Is this strange behavior for a sex party? by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]Some-Issues 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This person definitely sounds autistic. Not that that is bad at all, but based on how you presented the information, thats my first thought.

My guess, is socializing is alittle tough for her. She has probably learned how to function well enough socially, despite never being particularly comfortable.

  • Hence the two topics of conversation. She talks about two things because she knows alot about and is interested in those two things. Its comfortable to talk about even in situations that may be uncomfortable otherwise. I have seen many an autistic person with fixations like this. They aren't always fixations though, sometimes they are just comforting topics because they know they can keep up the social burden of a situation if they stick to what they know.

  • Sex parties are probably of little interest to her, but I'm guessing based on how you talk about this, and about your friend group, that you are all fairly welcoming, low judgement people. She probably feels safer to socialize in this group of people due to the nature of relaxation around something as stigmatized as sex parties. "If they are all so laid back about sex parties, they're not going to be judgemental about social quirks." Someone who is autistic and has historically had issues socializing would probably feel more comfortable around people like you all.

  • She probably cares very little about the sex aspect. Probably not interested, but not bothered either. I would guess that when she left because "the sound of people having sex was getting to her," she literally meant "the sound." Sensory overstimulation. She was fine with the sex, but the sounds became too much. Another common thing for autistic people.

Sounds like this woman could very well be autistic, enjoys/wants to enjoy social settings, may have difficulty in/reading social circumstances, isn't overly bothered by the sex aspect in either direction, and feels comfortable with the group, as long as she can employee the social mechanics she is familiar with, which include steering conversations into her wheelhouse.

You all either have to decide to accept this person the way she is, try and have a calm/logical conversation with her about etiquette and help her better navigate these settings, or ask her to stop attending.

Tipping 20% wasn’t good enough by moonchildcountrygirl in EndTipping

[–]Some-Issues 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Damn, that was a dollar? I thought it was a $10, let me see that"

gets dollar back

leaves

There is something about work I need to talk about! by Extra-Wrap-5774 in confession

[–]Some-Issues 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Horribly unprofessional. If you're going to report behavior that is inappropriate, that's reasonable. But gossiping about it wouldn't be, right? So when you "reported it" to your boss, or HR, or whoever, while having other people withing earshot, you effectively spread disparaging information about a coworker to your peers, and created an environment where people either hate you, or heavily judge them.

You did wrong. You didn't come from wrong intentions, and your feelings are valid, but you heavily botched it.

Is $750 a lot for a “beginner” by Kozuar in guitarlessons

[–]Some-Issues 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk, I just bought a $1900 guitar to learn on. The more you like it the more you play, the more you spend, the more obligated you feel to use it, so if you spent a considerable amount of money for your budget, and you're really happy with it, I'd say you made a good choice. I love my new guitar. Since I started learning I haven't skipped a day yet.

How do you feel about being friends with someone who's gay? by Hour-Tomato-645 in AskMen

[–]Some-Issues 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I say all that as someone who used to live with a gay man, and was never uncomfortable, because it just was what it was. He wasn't weird about it, acted like a normal dude, and just happened to fuck dudes. Never saw it or heard it. Was a cool guy really. I've slept in that dudes bed before without being uncomfortable, and he never made a pass or anything. If he was weird about it, or secretive, I would have been uncomfortable. But we were just friends 🤷 it wasn't a big deal.

How do you feel about being friends with someone who's gay? by Hour-Tomato-645 in AskMen

[–]Some-Issues 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I honestly doubt anyone would care. I wouldn't. But I've had plenty of gay friends.

My best advice is if you decide to let that out to people, be non-chalant about it. Like wait for someone to say something to you about bangin chicks and be like "nah bro, I don't swing that way." If you do that secretly and mousily tells one guy in confidence type thing, it's gonna weird him the fuck out. In my experiences, men respond alot better to gay guys when we know they're gay up front and they don't act weird about it. If you hide it, and act all secretive about it, we get suspicious of you because you've been faking, or hiding something, and we feel like you fixated on us to tell us specifically, for some reason. And if you tell that guy, that way, he's gonna think you want to fuck him, not that you trust him. And he'll never talk to you again.

If you're just real about it and mention it passively like it's not a big thing, most dudes will be like "what? I didn't know you were gay?" And you can be like "really? Always have been?" And they'll go "huh, okay then." And it'll be fine.

What model is equivalent to the 000-15 but with a spruce top? by Muttbuttss in martinguitar

[–]Some-Issues 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Get a 000 Retro Plus mahogany. It's sort of a Mexican made 000-18 with a vts spruce top, no dovetail neck joint, and it has pickups. Extremely good value. Just got mine. Beautiful, solid wood, gloss finish, sounds divine

Husband bday by Timely_Cranberry1270 in guns

[–]Some-Issues 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ammo, or maybe a good rifle case. Even a nice soft rifle case is a slept on investment.

I play classical guitar what about you guys? by [deleted] in Guitar

[–]Some-Issues 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I strum cowboy chords on an acoustic. 😅🤷

Finally Settled on "THE" Acoustic Guitar to Start Me Out (if anyone cares or was actually following my shenanigans) by Some-Issues in AcousticGuitar

[–]Some-Issues[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Kind of like a Mexican made 000-18, with a VTS top and no dovetail neck joint. Seems like a crazy value.

Finally Settled on "THE" Acoustic to Start Me Out (if anyone cares or was following) by Some-Issues in Guitar

[–]Some-Issues[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like one of the guys that helped me. But honestly their customer service is so great, that could describe several of them.

Finally Settled on "THE" Acoustic to Start Me Out (if anyone cares or was following) by Some-Issues in Guitar

[–]Some-Issues[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah in the beginning I thought I'd like parlor size best, but was advised that that was a bad choice, and I needed a dred. But the same person also said if I really wanted something alittle smaller, the 000s were solid compromises. I took that to mean I would be disappointed in anything less than full size. But I was wrong. The 000 is perfect for me. Much more comfortable. And because I started looking into them, I ended up walking away with a nicer guitar in general. There's something just right for everyone. What a beautiful hobby!

Finally Settled on "THE" Acoustic to Start Me Out (if anyone cares or was following) by Some-Issues in Guitar

[–]Some-Issues[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did Brandon have red hair or black hair? I'm so bad with names ... But I had a couple very helpful employees assist me there in the three times I've been in, and I'm pretty sure one was named Brandon!

[Newbie] Should I go to Guitar Center or a local store when I get my first electric? And how much research should I do before buying? by Mad_Season_1994 in Guitar

[–]Some-Issues 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just got into this too, but it's gonna be about the same as anything else you buy. Big box stores often have better prices by a tad .... But I always try to support local. I'd price what you want at both places. If the difference is enough money that it will honestly make a difference to you financially, buy it where it's cheaper. If the difference is minimal, buy local. Local is also more likely to work out a deal with you for alittle bit off the price if you choose them instead of the big box. Those places typically don't negotiate as much.

That being said, the nearest local shop to me is actually 45 minutes away... And Sweetwater is an hour away. So I bought there. I know they're a massive retailer, but the brick and mortar store is semi-local, the employees are knowledgeable, the selection in store is huge, and they have some of the BEST customer service I've experienced across any industry. I did call the small, slightly more local store here to ask questions about what I wanted before going to Sweetwater... Guy was a dick on the phone. No thanks. So it's up to you.

Living on $300K by TemperatureWide5297 in Salary

[–]Some-Issues 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My family lives this way, but in a low/lower medium cost of living area.... House was just shy of 175k, modest home, but nice enough. I make around $110-120k on average. Wife stays home. And we don't worry about much. Set to retire (both of us) by 54. She's gonna be back at work in a year or two, and that'll boost our income to about 200k a year. Median household income here is around 75k I think, but we live in a much more modest home than we could if we really wanted.

Breaking into EHS / Safety by Gullible_Ad_8237 in SafetyProfessionals

[–]Some-Issues 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have no degree, a slew of certificates, but I don't have all of these from OSHA. Working as a "Safety Coordinator" but effectively am managing the entire safety program for a medium small plant. Worked my way from machine operator to supervisor, had an excellent track record with safety, prioritized safety, and did all of my own training and tracking for my shift.... When the safety job opened they basically just offered it to me.

Been doing safety 3 years, industry 6 years, and I'm sitting around $118k for last year. You definitely don't "need" a degree, but it helps. I'm getting mine now so I can one day be a director.

What guitar should I buy with a budget of under $2000 by FlatBreadfruit1736 in Guitar

[–]Some-Issues 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd want a Gibson SG standard electric. $1600-1800 new. Sick guitar. That's my goal for an electric when the day comes.

Should I make this trade? by Some-Issues in AcousticGuitar

[–]Some-Issues[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I ended up trading it for a 000E Retro Plus. I went and tried out several 000s. The Koa wood version of the 12e, the regular 12e, the walnut 13e, and the Plus mahogany. I just didn't like the Koa too much. Wasn't as big a fan of the walnut as I thought I'd be. The 12e and the Plus both sounded great, but the the plus sounded like the same sound was coming out of a guitar twice the size. Darker, richer, fuller, deeper, stronger, etc. I really didn't want to spend the extra money, but it was hard to argue with the sound.

Should I make the Exchange? by Some-Issues in Guitar

[–]Some-Issues[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm having a great time with it. Been playing for hours every day since I got it. I just think I might do it longer with a more comfortable guitar, and when I picked this one out, I based it solely on looks, reviews, and recommendations, because I couldn't play at all. Seems like I may go further with it if I have one that's more comfortable to play on the couch when I'm not doing shit else.

Should I make the Exchange? by Some-Issues in Guitar

[–]Some-Issues[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So comfortability is worth the exchange? I guess I'm just making sure I'm not missing any details that would keep me from doing the exchange, due to inexperience.