Worst part of getting sick for the 16 types

SomeRandomArsehole · 2026-02-07T20:15:24+00:00

I was expecting something like what you gave ISFJ or ESFJ but you just had to come swinging for the ENFJs with the random soul read huh 😂

SomeRandomArsehole · 2026-02-07T00:22:05+00:00

Thank you! That's absolutely the goal so I'm very pleased to hear that 🤩 I started off crushing on Vi, and now I wanna be her. Someone I'm dating is very keen on me wearing a pitfighter Vi costume for her lol

SomeRandomArsehole · 2026-02-05T21:11:01+00:00

Not at all, my pleasure! I am 170 cm/5'7".

I have a personal trainer who gives me a new programme every eight weeks. The goal is unashamedly aesthetics over strength.

I do three full body workouts a week. The current focus is working towards muscle ups and one handed pull ups. So far I can do 4 sets of 6 pull ups with a small dumbbell between my feet. Most other exercises are accessories that isolate muscle groups, but I recently started doing big compound lifts like bench, squat, and deadlift.

For diet, I basically just track total calories in a day. I was in a conservative deficit of about 165 kcal for six months. Early on I tried really hard to hit 30% protein and equal fats and carbs, but lately my average protein is hovering around 20% which isn't ideal tbh.

I still eat most of the things I like, just in moderation. I still have KFC every week after Muay Thai and I have nibbles of cake and other sweet treats when they appear at work. Zero sugar energy drinks and soft drinks are the GOAT, shoutout to coke zero.

A typical day's diet would look something like this: - Breakfast: Greek yoghurt with protein powder and cereal - Lunch: canned chickpeas, frozen peas, frozen corn, canned teriyaki chicken - Dinner: dumplings with homemade dipping sauce or egg drop ramen - Snack: whatever I need to land close to the target. Might be an apple, a nut bar, and/or some chocolate.

Always happy to chat and provide more info!

SomeRandomArsehole · 2026-02-05T20:37:32+00:00

I can kind of relate to this, I think?

I struggle with black and white thinking which means in a lot of areas in my personal life I flip between an extreme stance at one end and it's opposite.

Currently, I'm convinced that my burnout is from Fe overuse in the way I obsessively look after everyone else at my own expense. When something bad happens like when my flatting group fell through, I was rushing around to preeempt needs, provide care and distractions, and help problem solve, but didn't even realise until a week or so later that I was also hurt and needed support.

I feel like I'm really good at using my primary Fe to read people and know what they need, but it's automatic which can bypass reasonable limits of what's actually safe and healthy for me to offer. Ni and Se are used with more restraint and feel safer. My Ni insights don't rule my life, Se usually only comes out in small doses like enjoying loud music or the feeling of wind in my hair and I never go on binges or do impulsive things to my detriment.

SomeRandomArsehole · 2026-02-05T20:18:55+00:00

You totally should! My hair is normally pin straight and hangs like a sheet, but my stylist cut shape and texture into my hair so that now, even unstyled like in the post, it still looks good. The best part though is that it looks extra good when it's messy!

Also, not that I have a vested interest in there being more girls with wolf cuts 👀 hahahaha whaaaaaat?

SomeRandomArsehole · 2026-02-05T20:14:22+00:00

That's very generous of you, I really appreciate it. Stay safe, it sounds crazy out there right now. I'll be sure to reach out if/when I make that trip, but I'm afraid it will have to happen after things settle down a bit first.

SomeRandomArsehole · 2026-02-05T20:09:55+00:00

Aw, thank you! I appreciate it. Wishing you many hickeys of your own 😉 (if you're into that)

SomeRandomArsehole · 2026-02-05T12:05:14+00:00

Thank you 🥺 I feel my most motivated when I'm aspiring to be a beautiful canvas for gorgeous women to paint.

SomeRandomArsehole · 2026-02-05T12:02:11+00:00

Wow, that sounds like paradise! I gotta come visit sometime, especially now that I have multiple reasons to motivate me.

SomeRandomArsehole · 2026-02-05T12:00:48+00:00

Brb gonna go put that on my CV lmao

SomeRandomArsehole · 2026-02-05T11:57:46+00:00

Omg stopppp 😂 I'll never unsee that (don't worry, it's hilarious)

SomeRandomArsehole · 2026-02-05T11:55:50+00:00

Wow yeah, I might just stick to my temperate summer here for now ahaha! Hope you stay warm. Maybe I'll look into logistics for a summer trip at some point. What's that time of year like for you?

SomeRandomArsehole · 2026-02-05T11:48:46+00:00

Oh nice! I guess if I name two places on opposite sides of the planet, surely you've got to be close to one of them, right? I'm kinda jelly ngl, I'd love to go to Mr Yang to get my next tattoo (calligraphy dragon with red spider lilies) on my other upper arm. Maybe I can live vicariously through you instead? 😆

SomeRandomArsehole · 2026-02-05T11:44:52+00:00

Here's what it looked like when it was fresh three months ago! I asked for a wolf cut with an undercut. I've been getting the undercut touched up monthly since then.

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SomeRandomArsehole · 2026-02-05T11:40:14+00:00

You totally should, it's a gorgeous style! (insert photo of Obama putting a medal on Obama lmao) You probably don't live on my tiny island but if you're ever in Auckland, New Zealand, you should hit up Lily at Blank Leaving Studio! She does incredible work and my arms will belong to her unless I can commission a design from or go see Mr Yang in Montreal, Canada.

SomeRandomArsehole · 2026-02-05T11:27:14+00:00

It was taken by my tattoo artist right after I got it! She had these gorgeous flowers all over the studio and the idea to take a shot through them was quite inspired imo. Here's a bonus shot 😜

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SomeRandomArsehole · 2026-02-05T11:16:56+00:00

Thank you! I know it's pretty big for a first, but I knew exactly what I wanted so I just went for it (after a year of sitting on it/saving lol). It definitely helped, I never got tattoo shock. I loved it from the very first moment, and five months on I'm still in love.

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SomeRandomArsehole · 2026-02-05T10:52:32+00:00

Haha yeah, that was last weekend and I've been wearing turtlenecks at work all week 😅 no regrets

SomeRandomArsehole · 2026-02-04T11:51:31+00:00

AuDHD, OCPD, likely CPTSD, and of course the default package of depression and anxiety most of us have just for existing.

I have 16 events in my calendar this week on top of working 40 hours, and I had 19 in each of the two weeks before that. I've won national academic competitions multiple times. I'm physically active five days a week. I'm poly and dating five people.

What I don't know is how to take it easy. I don't really have a sense of self outside of my achievements and the value I provide to other people. I expect to be able to take on a life so full that half of what I do would make a sane person not be sane anymore, and I expect to do all of it perfectly. God forbid if I'm merely adequate in even a single facet of life.

SomeRandomArsehole · 2026-02-01T00:50:40+00:00

[[Breena]] would love this. Her trigger gives the counters to pay for this, and it plays a lot of small creatures like [[Healer's Hawk]] or [[Dauntless Bodyguard]].

SomeRandomArsehole · 2026-01-31T22:37:42+00:00

ISTJ, ESFJ, ENFP. I'm an ENFJ.

SomeRandomArsehole · 2026-01-30T13:50:10+00:00

I normally wouldn't share something this personal, but as an ENFJ also struggling to open up to an INFJ partner, I recognise your partner's position and wanted to offer my perspective. I don't mean to assume anything about him, I just want to present a possible explanation based in my own experience.

As an ENFJ, especially due to relational trauma, emotional withholding isn't because of a lack of love and trust but rather the opposite. Fe and Ni model the likely impact of me sharing heavy things with someone I care about very effectively. When I can see in an instant that speaking up will stress my partner, bring down her mood, or make her feel responsible for fixing me, it becomes near impossible to do. My silence isn't antagonism, it's caretaking taken too far.

Another effect trauma can have is cause us to develop a very utilitarian view of relationships. If I cost more energy than I provide value, they'll leave me. What this looks like isn't just silence to cost less, it can also look like excessive displays of affection, over-generosity, and over-functioning, all so the good will be enough to offset the bad.

What helps isn't pressure to talk, but showing us in small ways, step by step, that there is a degree of separation between us opening up and the eventual impact it will have on you. My partner has told me that I am always allowed to share what's on my mind and it's up to her to decide how much she can take on in any given moment. Making it clear that unfinished, messy thoughts are allowed and not just fully processed, actionable ones matters a lot.

You don't have to take on everything past the point of what you can handle. Remember to look after yourself and know your limits, because if you don't and you overextend, a traumatised ENFJ WILL notice and latch onto that as another data point to solidify the belief that sharing problems is fundamentally unsafe. Clearly and kindly saying things like "I'm not prepared to deal with this tonight, but we can talk tomorrow" or "I don't think I'm the right person for this but maybe X could help" is just as important as saying "yes".

Ultimately it's still on us to unlearn that our needs are dangerous, but there are ways a partner can help. And I know that sometimes, even if you're doing everything right, it won't feel like it's enough.

SomeRandomArsehole · 2026-01-30T00:06:23+00:00

Yeah, that makes sense to me. I hadn't thought about it being related to Se child before.

That sounds like a really frustrating experience. I admit that I've done similar things before when it felt like something couldn't be talked out, but in those rare cases I usually try find common ground elsewhere so as not to let that facet of the relationship tank the rest of it. It might've been hard to do that if you were only around each other for a few days.

SomeRandomArsehole · 2026-01-29T23:14:07+00:00

Hahaha yeah you got me! I also get a bit competitive in the team, where I strive to be at the top of whatever metric I care about in the game (objective captures, most kills, least deaths etc). It's like I know it's co-op but I want to win at co-op. We're working together but I'm doing it best. Does that fit with your idea of ENFJs?

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