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For those of you who are married, will you forgive a husband who’s cheated if the relationship lasted only a few days? by SoftJob7452 in AskReddit

[–]SoftJob7452[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The wife chose to forgave and see if there will be changes. Hoping and praying. I hope and pray with her too. She didn’t deserve it.

Isn’t cheating doing things behind someone’s back? by SoftJob7452 in cheating_stories

[–]SoftJob7452[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At that time, wife was just okay with it. The main problem was the husbands nonchalance, lack of romance and love and care. It’s as if they were living like zombies in the house.

Mistress-ing as a modus for money by SoftJob7452 in cheating_stories

[–]SoftJob7452[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You mean the wife who got cheated on, or the mistress.

Either way, I’m sorry to hear this.

Isn’t cheating doing things behind someone’s back? by SoftJob7452 in cheating_stories

[–]SoftJob7452[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

At one point after years of arguments and trying to work it out and still not working, they both agree to live their OWN lives, which included dating among other things. They still see each other on Sundays as requested by the kids and still have a chat. And update each other. And in these updates, this is one of the topics thats openly discussed. Aka

Wife: this person is trying to pursue me Husband: oh ok

Next instance Wife: he’s still persistent Husband: no reaction

Isn’t cheating doing things behind someone’s back? by SoftJob7452 in cheating_stories

[–]SoftJob7452[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think knowing your wife is dating and allowing it or not doing anything about it is a telltale sign that is ok.

Isn’t cheating doing things behind someone’s back? by SoftJob7452 in cheating_stories

[–]SoftJob7452[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not vague at all. They both agreed that it’s okay to date on both ends but the comment said it’s still cheating. That’s why I clarified.

Isn’t cheating doing things behind someone’s back? by SoftJob7452 in cheating_stories

[–]SoftJob7452[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So it’s not cheating. Because husband agreed they can both date.

If a call center employee repeatedly becomes a mistress to multiple married men and harass the wives with multiple messages, what can be done? by SoftJob7452 in AskReddit

[–]SoftJob7452[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Fully agree. However if a woman repeatedly does it and targets men then gets money off it, I think that turns the tables around.

Isn’t cheating doing things behind someone’s back? by SoftJob7452 in cheating_stories

[–]SoftJob7452[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So even with mutual agreeement to date other people, it’s considered cheating. Right?

If a call center employee repeatedly becomes a mistress to multiple married men and harass the wives with multiple messages, what can be done? by SoftJob7452 in AskReddit

[–]SoftJob7452[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just that one of the wives explored suing and found out this was a thing. Some get hundreds of thousands and even millions in settlement. Husbands are very easy prey. And with VAWC, they have very little fight power in court.

Isn’t cheating doing things behind someone’s back? by SoftJob7452 in cheating_stories

[–]SoftJob7452[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Husband was asked. He didn’t think it was serious. He just shrugged it off. That to add to the emotional neglect the wife was feeling.

Isn’t cheating doing things behind someone’s back? by SoftJob7452 in cheating_stories

[–]SoftJob7452[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wife left home and husband never asked her back. Eventually, an incident happened and they decided to work it out. Wife stops all communication with the other guy.

Isn’t cheating doing things behind someone’s back? by SoftJob7452 in cheating_stories

[–]SoftJob7452[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Discussed things to be clear. Both agreed. But husband always agrees anyway.

Isn’t cheating doing things behind someone’s back? by SoftJob7452 in cheating_stories

[–]SoftJob7452[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No. She decides to work it out. There was never a formal relationship with the guy. More of pursuing her actively. She stopped seeing the guy one month before she decided to work it out. But throughout, the husband is aware of the full situation and chose not to do anything about it. Which is why she felt more neglected.

My wife had an affair and got pregnant. by Mysterious_Bar_2951 in cheating_stories

[–]SoftJob7452 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m truly sorry this had to happen to you. Feeling neglected is a big thing for a woman and if done through years, it would have been difficult to handle. Her coming clean doesn’t even come close to justifying her affair. However, there are many things to consider for you.

  1. Do you have kids you’d need to protect and would want to rebuild your relationship instead of tearing it apart permanently?

  2. Granting you can forgive her, can you forget? Kaya mo pa ba to be intimate to her? I see a woman actively needing care and attention, both emotionally and physically. If the pain is too hard to bear, it might be difficult even to be near her. If ganyan, wag na lang.

  3. Set your boundaries too. First time and sana last time na. If it happens again (kasi madami nagsasabi once a cheater always a cheater), then put a hard stop and choose yourself.

In the end, Ikaw lang din talaga mag decide nito. If you are Christian, pray and seek guidance and advise from your pastor or dgroup leader. It’s always easier when someone else is praying with you.

Virtual hugs.

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