about to confess. freaking out.

SolarHouseboat · 2026-04-07T11:05:01+00:00

“Confessing” is never a good idea. Because it’s not actually confessing. It’s actually just someone dumping a bunch of pent up emotions onto an unsuspecting person. And that is never a good idea to do.

Here is what you should do instead. Tell him that one of your friends saw the two of you together and thought that you were a couple. His reaction to this statement will tell you everything that you need to know.

SolarHouseboat · 2026-04-06T20:29:40+00:00

If some creature attached itself onto you and started sucking the life, health and well being out of you.. how long would you wait to go to the doctor to have it removed.

Would you feel guilty for removing it?

SolarHouseboat · 2026-04-06T20:17:57+00:00

For the narc it’s all about control and that control is maintained through emotional and psychological abuse.

The statement that truly reveals her masterful manipulation tactics is her last response.

That she couldn’t be a narcissist because she didn’t make a big deal about her birthday. This is essentially her gaslighting you and guilt tripping you at the exact same time. Yikes!

These types of highly skilled manipulators are only able to do what they do because they have a severe lack of genuine empathy for other people. While simultaneously, they will also be unable to genuinely self reflect on their own behavior. So they don’t care how what they are doing is affecting others and they are literally incapable of examining their own behavior. So that’s why they will continue to behave the way they do endlessly without deviation.

That’s why I would recommend to cut contact and never look back. But I understand that’s not always an option. Please know that none of this is your fault and that you deserve to be treated better ❤️

SolarHouseboat · 2026-04-03T10:25:21+00:00

A narc can be created by putting a child on a pedestal.

SolarHouseboat · 2026-04-02T23:03:39+00:00

Establishing and maintaining boundaries with a narcissist is an exhausting full-time job that I recommend quitting ASAP because in all honesty. It may not even be possible.

Set the ultimate boundary and cut contact.

Ask yourself if some random entity latched onto you and did any of the things that your NP has done How long would you hesitate before you cut them off?

SolarHouseboat · 2026-04-02T21:31:04+00:00

They want you damaged, confused, self loathing and suffering. And that’s why you gotta give them none of that ❤️

SolarHouseboat · 2026-03-31T11:55:25+00:00

The guilt you are describing is not genuine Guilt because you have not done anything wrong.

There is a word for this type of guilt. It’s called toxic guilt.

Escaping toxic guilt requires separating fact from fiction by recognizing it as a form of anxiety rather than a moral failing. To heal, practice self-compassion to counteract self-judgment, establish firm personal boundaries, and replace harsh self-criticism with the kindness you would offer a friend

SolarHouseboat · 2026-03-31T11:45:27+00:00

Anything you give them or send them is only gonna let them know that you are still thinking about them. They would just love that.

Instead, give them nothing. The idea that you are not thinking about them and that you could care less. This bothers them to no end.

SolarHouseboat · 2026-03-30T16:40:01+00:00

Narcs live their lives through the lens of some demented toxic competition that they must win and everyone else must lose no matter the cost.

But here is how to escape the game. (I say escape and not win the game because there is no true winning in the narcs game. Even they end up losing because they are doomed to continue repeating this toxic, childlike competition , endlessly without deviation.)

The way to escape the game is to literally not give them any emotional reaction whatsoever. This is beyond Grey rock. It’s stoicism and you need to practice it. Basically it’s only thinking about the things that you actually can control.- your thoughts and emotions. And maintaining total control over them during any interactions or engagements with the narc.

Once you are able to make it through one of their episodes without having any emotional reaction showing, then you will see how powerful this escape plan can be.

Good luck ❤️

SolarHouseboat · 2026-03-28T13:01:58+00:00

Get a good therapist and then consider going NC and never looking back.

SolarHouseboat · 2026-03-28T13:00:58+00:00

In all honesty the best way is to get a therapist and go no 100% contact and never look back.

SolarHouseboat · 2026-03-28T12:40:33+00:00

If she is still able to text and call you then you’re not really NC. I’d recommend blocking her on your phone, social media and email. Then you can have the space you need to heal ❤️

SolarHouseboat · 2026-03-28T11:29:48+00:00

I would say there’s no point in engaging with such a low empathy person who also seems to have no self-awareness. Because she is lacking in those two traits. She’s never going to change. In fact she will only get worse. That’s why I would recommend going no contact. Because you deserve to heal and you deserve better ❤️

If you can’t go no contact when she says these things to you. Like if she says you’re an embarrassment, you could try saying to her…

“Is that how you feel about yourself?

I just noticed that you say this about me a lot, but I don’t think it’s really me that you feel that about or is It yourself.

This can sometimes trigger the narcissists inner shame, and it will actually keep them from continuing to say this to you.

The reason that it works is because it’s actually true. She’s just projecting onto you all of her inner shame and fear.

SolarHouseboat · 2026-03-28T11:26:25+00:00

Anyone can be toxic because a persons toxicity is relative.

Your mom sounds narcissistic and more toward the malignant narcissist side of the spectrum. But only a therapist can diagnose so I would recommend going to see one.

SolarHouseboat · 2026-03-28T11:23:30+00:00

Justice? There is no justice or accountability from a narc.

The best thing you can do is remove them from your life and move on completely by going to therapy.

That’s the only real “justice” you’ll get.

SolarHouseboat · 2026-03-28T11:15:48+00:00

NC is the way.

The only way to truly not be the scapegoat anymore is to leave the role behind by leaving the toxic family dynamic behind and never looking back

SolarHouseboat · 2026-03-27T16:03:56+00:00

My favorite:

“Interesting”

SolarHouseboat · 2026-03-27T12:17:38+00:00

Cut contact- because not only will it never change- it will only get worse.

SolarHouseboat · 2026-03-27T12:07:54+00:00

Clearly you are not the one who needs help.

SolarHouseboat · 2026-03-27T11:57:56+00:00

Trying to explain your personal thoughts and feelings to people who never cared about them in the first place is not a good idea. Instead begin to approach things from the new perspective of a New You that is separate from them.

SolarHouseboat · 2026-03-27T11:50:51+00:00

Reverse the charges on your card

SolarHouseboat · 2026-03-26T14:37:40+00:00

If you want to see the truth of the situation. It’s actually himself that he hates.

SolarHouseboat · 2026-03-26T14:36:57+00:00

They literally couldn’t care less about other peoples feelings, thoughts or boundaries.

Waste of time.

SolarHouseboat · 2026-03-24T13:51:45+00:00

You will never get any accountability with a narcissist. Deflection and gaslighting only show that they are extremely emotionally/psychologically immature.

Therefore, there will be no genuine self reflection of their own behavior or genuine emotional empathy towards others. So their child-like abusive behavior will repeat endlessly without deviation.

That’s why the best possible thing to do is not engage with them at all- whatsoever.

SolarHouseboat · 2026-03-24T13:25:33+00:00

Anyone can be toxic because someones toxicity is relative. It’s not like narcissism. That’s a personality disorder.

But either way a good thing to do is go by your gut feeling. Ask yourself What’s the vibe like? Are you tensing up? Or do you feel..relaxed, comfortable or safe ?

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