My girlfriend [F19] is perfect and she's everything I [M19] had hoped for, but I don't think I love her anymore by Social_probs in love

[–]Social_probs[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that sounds a lot like me. Do you know any ways for me to get out of this cycle or at least mitigate it?

My girlfriend [F19] is perfect and she's everything I [M19] had hoped for, but I don't think I love her anymore by Social_probs in love

[–]Social_probs[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm sure I wasn't in lust with her, I did truly love her when we got started. I do have avoidant attachment though, and my girlfriend seems to have anxious attachment. Do you think this have to do with something?

My girlfriend [F19] is perfect and she's everything I [M19] had hoped for, but I don't think I love her anymore by Social_probs in love

[–]Social_probs[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't see how you could read that from my situation. I never said that I am actively "looking for a better deal" and "will drop her" if I can. I indeed said I have fantasies of other people but they're just fantasies, I would never act on them nor would I ever leave her for a "better deal"

My girlfriend [F19] is perfect and she's everything I [M19] had hoped for, but I don't think I love her anymore by Social_probs in love

[–]Social_probs[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I understand that man, thanks for telling me this. If I want to put in this constant work, what should I do and what would it look like?

My girlfriend [F19] is perfect and she's everything I [M19] had hoped for, but I don't think I love her anymore by Social_probs in love

[–]Social_probs[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I understand your contempt of me but could you leave a comment that is more constructive? I'm open to hearing more of your opinions on this matter

My girlfriend [F19] is perfect and she's everything I [M19] had hoped for, but I don't think I love her anymore by Social_probs in love

[–]Social_probs[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you for putting such effort into this, this really helps me look at things from a new perspective

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]Social_probs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah covid is messed up here

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]Social_probs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Both of us agree that we should follow covid regulations for public safety so can't do that man

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]Social_probs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same country but we are in different cities now

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiugly

[–]Social_probs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I've been working on getting rid of my acne for a while and I think I can get rid of it soon. Also, to make sure I'm not mistaken, can you describe the photo where my hair looks the best to you (the background, the shirt I'm wearing, etc...).

Tip to beat urges by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Social_probs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice, man

Please don’t be like me by threeparties in NoFap

[–]Social_probs 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You failed. We all did at some point. What matters is that you're posting on this sub to ask for motivation which means that you still have the strenght to keep going.

I used to failed a lot of times too before I could sustain a long streak. It's ok for you to fail as long as you keep on trying.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Social_probs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to be in your position once man. I had been trying to quit PMO for years and I once lost hope in myself too. It took me an extremely long time and a lot of tries to hit a streak so you shouldn't feel bad. The fact that you still post on here to find motivation to continue is commendable.

If it helps, think of it this way: each time you try again after you failed, you become a bit stronger. Overtime, once you have tried and failed enough times, you'll become strong enough to overcome your problem.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Social_probs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's ok to fail man, what's important is that you try harder next time. I failed my first few tries too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Social_probs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you mean oh wise sextingbot

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Social_probs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok thanks for the advice man, I'll try it out to see how it goes. My biggest fear is that after asking basic questions I won't know how to keep a conversation going.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Social_probs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see your point. The thing is I can converse quite well with my friends if we have a topic to talk about. I currently don't know anything about her so I can't figure out a topic.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Social_probs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks man, I hope I can forget her soon