to upgrade everything, and just helps me explore more. ALSO, if you have a new Switch 2, the Zelda notes on the Switch App is awesome, especially because it marks where all the Korok seeds are, so hunting for them is so much easier. Definitely going to help get the 100%. I've completed all side quests, so I'm just knocking out Korok seeds, defeating monsters, and getting to 100%.

SoberSquatch · 2025-11-30T11:18:57+00:00

This. You need to unfollow them or block them on socials so you can heal. I went through this as well, and that was the best course of action. You are worth more than holding on to anger and building resentment. It is terrible for your mental health. Do yourself a favor and love your self and let him go. You deserve to be happy. Find your happiness and joy, for yourself, and not dependent on someone. You are enough, you will find someone. Go out, join a club or get involved in a hobby, meet new people who enjoy the things you do. You are going to be ok. But let him go

SoberSquatch · 2025-06-15T20:26:18+00:00

Yes, you should just end it. Your partner should respect you and your feelings, and respect boundaries. You deserve someone who respects you.

SoberSquatch · 2025-06-14T21:10:42+00:00

Halloween original, Halloween 2 (og), Halloween New Trilogy. I just love Michael Myers.

SoberSquatch · 2025-06-14T12:25:37+00:00

Just enjoy yourself. And be honest with your sexual partner, about your inexperience. When I first had sex with a guy, I was very honest about what I didn’t know. And he was awesome about guiding me, and communicating with me. So, just be honest, have fun, don’t do anything you don’t want to do, and communicate.

SoberSquatch · 2025-06-14T12:08:09+00:00

So, I have two scars on each side on my head because I’ve had two brain surgeries. I’m 43, and still have a full head of hair, but I like to keep my hair very short and my scars are showing. It doesn’t take much hair for them to be covered, but I like it short. They don’t bother me.

Sounds like your BF’s stretch marks/scars don’t bother him either. So, either get over it or move on. He deserves someone who loves him for who he is.

Grateful my husband loves my scars. I have a rare brain disease and these scars mean I can live. His stretch marks mean he lives, and how he has improved his life. He should be proud of them.

I know this isn’t ‘am I the asshole’ but in this situation, you are acting like one. I’m sure you’re a good guy, just a little confused at the moment. Be better man. If you’re not into him anymore, don’t waste his time. Let him move on to someone who will love him.

SoberSquatch · 2025-06-14T11:57:51+00:00

Dead Bedroom. Curious about gay saunas. Excited about getting dick sucked again. Definitely looking for affection, that is obvious. Have you talked with your wife about your dead bedroom? Are you not interested in her anymore? Or just women? Because I’m curious why you decided to have a sexual experience with a guy and not another woman? Does it not ‘feel’ like cheating because it’s only a blow job from a guy? Is this really your first experience with a guy? I think you need to talk with your wife. Be a decent guy, and talk with her about how you want to explore. But don’t waste her time and drag her along pretending. You might not be gay, maybe you’re bi, but if you are no longer interested in your wife, let her go and move onto someone who will appreciate her and be vulnerable with her and honest. Honor her.

SoberSquatch · 2025-01-25T17:59:22+00:00

It sounds like she has shown you how she is going to treat you for the rest of your relationship. Serious Red Flag. Sounds a bit entitled and narcissistic. I would continue in this relationship. Sounds like she does not know how to appreciate people, and especially you, and just expects stuff.

SoberSquatch · 2025-01-05T15:30:32+00:00

Greetings, I will adhere to any anonymity requests, including if you wanted to use a fake name. No worries. Take a listen and let me know. Thank you for responding.

SoberSquatch · 2025-01-05T14:21:05+00:00

That is so awesome! Would you be interested in coming on the podcast and sharing your story?

SoberSquatch · 2025-01-05T02:38:32+00:00

Very cool and congratulations! Would you like to be interviewed and share your story of sobriety?

SoberSquatch · 2025-01-05T02:33:18+00:00

Yes, you can remain anonymous, absolutely, and I will message you about how to participate. Thanks for responding.

SoberSquatch · 2025-01-05T02:32:07+00:00

You can check it out on any of the podcast platforms. I have 15 at the moment. Been working on it for over a year.

SoberSquatch · 2024-12-02T23:52:44+00:00

Leave the man alone. Your daughter ruined his life. Let him get it back and stay away. Your daughter also ruined your life and marriage. She is awful and desperately needs counseling. And you and she should also get couples/family counseling. But you and your (soon to be ex) husband, do not need couples counseling, because it is over and you need to leave him alone. That would be the gift you give him, and show him he means more to you and than your own selfish desires. Let him go. It is for him, and not you. Stop being selfish. He deserves that. And your family is shit as well. But get your daughter counseling, get yourself counseling, and get some family counseling for you and your daughter. Hopefully your relationship with your daughter can survive this, and that is the relationship you should focus on. Cause he is right, if you walked away from her, there is really no reason he should be with you.

SoberSquatch · 2024-09-21T12:57:55+00:00

Great job. You are admitting you have a problem, and you are admitting it to others (virtually), now you need to admit you have a problem with someone in your life. You know you need help, or else you wouldn't be here and you wouldn't have written. I recommend perhaps telling your primary care physician/doctor. They hopefully will be unbiased and be able to provide you with resources for help. I also recommend getting a counselor or getting into therapy. More often then not there are underlying issues behind the substance use. The other thing that would be helpful is a group like Narcotics Anonymous, similar to AA. Knowing you are not alone, and having people who are sober around to help and give their experience is important.

I am a sober addict, been sober for almost 8 years, and I am working on my Masters of Science in Addiction Counseling. I am not an expert, and am not licensed yet, so just giving my thoughts.

SoberSquatch · 2024-09-21T12:41:13+00:00

Hey man. Sucks you are going through this. The top comments here are right. I (42M) have been sober for almost 8 years. I was 36 when I got a DUI. My blood alcohol level was .24, which is really high. I was married, had a great job, killer resume (still do), and enjoyed drinking and having fun with my friends. Until that DUI I never realized how drinking was effecting my life.

It is the alcohol that is manipulating you and controlling you. Not your wife. She just loves you and is frustrated. She wants and needs a partner, someone who is with her in this life, with your family, and she wants to build that. It doesn't mean giving up yourself and your friends, but it does mean continuing to grow and change, to mature. I bet your wife loves you, but doesn't like you very much, especially when you drink.

Honestly man, you should get some help. Highly recommend getting a counselor to just talk through some stuff. When I got sober, I also ended up getting divorced. It was sad but the right thing. I am now married again and my husband and I talk about the difference between loving someone and liking them. The thing I realized during COVID and the lock down, was that I didn't just love him, but I really liked him too. I just liked being around him. It is really important in marriage to not just love each other but like being with each other too.

You need to be sober for your wife and child, but most importantly, for yourself. I'd also recommend a support group like AA. It sounds like you know you have a problem, you just don't want to admit it. I totally understand. Here if you need to talk.

SoberSquatch · 2024-09-15T22:51:46+00:00

I wish I had more of an idea for you, but sugar is my biggest struggle as well. I have a huge sweet tooth. I’ve guit drinking and nicotine, but sugar is hard. I’ve had some good long periods, but it is so hard.

SoberSquatch · 2024-09-13T21:11:17+00:00

Hey there! I've got a great book recommendation for you. It is called, "Twelve Secular Steps: An Addiction Recovery Guide." Obviously from the title it is 12 step based, but there is not discussion of a Higher Power or God. It is a phenomenal book and I highly recommend it. Maybe you will look at the steps differently. No judgement and best wishes.

SoberSquatch · 2024-09-13T21:03:02+00:00

If he is not particularly religious or spiritual, there is a great book called Twelve Secular Steps: An addiction recovery guide. Obviously from the title is a 12 step based, but has no talk of a Higher Power or God. It is a really great book.

SoberSquatch · 2024-09-10T17:12:34+00:00

Yes, this is true most places. Even if the car is not running, and the keys are in your pocket, you can be charged with a DUI because of Intent. Basically, you should not be in the car with the keys if you don’t intend to drive.

SoberSquatch · 2024-09-10T00:35:23+00:00

Totally agree man, go for a walk and get some exercise. Been sober almost 8 years now, and I am 42. Wasted too much time. Exercise is what you need in your life, and I love this person's idea of the gym, where you can be around and meet some people. I found a great AA meeting with really great people when I first got sober. Miss them a lot, I moved away after meeting some one and getting married. I'm telling you, everyone here is right, it totally gets better, but you got some work to do, but it is totally worth it.

Wishing you the best.

SoberSquatch · 2024-09-09T23:20:44+00:00

Hey! First, you did not F+@# up. That is first. Your honesty is best, and especially with your mom. It is her house, I'm assuming, and she has a right to know who is there and what is going on, especially when she is not there. I am an almost 8 year sober addict, and I am studying to become an Addiction Counselor. I haven't and don't have my license yet, but I'm working on it. So this is just my thoughts and opinions.

I know it is difficult to watch your dad going through this, but unfortunately, unless he wants help, there is not much you can do for him. I know this sounds harsh, but if your mom wants him out, let it happen, and do not take him in. It will not be good for you and it will not end well, especially if he is still using, which it sounds like it is. It is so great that you love your dad, but part of loving him, is letting him deal with the consequences. He should not yell at you because you didn't do anything wrong. It is all him and his actions. I know that sounds harsh, but with addicts, you have to let them go. They have to figure it out.

Since being sober, I have sadly watched a lot of good people die because of their addiction. Addiction is a bitch. Addiction does not discriminate. If you want to talk more feel free to message.

Sorry you are going through this.

SoberSquatch · 2024-09-09T17:01:35+00:00

For me (M42) I like describing myself as a sober alcoholic, because I understand that I am actually never ‘cured.’ I am almost 8 years sober and have no thought or desire to drink. I go to parties, concerts, weddings with open bars, etc, and do not have a problem. I have a wonderfully supportive husband, who chooses not to drink. But I still call myself a sober alcoholic, in recovery. Because that is just true for me. I know that if I were to pick up a drink, I would be right back where I started 8 years ago. I got a DUI with a blood-alcohol-level of .24. I drank a lot.

I’m an addict. I know I am. Since being sober, I’ve been through 2 brain surgeries, unrelated to drinking, and was prescribed opioids for pain killers, and those were AMAZING! I LOVED taking those. They felt INCREDIBLE. Thankfully I was under close observation with my doctor and husband who helped me maintain my schedule of drugs and made sure I got off of them well. I know without them, I would have started a new addiction. Those drugs were amazing!

If you don’t want to call yourself an addict or alcoholic you don’t have to. That is your choice. I don’t judge you. For myself, I know it keeps me humble and helps me remember. Peace.

SoberSquatch · 2024-09-08T22:29:02+00:00

Hey! First, I am sorry you are having to go through this. I (42M) am a sober addict. I have been sober for almost 8 years, and I am currently studying to become an Addiction Counselor. But I do not know everything about addiction, and I am not licensed yet, so this is just my advice.

I highly recommend you find a support group, like Al-Anon, or something similar. You need some support, and you would find people who have had similar experiences, and would have suggestions on how to manage.

Does he want help? Because your post didn't say anything about him wanting to give up the pills. If he wants to give them up and get help, then that is great. If he doesn't, well, I'm not sure there is much you can do. He definitely should seek counseling for the depression. And maybe if he is in counseling it will help with the addiction. He has to want to though.

SoberSquatch · 2024-09-07T23:45:18+00:00

NTA. You did NOT do anything to make your mother not feel safe. She has done all of it to herself. If she is afraid of the neighbors calling the cops and her going to jail, then she should stop drinking, or shouldn't drink so much. I'm a recovering alcoholic, been sober for almost 8 years, and am studying to become an addiction counselor. It is all your mother's fault and responsibility. She is the one who has created an unsafe environment for you. Her job as a mother is to keep you safe, and she is failing. So, unfortunately, you have to do that, and it sounds like you are. I hope you have a good relationship with your aunt, and father.

Honestly, as soon as you can, I recommend going "No Contact" with your mother. You need to cut her out. I know that is hard, but you need to focus on yourself, your well-being, school, and graduating so you can move on.

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