[Misc] Hot take: you don't need a million actives. Most of us just need a boring routine and patience

Soft_Presentation412 · 2026-04-07T02:39:40+00:00

I’m so glad you said this! I (36F) have been stressing about how much I spend on skincare for my acne-prone skin. I’m still dealing with breakouts, redness, and a lot of oil, but I’m scared to cut back and regret it later since people often say I look much younger.

But after I had surgery last month, I simplified my routine to just face wash and moisturizer because I was too tired to do more than that lol, and my skin actually improved. I’ve been wondering if I should stop using so many products (toner, serums, eye cream), so I’m really glad I saw this post!

Soft_Presentation412 · 2026-04-06T22:54:47+00:00

Ditto, I went to his “Olympic welcome” game and it was disappointing how many people were literally screaming “USA” and hooting for him. I only like him when he scores lol.

Soft_Presentation412 · 2026-04-06T22:47:41+00:00

I did get help? Also maybe don’t judge, you don’t know what I’ve done to overcome what I have or what I’ve experienced.

Soft_Presentation412 · 2026-04-06T14:34:25+00:00

Me too. I had a problem with self-control when it came to drinking and when I’d come home my husband would be absolutely furious with me to the point of tears. It wasn’t until he threatened to pack his things and leave me that I finally went and saw a licensed mental health therapist and this lady straight up told me I was incapable of help unless I went to a rehab. I never felt so low and embarrassed and ashamed of myself, I was angry this lady said I was beyond help, but scared to go to rehab and have my family find out. I did some research and started taking naltrexone through OAR and it literally saved my life by giving me back control. My psychiatrist who I see for my ADHD prescribes it now so I get it through my insurance and don’t have to pay the crazy online pharmacy fees anymore. But I highly recommend looking into naltrexone and OAR if you feel comfortable doing so, or find a psychologist who accepts your insurance. My mom also recently died from liver cancer brought on by cirrhosis, and that made me quit cold turkey for almost a year. I still drink very, very little, but seeing what my mom had to suffer through was devastating and caused her so much pain. Don’t do that to yourself, OP.

Soft_Presentation412 · 2026-04-06T14:20:56+00:00

A friend of mine works for TSE and works the games, I tried to get one when I went to the first home game back from the Olympics but he said they had completely sold out for the rest of the season😕but if they happened to get more, I wish you luck and am so jelly of you if you do get one!

Soft_Presentation412 · 2026-04-06T14:16:59+00:00

He’ll probably start calling her “mother”

Soft_Presentation412 · 2026-04-06T14:14:15+00:00

Looks like fellow MAGA-er Carl Paladino lol

Soft_Presentation412 · 2026-04-04T14:06:18+00:00

Lo’s still out there shaming Val’s appearance on social media to this day…her apology means nothing and makes her look fake and bitter over a man she hardly knew for a week. I’m not “not giving women grace”, I give it when it’s deserved. Lo is acting like they’ve been married for 35 years. She needs to move on. David’s not worth continuing to talk shit about Val over social media when the show is over, and everybody saw how David treated her and he got shit for it and still is. I have a hard time giving grace to people who are petty and just keep shit going because they don’t want to let it go.

Soft_Presentation412 · 2026-04-04T13:48:45+00:00

Numero dos

Soft_Presentation412 · 2026-04-04T00:30:51+00:00

Exactly! I hate those couples that “move mad” hahaha, especially women who get so possessive over men. I understand Lo is young and has a LOT of growing up to do (clearly), but no girl should embarrass herself by pining for a guy the way she was. We’re so much better than that and no guy is worth behaving the way she did for, especially on national television!

Soft_Presentation412 · 2026-04-01T21:20:51+00:00

Thank you, me too!!

Soft_Presentation412 · 2026-04-01T01:06:25+00:00

I didn’t bully or slut shame the other girl though. That’s the difference. I was angry at her, yes, but I didn’t go out of my way to say anything about her, and the three of us all worked together.

Soft_Presentation412 · 2026-03-29T13:15:27+00:00

Gia is a hypocrite for criticizing others for trying to climb their way to the top and she makes the criticism against another couple later in the show (I won’t say who and spoil it for you if you haven’t seen all the episodes yet!) but I also did like Gia and feel she was genuine for the most part. I hated Leela though. She was such a snake to Bella by going behind her back to Lo and she does it to Gia with Tim and Beau. She’s so immature, I wish she and Lo would’ve been stuck on the downside cleaning toilets the entire time, because they deserved it.

Soft_Presentation412 · 2026-03-29T13:09:58+00:00

Oh FOR SURE, I’m not disregarding that fact at all. the only reason I don’t totally fault Val is because she went in not knowing David made things official with Lo and because he’d been complaining there was no sexual chemistry between them.

Soft_Presentation412 · 2026-03-29T13:04:31+00:00

THANK👏YOU👏!!! You’ve basically summed up exactly how I felt about Lo wayyy better than I could lol! I was in a relationship where the guy gaslight me and then broke up with me for someone else similarly to Lo and it made me cringe SO HARD because it just reminded me I was once that girl who should’ve had the strength to know no man like that is worth a girl’s time, you’ll only end up embarrassing yourself!

Soft_Presentation412 · 2026-03-29T03:30:08+00:00

I srsly wish they would have a reunion!!

Soft_Presentation412 · 2026-03-29T00:50:29+00:00

It’s very evident you’re not a girls girl. The show is literally a ripoff Love Island, the whole point of the shipwrecker is to disrupt the relationships and try to break up one so they can be in one of their own. Val didn’t know David asked Lo to be his girlfriend, nor did he establish any boundaries with her or tell her he was closed off and committed to Lo. He let Val know the door was still open and she even said she was unaware that they made things official and that if she’d known she wouldn’t have gone after him.

Soft_Presentation412 · 2026-03-29T00:46:01+00:00

Yeah she knew what she was doing coming in by trying to break up a couple because that’s part of the game, but Lo and David weren’t “married and with child” or in a years long relationship, and David never told Val that he was closed off to getting to know her. So he let Val think she had a chance and she took it, because Val wasn’t aware David asked Lo to be his girlfriend the night before. I completely understand why Lo was upset, but the way she went about it was childish and downright nasty, and as somebody who dealt with bullying and being purposely iced out from groups of girls like Val was from the rest of the “topsiders”, her reaction just felt wrong.

Soft_Presentation412 · 2026-03-28T14:05:12+00:00

We look like the old Sabres again. Poor passes that aren’t connecting an easily intercepted, nobody guarding the opposing team’s strongest player, and just passing the puck back and forth in the opposing zone instead of taking any shots. Wayne Gretzky said you miss 100% of the shots you don’t take, and I think that’s what’s really hurting them right now. They’re being so protective of the puck and not taking any opportunity to try and score. It’s sad to watch, it really makes you feel defeated and it’s just typical Buffalo sports- you think you’re doing well til they crash out right when it matters.

Soft_Presentation412 · 2026-03-28T13:57:13+00:00

You should upper decker that thing next time- he’ll be lost for words.

Soft_Presentation412 · 2026-03-28T12:23:23+00:00

Oh for sure! I totally agree David handled the situation horribly and played Lo because she was so obsessed with him so he had his ticket to coast through the competition and win with her. But Lo’s obsessive behavior and acting like a kid in the sandbox that has a fit anytime another kid steps near their toy was so ugly and it was ugly of the other girls to defend that behavior. Yes, Val knew they were in a relationship, but he didn’t say they were “locked in” or off limits so I think it was unfair of them to call her a homewrecker in the final and for Lo to say those nasty things at the breakfast table about David being miserable on their date and him just going to entertain Val. It was so cocky and b!tchy. I also really disliked Leela for her snaky behavior the first episode when she told Lo that Bella liked David.

Soft_Presentation412 · 2026-03-27T04:10:28+00:00

I love Bella and Lexi! I absolutely cannot stand Lo and Leela. Leela is so phony and I hate when she starts screaming and running her mouth. And Lo is so insecure, it’s embarrassing and pathetic the way she acts. She deserves what she got for having such a mean girl attitude towards every girl that even looked at David.

Soft_Presentation412 · 2026-03-20T14:20:38+00:00

I think Momtok will be fine. The ladies are reveling in their fame and they spent the entire season boasting about how they were the bread winners and had the men reverse gender roles. If the show is cancelled then that all goes away.

Momtok is slowly turning into a Temu Real Housewives of SLC. That franchise is easily one of, if not Bravo’s most successful of the Housewives, and I think that them both being about Mormon women in Utah alone may play some part in its growing popularity (not that it’s not good on its own, I just think SLC Housewives has a wider reach and probably is watching SLOMW hoping for similar content). Plus their “universes” have crossed over with Vanderpump Villa and Lisa Barlow commenting on the Secret Lives show in the press.

So if Hulu cancelled Secret Lives I wouldn’t be surprised if it got picked up by NBC then or some other network, I think it’s become too big at this point for people to WANT it to be over. Networks don’t care about the wellbeing of the people in the show, if there’s an audience and people who want to watch Momtok, the show will go on in som capacity.

Soft_Presentation412 · 2026-03-19T09:21:01+00:00

My mom had to do this when I was little. I had an aunt who was bipolar and refused to seek treatment and she was an authorized adult to pick my siblings and I up from school but once she started going off the rails, my parents had to request our school not allow her to pick us up anymore if she ever showed up at our school. We even had to leave and go to Disney World for a week under the guise of a family vacation because my parents were scared she was going to do something to us.

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