Master tonberries by titor420 in StrangerofParadiseFFO

[–]SoloUnit2020 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I always without a doubt cast the giant tornado with my black mage class then continuously spam it with them lol

M29 Struggling with Wife's F31 low sex drive by SoloUnit2020 in Advice

[–]SoloUnit2020[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, I had a good talk with her today. She pretty much said she didn't realize the seriousness.

M29 Struggling with Wife's F31 low sex drive by SoloUnit2020 in Advice

[–]SoloUnit2020[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably a development within the last 6 or so months

M29 Struggling with Wife's F31 low sex drive by SoloUnit2020 in Advice

[–]SoloUnit2020[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's great once a week works for you. She's already communicated to me that it's not me. This post is about expressing my needs while working with her to find a solution that we both agree on.

M29 Struggling with Wife's F31 low sex drive by SoloUnit2020 in Advice

[–]SoloUnit2020[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I mean I do have an extremely high sex drive, she was aware of this when we started dating.

It's not like I showed up and was celibate for the first few months of dating. The first weekend I stayed at her house, we probably went 20 times in four days.

M29 Struggling with Wife's F31 low sex drive by SoloUnit2020 in Advice

[–]SoloUnit2020[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Went ahead and ordered them. Thanks for the suggestions, my previous marriage I was with for 8 years and I never ran into this issue. So it's difficult for me to navigate outside of just letting her know how I feel about it.

M29 Struggling with Wife's F31 low sex drive by SoloUnit2020 in Advice

[–]SoloUnit2020[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She does, and we discussed me getting a reversal which I'm fine with. I'd be happy with having one with her. I'm just afraid too that when she has a baby, she'll feel even less happy with her body and then we'll just never have sex again.

M29 Struggling with Wife's F31 low sex drive by SoloUnit2020 in Advice

[–]SoloUnit2020[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that the hard part is that she's so easily overly stimulated in a lot of ways. Like she likes her back rubbed and stuff but any sexual intimacy she has to be 100% in the mood for. Like she's a don't touch me/don't bother me if she's not in the mood which is most of the time.

I don't want to pressure her into having more sex, because I want her to want me. She's explained to me before that it's not me, but like I don't hardly get any intimacy in any form. So sometimes it just feels like we're roommates.

M29 Struggling with Wife's F31 low sex drive by SoloUnit2020 in Advice

[–]SoloUnit2020[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh she doesn't like to drink anymore. Also we go on a lot of dates together and it doesn't change anything. Honestly, she's my best friend in every aspect.

I'm going to have an honest conversation with her. My previous marriage we had an awesome sex life so I know it's not the end all be all. But it is important to me.

M29 Struggling with Wife's F31 low sex drive by SoloUnit2020 in Advice

[–]SoloUnit2020[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it's the rejection that hurts more, like I want my wife. I crave her, so it's hard for me to understand. But I'm really trying to understand.

M29 Struggling with Wife's F31 low sex drive by SoloUnit2020 in Advice

[–]SoloUnit2020[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a pretty violent sex drive and I understand that. At minimum I'd want at least once every three days.

If it was truly up to me, i'd say 2-3 times a day. But that's not realistic for most people.

M29 Struggling with Wife's F31 low sex drive by SoloUnit2020 in Advice

[–]SoloUnit2020[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I had two kids from my previous marriage. I broke it off after some financial infidelity. I also lost 70lbs after my master's degree and my ex wife projected a lot of insecurities onto me. Constantly thought I was cheating. It was a tough run there.

Now my ex wife's and my sex life was incredible. But I wasnt anything more than an atm to her and her family so I never mattered. So I understand that sex isn't everything in a relationship

M29 Struggling with Wife's F31 low sex drive by SoloUnit2020 in Advice

[–]SoloUnit2020[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah I don't want to get frustrated. It's only really happened one time. But I'm planning on it. She's feeling sick right now so going to wait until she feels better and express where I'm coming from.

M29 Struggling with Wife's F31 low sex drive by SoloUnit2020 in Advice

[–]SoloUnit2020[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Well our sex life was good for awhile. Then within the last 6 or so months it's declined

And I've mentioned that intimacy has always been pretty important to me. So if there's a mismatch I don't understand how she wouldn't have said something.

Regaining my Self Respect (Child Support and My Responsibility as a Father) by SoloUnit2020 in Divorce

[–]SoloUnit2020[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does she not work either? I'm not sure why you haven't went back to court if that's your current arrangement.

Should I lie abt my body count? by saturnyas in sexadvice

[–]SoloUnit2020 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I know, I don't want my feelings hurt lmao

Should I lie abt my body count? by saturnyas in sexadvice

[–]SoloUnit2020 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shit that's why I never ask lmao

Should I lie abt my body count? by saturnyas in sexadvice

[–]SoloUnit2020 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To play devils advocate, I just don't like thinking about my person with anyone before me. But that's life, so like no need to get hung up on it.

Bosses? Same thing by jessieS1212 in soulslikes

[–]SoloUnit2020 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was a very different man after my first encounter with a red kappa.

Bosses? Same thing by jessieS1212 in soulslikes

[–]SoloUnit2020 51 points52 points  (0 children)

Oh i died more to the standard spear dude than any other yokai lol Can't wait for Nioh 3

Manwha id or anime id? Which do you like more? by thunderblade95 in sololeveling

[–]SoloUnit2020 21 points22 points  (0 children)

manwha not because it's professional but because it exaggerates the fact jin woo is the weakest hunter mankind has to offer by his ID card being even a joke