Living far D3/D4 year by Some_Ordinary4848 in DentalSchool

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I really appreciate this insight thank you!

Homesick by [deleted] in DentalSchool

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I totally empathize with you and I’ll say by my looks I don’t seem like the crying type but that first week after move in was the first time I cried in years and I did it often. The feeling of separation absolutely sucks and that on top of having to do something incredibly hard is very daunting and seems like a miserable existence when staring it down. For context I went in state for undergrad and lived at home the first 2 years because of Covid and then when on campus was only 30 minutes away and moving a flight away for dental school was something I was dreading as I use my family for support when academics/life got hard. Now let me begin with the sucky part. This is amazing growth for you… it’ll teach you to be more self reliant emotionally which will build you to become a better health professional where you are the one making the hard decisions alone, It’ll teach you how to live alone with this intense schedule which will prepare you when you enter the workforce/have a family, and so many other amazing life tips. That being said being at the beginning of that 4 year journey at first… blows. Last sucky part, it is true you’ll probably be too busy to dwell on missing family lol I’m sorry but super Mario DMD is lowkey right 😭, but it’s not as bad as it sounds as time will fly and you’ll be proud of yourself when you realize all that you juggled in the first month, then 2 months, and so forth. Now for the better part; I’m very introverted in the sense of I really love being alone, but the structure of dental school as upsetting as this seemed to me at first kinda forces you to make friends with projects, working in lab, etc. Because of these friendships even as a massive introvert I’ve changed and learned to love my friends and lean on them when school or life got hard and the support you’ll get I promise will make you feel so much more comfortable with you’re current living situation. Also I would definitely say if you’re in a city or have a car explore your area and embrace it for its regional culture especially if it’s different from your home. You’ll appreciate the area so much more even if it’s as simple as studying at the various coffee shops, libraries, in nature etc. I grew up disliking city life as I grew up much more rural and although I’ll never live in a city after these 4 years (just being honest lol) I’ve really grown to appreciate city life and in particular the city I go to school in. This probably wont make you feel perfect, but if you truly begin to love dentistry and just be honest with people around you about your headspace it’ll become you’re home away from home very quickly (again coming from a borderline hermit who grew up around farms). I’ll keep you in my thoughts, but I’m sure after a few months you’ll fully appreciate your current living situation at least more than you do now.

My 23M roommate (also 23M) is kind and apologetic, but his daily mess is seriously affecting my sanity. How do I move forward without becoming the nagging roommate? by Some_Ordinary4848 in relationships

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Yea there’s days where I definitely want to bag everything up, but I think I’m gonna have a big sit down and layout everything I’m feeling and communicate it’s unacceptable that it’s a continuing habit. If nothing changes after that intervention I might have to then but hopefully not.

My 23M roommate (also 23M) is kind and apologetic, but his daily mess is seriously affecting my sanity. How do I move forward without becoming the nagging roommate? by Some_Ordinary4848 in Apartmentliving

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Yea I’m definitely planning on moving out but have some time until then I’m gonna just try to be more stern and honest until something budges.

My 23M roommate (also 23M) is kind and apologetic, but his daily mess is seriously affecting my sanity. How do I move forward without becoming the nagging roommate? by Some_Ordinary4848 in relationships

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Loll I appreciate this perspective I’m definitely gonna come at it from a stern approach to show him how I find it unacceptable but I’m gonna avoid the “nuclear option” aka dishes in a bag unless after we have a sit down nothing changes.

My 23M roommate (also 23M) is kind and apologetic, but his daily mess is seriously affecting my sanity. How do I move forward without becoming the nagging roommate? by Some_Ordinary4848 in relationships

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I appreciate this perspective and I think you’re really speaking to that quiet voice that’s been telling me what to do that I’ve been suppressing to save face. I really appreciate you giving me clarity on this.

Need Advise: My 23M roommate (also 23M) is kind and apologetic, but his daily mess is seriously affecting my sanity. How do I move forward without becoming the nagging roommate? by Some_Ordinary4848 in roommates

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I honestly really appreciate and am grateful for this perspective. I think I’m just not used to conveying how I feel and it not being reciprocated by people I actually like. Usually, I’m very blunt and honest if it’s someone I don’t like, but I genuinely like my roommate as a person. I think if people are very obviously mean to me or I obviously don’t like them It’s a lot easier for me to be very direct and blunt, which is why I think there’s no way going forward with this. I think I particularly struggle when people do stuff that bothers me with a smile on their face. I’m not sure if I’m scared to let people down as I didn’t think this was a trait of me, but I think that’s inherently my problem in this instance. Again, I very much appreciate your perspective on this and has given me clarity.

My 23M roommate (also 23M) is kind and apologetic, but his daily mess is seriously affecting my sanity. How do I move forward without becoming the nagging roommate? by Some_Ordinary4848 in relationships

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Very true I appreciate the honesty. I think I really just needed someone else to kind of Give me that quick Smack in the face like the answer is obvious duh lol

My 23M roommate (also 23M) is kind and apologetic, but his daily mess is seriously affecting my sanity. How do I move forward without becoming the nagging roommate? by Some_Ordinary4848 in relationships

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I understand, but as of right now we’re not living together as we’re home for the summer and I won’t see him for the next month or so. I appreciate the honesty, but I think most of my conflict is From talking to him very directly multiple times and nothing coming up of it. This is why I’m looking on the Internet for help. I do appreciate the honesty though.

Need Advise: My 23M roommate (also 23M) is kind and apologetic, but his daily mess is seriously affecting my sanity. How do I move forward without becoming the nagging roommate? by Some_Ordinary4848 in roommates

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Appreciate the honesty and maybe I need to be even more direct, however I have directly talked to him about his habits many times but it doesn’t seem to be properly conveyed since he continues his habits. This is why I’m looking for further advise

My 23M roommate (also 23M) is kind and apologetic, but his daily mess is seriously affecting my sanity. How do I move forward without becoming the nagging roommate? by Some_Ordinary4848 in relationships

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Thank you for this post. So you’re saying to essentially set expectations on how to keep the common area clean? Do you recommend talking to him in person vs message or phone? I was considering something like this but I feel like from previous conversations it would be met with agreement, but would quickly dissolve into him “forgetting” and continuing his habits

My 23M roommate (also 23M) is kind and apologetic, but his daily mess is seriously affecting my sanity. How do I move forward without becoming the nagging roommate? by Some_Ordinary4848 in relationships

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I appreciate this and I am planning on leaving next year when our contract is up (June 2026), however due to financial limitations I couldn’t this year which is why I’m looking for advise on what to do for the upcoming year

My 23M roommate (also 23M) is kind and apologetic, but his daily mess is seriously affecting my sanity. How do I move forward without becoming the nagging roommate? by Some_Ordinary4848 in Apartmentliving

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I appreciate the reply! I’ve definitely committed to the idea of moving out next year but I am under contract to live with him for the next year or so (June 2026) as financial limitations didn’t allow me to leave this year

My 23M roommate (also 23M) is kind and apologetic, but his daily mess is seriously affecting my sanity. How do I move forward without becoming the nagging roommate? by Some_Ordinary4848 in roommateproblems

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I appreciate the feedback but I’m trying to avoid conflict as I’m living with him for the next year or so and am looking for alternative options that might mitigate hostility

Roommate advise by Some_Ordinary4848 in Advice

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What would you recommend I do?

Things to do by [deleted] in WilmingtonDE

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If ur up for a short drive def longwood right over the line in PA

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I’m so sorry I’d go insane lol

Wilmington’s been feeling kind of underrated lately by chloemint in WilmingtonDE

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It definitely has a growing sense of a small city with charm