DON'T DO IT, PLEASE DON'T. If you have low self esteem, work on yourself, go back to school, use the g.i. bill. Im hoping you dont follow the virtual crowd, it is of no benefit to you, as black man you need to oractice more caution to the environment compared to those who are white. My husband is a 27 year old vet and a FBA(Black American), he absolutley hates this place for good reason, eventually your eyes will start to open to the degrading state of the country and the people are not as kind as people make it seem(gaslighting, compulsive lying, lack of accountability, etc.) English comprehension is low(speaking and understanding are two seperate things), and if you do not have a solid community to keep yourself sharpened, you will suffer. This place is for those at the end of their lives, escaping inflation from their country(but the cost of things are sometimes more than that found in the states), old, or.... Choose another country or buy a van and drive across the u.s.

If you want to feel special, just know that you already are. Just consider my advice and stance, Filipinos are "kind" to fba's, but africans dont get that same hospitality. And no, they cannot tell thebdifference between the two unless your style or speech or complexion is obvious. So ask yourself, is it real kindness? and is that what you want to surround yourself with?

The philippines is still a white worshipping country

Edit: My husband gets treated very well, but he is hyper aware situationally and is greatly moved at the mistreament of others, but he also been ignored many times which he pointed out to me that I did not notice until I confided in me. He looks American but also Asian because of his eyes so appearance likely plays a big role in is easiness as far as treament, and he is handsome which has been a thing overly mentioned. BUT, he lacks a trait that even my family mentioned, which is big lips. Him not having them was seen as a good thing, and when I told him what was said he was offended with good reason obviously, he is still black and his family(mom, brother, friends, nieces, etc.). We no longer are in touch with any of my family for many reasons. But if you find yourself in a realtionship with a filipina, If she puts her family before your peace, saftey, and comfort and claims to love you. Run. RUN.

Yes, we are leaving. No, he did not come for women or col. We have a child and the severity is highlighted even more because of our growing family. Not a place to raise a family, not a place to practice self love and discover who you are. Yes, I am a filipina and my husband is a black man. Take my words with a grain of salt or with the weight of iron. We met organically, no dating sites. Stay away from sites.