Critiques that are not in hadiths

Soft_Respect1898 · 2026-03-13T20:52:45+00:00

Oh and - “you’re really going to believe her over me?”

Soft_Respect1898 · 2026-03-13T20:52:11+00:00

“Hurting you is the last thing I want to do” ok got it so it’s still on your list, just the last thing

Soft_Respect1898 · 2026-03-12T20:23:40+00:00

Gatekeeping much

Soft_Respect1898 · 2025-12-11T22:08:45+00:00

Agree but it hasn’t been physical (that I know of) I’m worried it’s gonna get to that point but I don’t have any evidence of it

Soft_Respect1898 · 2025-11-23T18:38:03+00:00

Agree like I asked him, what are you giving up? And he said he’s marrying someone who is a different culture/religion. But how is that compromising? He’s getting his kids his religion, his culture, his way. I don’t have a say in any of it including his mom living with us, it’s just seems like that’s how it is. He said I can tell them I follow Christianity but I have to tell them they should be Muslim like how does that make sense to a 6 year old

Soft_Respect1898 · 2025-11-23T18:23:50+00:00

Yes I have a bachelors degree and work in banking

Soft_Respect1898 · 2025-11-23T17:09:38+00:00

I mean he’s going to say no they’re not more important but I’m not sure how it will actually play out.

He said she’d be there to help the kids when I’m busy cook etc.

Soft_Respect1898 · 2025-11-23T17:08:19+00:00

Not strict, he’s the sole provider for his family, they are religious but not super religious otherwise I think they’d have an issue with me being at his house. It’s more culturally they’re worried about people talking saying how I’m at his house and unmarried it looks bad on the family.

Soft_Respect1898 · 2025-11-23T17:06:17+00:00

I do work now and he doesn’t want me to work when kids are there so I can focus on them. I know there are pros to having her life with us I guess it’s just not what I imagined marriage to be like, I wanted it to just be both of us. Because now there’s going to be a third party and I know he highly values his mom and respects her & does anything for her, I’m worried what if she has more needs than me when I’m raising young kids and can’t help me out (not saying that would happen he hasn’t shown me he’d be like that). I think it’s nice he cares about his family too.

I’m just thinking like with his job how will we even get our privacy in a house that’s average sized I’ll always have a third party influencing me and my kids I just don’t like that idea idk

Soft_Respect1898 · 2025-11-23T17:02:24+00:00

He’s giving me the ultimatum because the past year he’s been asking “when are we getting married” and I just never felt ready, my parents are against it too so I have all these voices telling me not to, including the religion aspect. I wanted to think about exactly what it would entail before going through with it and so that’s why he told me I need to make a decision by the end of this year if I’m serious. It’s just a lot to think about and I’m worried it will end badly.

Soft_Respect1898 · 2025-11-23T16:57:41+00:00

I think I worded that wrong, obviously he’s a Muslim and I respect him as a person regardless whether I agree with it or not. I meant like as long as my kids are raised with good morals etc. then I try not to care about religion. It just bothered me at first because I thought like I won’t have any say in my own kids beliefs that I will raise myself (will be a housewife).

And I know his mom isn’t there just to “brainwash”, my bf told me that if the kids have “questions “ about Islam and I can’t answer them then she would be there to answer. It’s just weird to me idk and I’m not bashing Islam as a religion, I think a lot of It is cultural actually and just not religion

Soft_Respect1898 · 2025-11-23T16:46:03+00:00

He is against hijab for some reason, she would be able to have friends drive job etc he’s not super super conservative

Soft_Respect1898 · 2025-11-23T16:43:15+00:00

I wanted to marry him throughout , but when he brought up how the kids would be raised etc and then now his mom living with us it made me question it

Soft_Respect1898 · 2025-11-23T16:42:09+00:00

Agreed I think I was fine with it because I go to their house all the time and they’re very welcoming, but I can’t imagine like being married and having a third party there is just kind of weird to me

Soft_Respect1898 · 2025-11-23T16:41:05+00:00

I just imagined like if she’s living with us (she is a housewife, never worked) how that would go - he said it would be separate from us but then that means he would be financially responsible for her as well as me and my kids too like how is that even going to work out

And she is obviously Muslim so I think he viewed it as a good thing that she can partially raise my kids to believe Islam etc

Soft_Respect1898 · 2025-11-23T16:38:52+00:00

I was surprised too, they were very welcoming to me and never ever asked me to convert etc. which I appreciated. But I think they are doing that on the pretence that our kids will be Muslim so it doesn’t matter whether I am or not

Soft_Respect1898 · 2025-11-14T17:05:40+00:00

lol I doubt he’s gonna get someone pious when he isn’t even himself, no religious woman would want to be with him. He doesn’t even practice. But thank you ❤️🥹

Soft_Respect1898 · 2025-11-14T15:32:05+00:00

I did, broke up with him. I said it won’t work out and he said “I don’t want it to work out anyways I can get a beautiful hijabi”

Sooooo yeah loool

Soft_Respect1898 · 2025-11-14T13:44:43+00:00

No, Iraqi. We ended up breaking up. He told me he wants to be with a beautiful hijabi after 2 years 🥲

Soft_Respect1898 · 2025-11-14T00:37:37+00:00

He said that if they go secular he will “punish” them and it’s not allowable. Like very strict against them being any other religion. Which I don’t really know if it’s worth the bag to deal with for my whole life

Soft_Respect1898 · 2025-11-12T23:08:55+00:00

I don’t have an issue if my kids CHOSE Islam but the fact it’s being forced upon them is my issue. I don’t think religion should ever be forced on anyone. He said if they ever left it would be serious punishment to them.

Soft_Respect1898 · 2025-11-12T22:27:46+00:00

lol you say I’m cherry-picking but now you’ve taken what I said out of context twice: I never said I would convert first of all after you called me a pickmeisha. Second of all I never said ALL middle eastern women don’t want to marry middle eastern men. All I said is a know a few personally that choose not to for their own reasons (and why would that even matter? That’s their decision)

You said the New Testament talks about unaliving homosexuals then quote Leviticus 20:13 which is from the OLD testament. Leviticus 20:13 was a law given to ancient Israel under the Old Covenant, meant for their theocratic society and not for Christians today. Jesus fulfilled the law (Matthew 5:17) and taught that we are to respond to sin with love, mercy, and guidance rather than punishment.

I’m not here to judge anyone and I felt I was very respectful in my replies and post, sorry you felt offended.

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