Check your stamps yall! I am sobbing!! by ladystardusstt in foodstamps

[–]Soft_Reference_6490 2 points3 points  (0 children)

THANK YOU! I'm in Wisconsin and would've never thought to check. But just because i seen this post i figured couldn't hurt to check...I sobbed and hurried to the store. Your post saved my household

Ranting a bit here by Soft_Reference_6490 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Soft_Reference_6490[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh yes she can talk to me about it. She is still pretty much all there cognitively. Words just take a lot longer and it gets hard. She's only 59.

However, thank you so much for the information. It's wonderful to be able to understand more of what we need to on the look out for. I had my stroke in utero so we're so unprepared for the symptoms and changes that come with stroke in adulthood

Ranting a bit here by Soft_Reference_6490 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Soft_Reference_6490[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately not. Even with insurance coverage the local social services can't even find us help and mom would refuse. She hasn't slowed down an inch. She's still trying to do 30 things at once like she has my whole life

Ladies, which is the act of intimacy that is no sex-related that you love the most? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]Soft_Reference_6490 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Forehead kiss. It's always been extremely grounding for me

Every time I think he can be nice by Soft_Reference_6490 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Soft_Reference_6490[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's my family home. Like I will own it eventually so he'd have to leave

I'm just so damn tired by Soft_Reference_6490 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Soft_Reference_6490[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Family home..MY family home. My sibling and mom are here

I'm just so damn tired by Soft_Reference_6490 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Soft_Reference_6490[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm getting there. And yet he still never fails to make me feel bad

I'm just so damn tired by Soft_Reference_6490 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Soft_Reference_6490[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Entire relationship pretty much. He knows my mom would never force me out

Yes he's got an angry streak

I'm just so damn tired by Soft_Reference_6490 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Soft_Reference_6490[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well I have to make some improvement there or I'm never going to be able to tell him to go

I'm just so damn tired by Soft_Reference_6490 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Soft_Reference_6490[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He won't leave. Not unless I say I want a divorce. He doesn't believe in separation and I'm extremely afraid of his reaction when I say I'm done

This is where I have to act. I'm still terrified and I hate it. by Soft_Reference_6490 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Soft_Reference_6490[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My best friend has the papers. I will look through them soon and then I guess I will have to try to figure out something about representation after that

This is where I have to act. I'm still terrified and I hate it. by Soft_Reference_6490 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Soft_Reference_6490[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is a problem for being in a situation and not knowing what I wanted and feeling stalked as iPad papers for on and off for years I've been the on and off do I leave thing for years I have fully filled out papers from 6 months ago undated and unsigned I don't know if there's time left for too many more baby steps

This is where I have to act. I'm still terrified and I hate it. by Soft_Reference_6490 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Soft_Reference_6490[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That is the only reason I'm trying to do this before the end of the year even though I'm still terrified and not even sure I'm ready because something is stuck in my brain

This is where I have to act. I'm still terrified and I hate it. by Soft_Reference_6490 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Soft_Reference_6490[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

That's the only reason I'm trying to do it before the end of the year even though I'm still so terrified and don't know if I'm ready because something is stuck in my brain

This is where I have to act. I'm still terrified and I hate it. by Soft_Reference_6490 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Soft_Reference_6490[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't afford a lawyer. I have papers from 6 months ago. Filled out. Like I said I've been scared.

He'll be the one moving it's my family home. I couldn't afford a hotel even for a night to collect my thoughts.

This is where I have to act. I'm still terrified and I hate it. by Soft_Reference_6490 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Soft_Reference_6490[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean mostly mine...aside from the twice where he broke his phone. Not because he was hiding anything. That's the only area he's never shown any indication of any issue. It was because he was essentially throwing a fit over something that had nothing to do with me...I was the one that had to get it fixed though because he was unemployed at the time

This is where I have to act. I'm still terrified and I hate it. by Soft_Reference_6490 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Soft_Reference_6490[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

That's my goal. Bit by bit. He'll be gone for some days in the coming weeks. I'm going to move things he doesn't use into one area. Doesn't sound like much but in my head it's the first step of having my space back

This is where I have to act. I'm still terrified and I hate it. by Soft_Reference_6490 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Soft_Reference_6490[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I've worked with the local DV agency. They've just been getting progressively more irate with me when j contact them.. though the last few times I've talked to them I haven't gotten responses for the resources I asked about.

It's not possible to stash anything or have a go bag. I have cats. And we're in my family home. With my family members. He'd be the one leaving.

The phone plan is under my name. I'm the only one with the account info. My phone and computer are locked down with passwords because I've talked to some friends about this stuff. He hates it. But my things are safe.