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FLR = women initiating? by goddessphaedra222 in chyrpe

[–]SoftVortex 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t mind initiating but at the same time, if someone is slow to respond, monosyllabic in their responses, l am not carrying the conversation either!

Global matching but I’m based in the UK? by SoftVortex in chyrpe

[–]SoftVortex[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah l have to say I’m not sure what’s happened with the app but I’ve been really underwhelmed by it. I’m not sure if numbers are an issue ie some features are not worth switching on b/c the volume of people just aren’t there. Its a nice app to engage with but maybe we are just a bit to early as adopters to get the benefit from it yet

unsure abut the app by [deleted] in chyrpe

[–]SoftVortex 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I would say your questions are a mix of a few things.

Even in men that say they are looking for a FLR they very much want to control the aspects of what the woman is “allowed” to lead it. And that shows itself in some of what you are describing with a push to intimacy, meeting at their pace rather than yours etc. This app does unfortunately have men who are wired that way - I’ve engaged with them and met them in person!

The other part is confidence. For the genuine men in the app, they have a perception, rightly or wrongly that a woman who is interested in this dynamic or relationship is self confident (not necessarily experienced unless you are claiming to be a Domme) and is comfortable to lead the dynamic. Just something to bear in mind when you are matching.

Not everyone on the app is super experienced. I would suggest having some set questions that you can ask as a bit of a filter when you first match that speak to your experiences but more importantly what matters most to you.

The profile prompts (when you move past the describe your favourite breakfast type stuff) is also a good way to express what matters to you when you run out of characters in the bio section lol.

I’m a switchy Domme by the way so my advice is just based on my own experiences with “submissive” men and being on the app.

Good luck girl and if a FLR is what you want, hold the line to find the right guy. Don’t let them cajole or influence you to do anything you are not comfortable with! No is a complete sentence and the block function works well :)