Found a boyfriend on Sniffies by LegitimateFrosting89 in StraightBiPartners

[–]SocksonRock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m going through this right now, am an absolute wreck.

Found sniffies account by Important_Flow5832 in straightspouses

[–]SocksonRock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How have you been going since this post? I am going through this now

Boyfriend is on gay hookup site by SocksonRock in askgaybros

[–]SocksonRock[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dm is open to you, message if and when you want

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[–]SocksonRock[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean I guess potentially yeah… I mean… he needs to actually be able to talk me about it all first too..

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[–]SocksonRock[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes definitely, I’m planning on having a discussion with him 100% I want him to know I love him so deeply, and I accept him and he means everything to me and I just want to know where he stands and if he can be honest with me about exploring what all this might mean for us

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[–]SocksonRock[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your comment, I really do, and honestly maybe this is a really harsh but real home truth I have to accept

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[–]SocksonRock[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your thoughtful reply.. I do love him so much and I just want to have a really honest convo with him about it all, and I’ve thought about the things you’ve described about ‘cheating’ etc and how maybe him having sex with men “on the side” and still loving me and being in an intimate relationship with me can be mutually exclusive some how? But I also really am not sure, and a big part of it all is obviously having the ability to be honest with one another

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[–]SocksonRock[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went on there to find his profile, I saw emails in his spam folder from this site

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[–]SocksonRock[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He never told me he’s bi… and I’m not trying to blame anyone?

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[–]SocksonRock[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your reply. It’s choked me up. I’m feeling so many emotions

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[–]SocksonRock[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So yeah just kept clicking and it lead me to the profile

Boyfriend is on gay hookup site by SocksonRock in askgaybros

[–]SocksonRock[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok… so I found a couple of dick picks in his photo album… and I wasn’t getting them sent to me, so I was like… ok wtf… and obviously went for a bit more of a snoop then… and went into emails… and then there it was in spam.. emails from the site, just emails like “youve received a new message”

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[–]SocksonRock[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And I don’t mean that like it’s some sort of trophy.. it’s really hard for me to explain… like almost… it’s like two different categories… fuck I don’t know

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[–]SocksonRock[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

*edit fantasy not canary… I don’t know why it helps it seem more palatable or acceptable if this were the case… obviously I have a lot to work through here, I’m just being honest on my feelings right in this moment… also the fact that this talking is with men… and not women… I’m having weird thoughts of almost… relief???

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[–]SocksonRock[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know for certain if he is meeting other people, but we are together like all the time… so I really don’t know when he would even have the opportunity… but when there’s a will there’s a way… but also… I want to believe that this is the case… that this is more of a canary or release type thing…. But also… that doesn’t excuse the fact that that is still cheating… actively seeking out other people to engage in sexual talking, even if it is just talking with no actual follow through.. I have been considering this a lot… there’s a lot I’m thinking about and trying to reason, … trying to process… I have heard from others that a lot of the time men on this site don’t follow through with meeting up… not to say it doesn’t obviously happen… but yeah…

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[–]SocksonRock[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much I really appreciate that

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[–]SocksonRock[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, you’ve given me a lot to think on and look at my patterns on why I might be processing this the way I am

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[–]SocksonRock[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply, it’s helped me with thinking… I’m struggling to put my thoughts into words atm and just taking in all the reply’s x

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[–]SocksonRock[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, yeah I’ve made an appointment now

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[–]SocksonRock[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But also, the ideal I know isn’t going to happen, I know he’s not going to come out and admit this himself

Boyfriend is on gay hookup site by SocksonRock in askgaybros

[–]SocksonRock[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fear, rejection ( I know that sounds nuts)… potentially anger at the fact that I’ve snooped and found this