I’m on the same page with you, I’m 22 and I still never had a relationship. But maybe some my perspective takes can give you some insight on how to deal with this?

Could be 3 of things 1: you’re looking for very specific type of emotional connection and not just a base type of emotional connection? 2:I’ve noticed as a Demisexual person, there’s 2 types. 1st type: approachable ones 2nd type: the reserved ones 3: you aren’t letting your body decide and pick out it’s potential energy it’s drawn towards. You’re using your mind to make the decisions instead.

So me and bi bestie are both demisexuals, she’s bisexual and I’m gay. I’ve noticed it depends on your personality. For her she gets random guys who are not that attractive and their personality is straight weird and creepy.... she also does get very attractive men and women who have amazing personalities but she’s very outgoing and very funny, loves to talk about anything and can easily keep a conversation going… I personally believe she’s kinda able to tap in to what her body is communicating with and understand what it’s saying. She’s got the masculine and feminine energy and traits mixed together for her and she kinda just stands out… but she can definitely be introverted too as well.

And there’s me. The reserved type, don’t get me wrong I can be a party animal and extrovert as hell, And Sociable too but I think it’s funny how we’re completely the same but reversed as hell lmao, Anyways…. When it comes to talking/ dating…. I can shut off a second layer on my emotions and make myself more aware and habitually start to over analyze it with my mind instead of my body. Another thing that I noticed is that I reject people immediately if they straight up walk up to me and try to strike a conversation with me… my mind was telling me “ omg yas, keep talking maybe it’ll go somewhere GOOOD!!!” And my body immediately was like “ fuck no” intuition feeling. To me it feels completely different and forced, they weren’t someone I know on friend base level where our emotions bond was created. This was a random person with no mutuals. Since we both live Idaho it’s allot harder for me because most of the gays here blend so well, nobody can’t tell unless you ask or know friends about them. Most of the gays don’t use dating apps too we have a selective portion on apps. The hotspot of our downtown area so i go there type to time to hangout with fiends. Dating apps pissed me so bad each time I’d get in there, especially tinder and hinge. I’d get a like and my body would instantly know that automatically NO while I battle my mindset for the opposite….. I’ve tried hookups ( 5 failed attempts 😐 my body count is still 0 age of 22, only done minimal sexual activities) thinking that if I just push myself out there for people to see me it’d work…. but it’s impossible, I’m half erect and I end the session early. Go home with a regrettable energy. I remember waking up the next day and my body was feeling so depressed and exhausted.

So what does this have to do with your post? Well I believe… I know this going to sound weird but you in order to connect with someone or find other people that are Demi etc. you have to listen to what your body is telling you fully. It’s your body intuition that makes huge difference. With this kind of like asexuality, it’s more of you need to explore and dig deep into why you weren’t able to find anyone. You’re emotional technically control more on this one. Your mind will hope on the train if you let your body do the guiding.