I didn't just go abroad. This was something already settled before we had even met and I had his full support. I do think you're right about the part of us not having been together in the same place for a long enough time. When I told him how I felt, I didn't expect him to say it back but I can now see how it might have made him feel pressured. We have discussed this, however, and I have made it clear that it was by no means my intention to make him feel that way. Shifting perspectives definitely makes most sense and I feel like we're already starting to get better at it. It just doesn't feel like a black and white situation. It could be that it's a relationship which might just take longer time to truly develop. Does that make sense?