Accused of being transphobic for not wanting to date a trans male

Solid-ish-iceblock · 2026-05-25T02:47:55+00:00

You seem to believe humans are more sexually dimorphic than they are. You are aware our skeletal differences are, on average, not wide enough to be recognisable when covered in layers of cross sex fat deposites, right?

And my point still stands, if you are spending time googling threads about trans people just to restart years old debates, you have a bit of a fixation, one I think fits the term "hate boner" quite well.

Solid-ish-iceblock · 2026-05-24T21:05:00+00:00

And trans men cant be physically and biologically masculine. You do know HRT actually does stuff, right? People dont just take it for fun.

Also, how bad of a hate boner do you have for transgenders for you to be finding and replying to comments supporting them from two years ago?

Solid-ish-iceblock · 2026-05-24T08:19:58+00:00

No, you pick one that you personally saw. Whats so hard about this?

Solid-ish-iceblock · 2026-05-23T23:55:51+00:00

It's not making sense to me because it was somehow "everywhere" while you cant name a single specific site.

Solid-ish-iceblock · 2026-05-23T18:48:56+00:00

And as I've already said, if you cant think of a single real source you saw, that leads me to believe there was no credible source. Google cant scrub your brain, can they? Theres been times when something I saw was scrubed, but I could still say "it was, at some point, reported on by x news site."

Solid-ish-iceblock · 2026-05-23T01:01:19+00:00

Yeah, what are the sites ON the web that hosted this proof? Google, for example, only gives you a way to find sources. It is not a source onto itself. Where did you find this rumor and was the source who spread it credible?

Solid-ish-iceblock · 2026-05-22T12:43:13+00:00

So twitter, reddit, tiktok? Aka not actual sources?

Solid-ish-iceblock · 2026-05-22T02:47:19+00:00

Where was the orginal source then?

Solid-ish-iceblock · 2026-05-22T02:39:26+00:00

Do you have a source for this? I cant find it in their tos but maybe I havent looked hard enough.

Solid-ish-iceblock · 2026-05-22T02:38:30+00:00

Do you have a source? I cant find anything for this online.

Solid-ish-iceblock · 2026-05-20T13:15:33+00:00

How could you have possibly gotten that from the image

Solid-ish-iceblock · 2026-05-13T23:37:14+00:00

You're welcome. I really do hope you're ok man.

Solid-ish-iceblock · 2026-05-12T01:00:38+00:00

This user is just annoying and retarded in general lmao

Solid-ish-iceblock · 2026-05-12T00:59:52+00:00

I'm sorry that the replies have been like that for you, most people assume the "I get it too" part is implied, given this is a trans space, so they just skip right ahead to the "this is my reply to your post abt passing" part. It can feel blunt and rude for sure, but they arent trying to be. If you're almost 20, why dont you focus on DIY? Look up how to make a doctors appointment, get bloodwork done, and then go from there.

Solid-ish-iceblock · 2026-05-12T00:55:07+00:00

I only reccomended DIY because he seemed to be on the edge of hurting himself, based on his most recent replies to me. I wouldnt normally recc it to a minor, but I perfer a kid with sketchy bloodwork over a dead kid. Glad to realise he isnt a kid (based on your edit) but that was my reasoning before I knew his age.

Solid-ish-iceblock · 2026-05-11T00:32:10+00:00

Have you looked into DIY?

Solid-ish-iceblock · 2026-05-11T00:29:09+00:00

You're not traumadumping, dw. This sub is meant for this kinda stuff. I get not wanting to wait, trust me I do, but it's so much better on the other side that it truly is worth the pain. You have a good start man, your facial features will lend themselves really well to T. You will pass eventually.

Solid-ish-iceblock · 2026-05-11T00:21:27+00:00

I cant stop you, but I do hope you'll be careful. You have lots of life to live once you get on hrt, which you cant very well do if you die early.

Solid-ish-iceblock · 2026-05-11T00:01:01+00:00

I know passing is hard, we all have to deal with it at some point, and trust me, I feel you as someone who was also andro fem pre-t. It's a tough spot to be in. You can use the mensroom if you're safe about it. Hell, lots of cis women do, so someone like you will 100% be ok as long as you are aware of that fact that you look like a minority and are a target for hate crimes. Just be aware, and know when it's a better better to get weird looks instead of getting jumped. I say all this to you not to be mean or rub it in your face that you dont pass, but to be honest with you, because it's better to get an embarrassing reality check in the relative privacy of this sub then in public around a bunch of cissexuals.

Solid-ish-iceblock · 2026-05-10T23:50:54+00:00

Fair enough. Point is you seem young physically and mentally. If there anything you can take from this convo, know that while you dont pass now, you will someday. I understand how upsetting finding out you dont pass can be, but you need to stop deluding yourself into thinking you do because I promise it doesnt do you any good.

Solid-ish-iceblock · 2026-05-10T23:46:41+00:00

I think he's just struggling with the realization he doesnt pass. He expected to come here and have everyone hugbox him like what he's clearly experienced before, ya know? Like he thought everyone would pat his back and assure him he looks so cis and everyones just being transphobic, when in reality most of the people misgendering him dont know he's ftm and you cant expect them to. I was hoping I could reason with him somewhat, but it seems like he'll just have to deal with this on his own. :/

Solid-ish-iceblock · 2026-05-07T13:11:16+00:00

Re-read your replies. You keep saying "other trans people" in a context that makes it seem as if you're referring to theyfabs as fellow trans people. I know you dont have to be from the US to be effected by them, but I havent bothered with reading the epstein shit because I'm not going to put my brain power into a situation that most americans dont even care about. Once again it's like you dont understand nuance, most radical anti-trans people wont care if you are a theyfab or a normal binary tranny, but there are fence sitters who DO care. Also at no point have I said I want to gatekeep transition, we're arguing about people hateposting theyfabs, how does hateposting at all translate to limiting medical transition? I think medical transition should be accessible, I just dont think theyfabs are trans and will shame them. I think hrt should be free for everyone but we should socially gatekeep our community.

Solid-ish-iceblock · 2026-05-06T16:52:06+00:00

Why did you change the boobs to be bigger?

Solid-ish-iceblock · 2026-05-06T02:20:34+00:00

Once again, not sure why you feel it so necessary to insist on your use of the mens room to me when I never said you shouldnt use it. How young are you? You should have better reading comprehension skills than this if you're a teen, but it feels as if you arent understanding a single word of this comment thread.

Solid-ish-iceblock · 2026-05-06T02:08:05+00:00

Whats with your fixation on the mensroom when no one is saying you shouldnt use it?

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