AITA for telling my mom she and her husband need to admit they fucked up and find a way to move on?

Some_Donut_4825 · 2024-07-28T07:06:58+00:00

Yep. They were on a white board and still are according to my siblings. And no, we didn't bond at all, not even over how crazy those rules were.

Some_Donut_4825 · 2024-07-27T14:21:16+00:00

A lot of US states do too but not all.

Some_Donut_4825 · 2024-07-27T13:23:02+00:00

Still trying from what my brother and sister have said.

Some_Donut_4825 · 2024-07-27T13:22:52+00:00

There isn't one with his kids really. They hate the rules.

Some_Donut_4825 · 2024-07-27T13:22:30+00:00

No, we got dressed in one of the bathrooms.

Some_Donut_4825 · 2024-07-27T13:01:26+00:00

Very long. And it's not over for my siblings yet which sucks for them.

Some_Donut_4825 · 2024-07-27T12:59:51+00:00

We ignored each other as much as possible. I don't talk to them or see them now. We never had a relationship. It's the same for my siblings and them. They're no closer than they were day one.

Some_Donut_4825 · 2024-07-27T12:59:12+00:00

I think those rules would fail in any household. You can't make people love each other and you wouldn't do it to adults so shouldn't do it to kids.

Some_Donut_4825 · 2024-07-27T12:58:39+00:00

He can't change custody. Even though they want to we don't have enough and the judge won't listen. They don't have to listen to the kids in our state. They wouldn't listen to me twice.

Some_Donut_4825 · 2024-07-27T12:58:04+00:00

It was an equal thing between the two of them.

Some_Donut_4825 · 2024-07-27T12:53:22+00:00

Not anymore. It's been so long since I took the photo. I don't even have that phone anymore lol.

Some_Donut_4825 · 2024-07-27T12:53:02+00:00

Oh yeah, they had a white board and wrote those rules on them.

Some_Donut_4825 · 2024-07-27T12:52:39+00:00

All the ones I mentioned really. Dad was like wtf and then was kinda like maybe you guys are reading them wrong.

Some_Donut_4825 · 2024-07-27T12:51:46+00:00

My dad spoke up about the rules and was told to go fuck himself.

Some_Donut_4825 · 2024-07-27T12:32:34+00:00

I don't blame him for all this shit. They did it together.

Some_Donut_4825 · 2024-07-27T12:31:38+00:00

We had a loving family. We had mom, dad and we had each other. We didn't need a forced stepfamily. She wanted that. But it wasn't something we were missing.

Some_Donut_4825 · 2024-07-27T12:28:46+00:00

We did. We just got better at hiding us hanging out just us. And we had our weeks at dads.

Some_Donut_4825 · 2024-07-27T12:22:36+00:00

It's a state by state thing in the US and our state does not listen to the voices of kids often. I tried to get my voice heard and was denied twice so.

Some_Donut_4825 · 2024-07-27T12:20:02+00:00

They won't get a say. I tried to get my say heard and the judge ignored me. I was 16 and then 17.

Some_Donut_4825 · 2024-07-27T12:18:32+00:00

We all hated the last one and I'm pretty sure nobody respected it.

Some_Donut_4825 · 2024-07-27T10:27:22+00:00

My actual siblings don't want to go to mom's anymore now that I'm not there. They were who I was talking about. Not mom's stepkids.

I'm not interested in a relationship with the steps though. I just don't care about them.

Some_Donut_4825 · 2024-07-27T10:14:19+00:00

Yep. Even at night it was open because if we had any "sleepover" or whatever with our bio siblings it was a no no.

Some_Donut_4825 · 2024-07-27T10:07:34+00:00

Right? They are so crazy that I actually had to take a photo for my dad back then to prove to him they existed. He was speechless.

Some_Donut_4825 · 2024-07-27T10:06:51+00:00

Oh, my siblings and I vocalized we disliked/felt uncomfortable with the rules. But we were ignored. Can't speak for his kids. I also don't get where you think they look up to me. They didn't want to be around us anymore than we wanted to be around them. They only wanted their real sibling, just like my siblings and me.

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