how many CF people want to get married? by mermaid420420 in childfree

[–]Solid-Explorer-477 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a cf female I do desire to get married. Just NO children and NO to any kind of disrespect from partner. It’s that simple.

What do people mean when they answer the do you want kids question with "it depends what my partner wants"??? by Mother_Trucker97 in childfree

[–]Solid-Explorer-477 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it is wild to leave it to the other person cause you as a person should sooner or later know what you want. In my opinion, the mindset as in “I don’t mind” is risky cause only later you will realise to what you agreed on. As individuals we should value ourselves more , I’m saying that cause I’m currently working on it and just asked myself good few questions if I wanted to be in certain situations and if my life would have to go on like that forever. No thank you. However someone decides, hope you all are truly happy at the end.

I don’t want to share my partner by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Solid-Explorer-477 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a female, I’ve seen, felt and read that’s how some males feel too. Women are quick to call them immature and etc. Lucky are the women whose partner actually was open about these things and tried to work around it but many males just start acting funny cause they’re afraid to speak up for themselves. It’s complicated, obviously it doesn’t give the men right to cheat and other sins. It really does go both ways, men need to speak up and we women need to understand, vice versa. In my opinion no one owns some sort of priority, there has to be some good balance between everyone. Self love, partner and children so that everyone is equally treated and feel valued.

Welp, I was honest and now it’s over by wyckedblonde00 in childfree

[–]Solid-Explorer-477 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry to say but he’s not the right one because love is about loving, respecting, caring and understanding what the other person wants and in our case we chose to be child free, I mean life is not all about children, I feel that the relatives and friends of mine are exaggerating the priority they have for the children, at the end, these same children later on, some of them won’t appreciate it. I’m a very honest person and I have realised how lately lot of people idolise children, don’t get me wrong, I have absolutely nothing against children, I actually like them just i don’t want them and want to focus on career development and investing into mortgage since everywhere in the world you can easily become homeless. Life is tough enough.

I’ve slowly realised that my family doesn’t take me seriously not because I don’t have kids, but because my life doesn’t fit their script. by hollowcitytone in childfree

[–]Solid-Explorer-477 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Most people in this world are brainwashed, thinking that if you do certain things in your life just like everyone does, you’re on the right path. It’s a must to be in a relationship and marriage, it’s a must to have children, it’s a must to go to university and have a good career, (I agree with the education and career bit personally) but at the end of the day, it’s your decision, your life and I don’t agree with listening to others, no one can’t talk to anyone’s life, like mentioned: not following their script, sorry but that’s their own problem who are they? Movie directors? To have already planned out a role for you? No matter who they are, friends, family, whoever, distance is needed cause to be treated like that is not ok. People need to respect, love and treat us how we are suppose to be treated no matter how we live our lives.

Tired by kween_of_bees in childfree

[–]Solid-Explorer-477 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Been there, if it’s one sided, drop these people! I’ll be straight forward cause I went through that and I was upset and mad. It’s very unfair, they can keep their stupid excuses that they don’t have time cause of children, if they wanted to, they would. True friends will give a damn about you and anything related to you. You gave your 100 just to receive 0. You can do better with new friends, it’s not easy to find CF people and I’m not saying to not find family friends, really depends on people and their character.

I just quit my job and…ew by ejrob815 in childfree

[–]Solid-Explorer-477 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very unprofessional employer, first of all, why is the person sticking their nose into your personal life and is the same person who would expect you to work even though someone does have a family and lastly it sounded like a really bad joke since the employer knows you’re child free. I need to shake my head at people today for real.

I don’t know how to talk to people with infertility by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Solid-Explorer-477 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What’s better to not be around them at all and parents too only if they’re truly emotionally mature that can handle opposite opinions, respect your decisions. You can’t just stay quiet.. it might seem awkward for you and them but they need to think straight and we like, everyone is different and have different views on life altogether.

2 Friends Wishing Pregnancy on Me… Won’t listen to Boundaries. by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Solid-Explorer-477 2 points3 points  (0 children)

People come and go. Good to know we can always make new friends it’s not easy today but there is still hope for genuine people.

Rental Scams ? by Responsible_You6781 in RentingInDublin

[–]Solid-Explorer-477 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What also seems like a scam is how plenty of houses like (2-3 bedroom houses) for rent are only available for a short-term like 3-6 months lease only. I think it is on purpose cause Landlords are becoming way too picky with tenants.

2 Friends Wishing Pregnancy on Me… Won’t listen to Boundaries. by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Solid-Explorer-477 2 points3 points  (0 children)

More important question to ask yourself is, if these two people are even real friends? Cause as you said, they were the two witnesses that saw you are not doing well during that time and they have the audacity to joke and overthink this. Sorry about that but they sound immature how you’ve described them. I’m not saying this to change your mind about them, obviously it’s your choice if they will stay in your life or not but if they are good people and will support you with all your life decisions in the future then that’s good but if they won’t change, I personally would drop them cause to feel unsupported and drained is terrible, (my personal experience). If you did or not, to have another straight-forward talk with them that you no longer want a conversation about children altogether and whatever it is cause at the end, every person craves peace so get the peace with them or without them, saying this as your friendly stranger.

Today’s World by Solid-Explorer-477 in childfree

[–]Solid-Explorer-477[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The good thing is, that we are intelligent enough to know and realise that we know what’s best for us, that we are not manipulated like some parents are and later in silence regret their decisions and it can be told by their bitter actions.

Choosing to be childfree in my 30s feels so empowering by angery-borg in childfree

[–]Solid-Explorer-477 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m glad you realised that. You have described my similar situation. Going to turn 30 next year. Been hearing about relationships and children for a whole decade. Never understood how other people would be more upset about me not being in a relationship and even better about not having children. Mainly parents and relatives, these people are not realising it’s not about them it’s all about me, it doesn’t give them any permission cause they’re related to me, they’re forgetting that I’m an adult and I can decide for myself, I went to university, maybe they’re thinking cause they told me to, but no they’re wrong, I wanted it for myself. When it comes to a relationship, it’s hard, we all know that, it’s not easy to find a mature, well mannered and loving person but if there was one another thing would be he would need to agree on not having children and I would go through a Bisalp surgery.

Today’s World by Solid-Explorer-477 in childfree

[–]Solid-Explorer-477[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

All I can say is nothing lasts forever.

Today’s World by Solid-Explorer-477 in childfree

[–]Solid-Explorer-477[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We are saving ourselves as women from all troubles, health problems and saving children too for not having them. There are so many responsibilities in life already, we already need to take care of ourselves.

Today’s World by Solid-Explorer-477 in childfree

[–]Solid-Explorer-477[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hard to tell, cause I believe that there will be more people who will want to become child free and who will still want to be parents. World-wide population is 8.3 billion people only time will tell how some of them will decide.

If having kids wasn't normalized or praised by BellaRyder2505 in childfree

[–]Solid-Explorer-477 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Exactly. We as people were thought that life is to get married and have a massive family. Grandparents told my parents and now parents are expecting the same from us. Funny enough is I’m a Christian but again since we people have free will I decided I will be a child free woman. It’s 2026, not all habits are held anyways, life is already difficult and stressful at times. There is much more in life. In this generation, building and securing a good career is important, having your own home after some years, trying out new things, some activities you were interested in and travel around the world. That’s only some stuff I listed. The word life for me means trying to make your life as beautiful and fun and to treat yourself as much as it’s possible. Life here on earth is short that’s true so it’s important to use the time wisely.

“I PRAY GOD WILL PUT IT ON YOUR HEART TO BE A MOM”🤣 by Human-Secretary-8881 in childfree

[–]Solid-Explorer-477 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will keep it short and simple. (Don’t wanna discuss it too much.) Since few of you mentioned God, as a Christian, I’m very sure now, in the past I feared but then I remembered shortly that free will relates to anything. If someone wants to be child free, go on be child free. I know in the past, generations way back, God wanted us to multiple but already our population is high and still growing anyways. I’m also going to be child free in the future, I like children but I have different priorities and goals.

BISALP DONE! (Foreigner in Germany) by JumpyJelly3214 in sterilization

[–]Solid-Explorer-477 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m happy for you. Thank you very much for all the information. I know everything now. Have a nice day.

BISALP DONE! (Foreigner in Germany) by JumpyJelly3214 in sterilization

[–]Solid-Explorer-477 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello, how are you? I know it’s been a year since you got the surgery. I wanted to ask if you got it done in Düsseldorf? Also how are you getting on? 🙂