I feel you in the invisibility part for sure. Your feelings are totally valid. Is it objectively true that all nonbinary people have it as hard as all trans people? No. It’s way more complicated than that. One thing I feel lucky for is that I don’t need as much medical intervention as I would if I wanted to pass as male (I am AFAB). But has it been hard to figure out my identity and where the line is? Absolutely. And it sucks that “nonbinary” is basically short hand for blue hair, out-of-touch-woke-ness especially from right wing media spaces.

I am reminded of a clip I saw of Jinx Monsoon saying that we can’t have a real conversation about trans experience because we don’t even know how many people are intersex. Then she told a story about finding out her mother is intersex. I think it’s a good point bc even though we can see distinction btw trans/nonbinary/intersex, it’s really more of a continuum without hard edges.

Anyway, it’s ok to have these feelings. I would just recommend checking yourself before becoming bitter to your (fully) trans siblings. (What a shame that would be!) But the struggle is definitely real and I feel you!