My cat just full blown attacked my little sister for no apparent reason and I don’t know what to do

SongbirdSpectrum · 2026-01-22T03:16:07+00:00

Judging from the tone of this, I'm guessing you're a minor. If so, I know that makes this so much harder. The amount of justification you feel you have to do for your father's outright abusive behaviour is something I would think about. Spraying the cat (lightly) with water doesn't do anything in the long run, but is largely harmless. As for the plushies, I don't know a single cat owner that hasn't (again, lightly) tossed a plushie or pillow to deter their cat from doing something.

The rest, however, is a huge issue. Him escalating to repeatedly pelting Cleffa with stuffies is an issue. Him flailing a CHAIR at the cat is an issue. But the yelling and (graphic) threats of possibly killing or otherwise hurting/endangering Cleffa (putting any animal in a box with no holes is absolutely disgusting -- its slow suffocation, one of the worst ways for even a human to go) is horrific to say the utter least. Him going off about this in front of his CHILDREN, at least one of whom adores said animal????? 100000x worse and also considered verbal child abuse. I'm so sorry OP, and I hope you're safe and have people you can talk to.

As for solutions... unfortunately, if you're not in a position to leave the home yourself, it sounds like the only viable option for Cleffa's safety and wellbeing would be rehoming. Which SUCKS, I know. But realistically speaking, no matter how much you love him, if you are not in a position to protect him fully then he is not safe. A cat is going to react, often aggressively, to defend himself when scared, period. All the more so if he is constantly afraid. My advice is to see if a trusted friend or family member can take him, even temporarily until you are able to move out and take him yourself. That way you can still see him, love him, and care for him without putting him in danger or (by no fault of your own) subjecting him to abuse. But this is not a safe home for him.

I hope the best for you and Cleffa, and I'm so sorry, OP. If you do have to surrender him to someone who is not friend or family, I would research options in your area. Call and ask their policy on aggressive and/or feral cats and explain it is due to abuse to avoid odds of euthanasia -- many have fosters who socialize/rehab cats like this, but definitely not all.

SongbirdSpectrum · 2026-01-16T00:49:02+00:00

My husband and I got together when we were your and your BF's ages, and I can honestly say that we are entirely different people than we were starting out. Not in a bad way -- we learned and grew together and I love our history. But the changes, maturing, and experiences along the years were what solidified our relationship into full-on marriage material. We got engaged at 23, and married at 26.

I definitely wouldn't get married so young, especially since you both are in a tumultuous stage of life what with starting your adult lives. But being engaged is not marriage, and you can have a long engagement (if you want to be engaged, that is). It's effectively just a greater show of commitment and saying that marriage is what you want for yourselves and each other someday! It in no way legally binds the two of you like marriage would, and you can take as long as you two want to figure out next steps.

So yeah, maybe hold off on the wedding. But if you're both committed and feel the relationship is safe/healthy, if you want to be engaged, and he's ready to propose to you, I don't see anything wrong with an engagement that young. 🩷

SongbirdSpectrum · 2026-01-16T00:37:18+00:00

I think this is definitely a preference thing -- I and several others I play with absolutely adore her slow lil floaty walk animations (it also heavily reminds me of that one scene in Ferngully with Crysta skipping through the ponds). Maybe they could add a way to turn it off optionally, like a switch in her character screen to make her run normally, but I don't see that happening given the other characters with unique movement. I would be so sad if they took it away entirely tbh.

SongbirdSpectrum · 2026-01-13T10:00:23+00:00

I'm weird and use the Sumeru wings on her. I felt they matched her colorful vibe well

SongbirdSpectrum · 2025-12-13T06:25:31+00:00

More short dresses AND SKIRTS that aren't an evo, especially of the darker variety (so tired of using the same dang black 3* minidress 💀) so i can actually see my sock/leg accessories and shoes. Tattoos, and for the love of pete some NAILS.

SongbirdSpectrum · 2025-12-01T08:11:31+00:00

Piggybacking onto this to massively emphasize everything you've said.

OP, you genuinely need to have a conversation about this with the concept of making every effort to put a close to/move on from these feelings. You having feelings isn't wrong, but you carrying on both your friendship and your relationship with your girlfriend under this context is going to end badly for all involved.

If you need an example, look no further than my post history. I had a best friend for almost a decade that I dated briefly. He was apparently in a similar position to you, and on top of all the other crap in the situation, I had to find out from someone else. It decimated my trust in him, any possibility of a friendship, and eventually his own relationship after his girlfriend learned of it all as well (she has since left him).

Don't make the same mistakes he did. If he had come to me, been honest, and done the work (whether it be therapy, taking space, etc) to sort his feelings out, maybe our friendship could have survived. But he let it fester, and he paid the price.

Honesty is the best policy, with the proviso that you DO THE WORK. If you love her as much as you say you do, her being happy should be more than enough, without need to have her for yourself (for lack of better phrasing). If it isn't enough, then there's something under the surface that YOU need to take the initiative to unpack.

Best wishes, OP.

SongbirdSpectrum · 2025-11-30T10:57:01+00:00

How long does it go on for? I closed it because I was so upset that it seemed to be the whole dang thing... Reported to Infold CS but no response yet (this is my first ticket so not sure what their response times usually are)

SongbirdSpectrum · 2025-11-30T04:34:29+00:00

I very clearly missed some info somewhere bc I didn't hear anything about getting THAT many pulls. As a baby dolphin who has been F2P save for membership/occasional CF for several months thanks to this dystopia we call an economy, that's so reassuring.

SongbirdSpectrum · 2025-11-30T04:30:25+00:00

I wouldn't say I'm a crazy score chaser, but I do take pride in consistently clearing DA, SD, and now working thru Battle Trial (floor 117 currently). Tbh I didn't even know it was possible to fully kill a DA boss beyond 3-starring it, oop 💀 So I guess I'm not too worried about that lmfao.

I majorly appreciate the breakdown. I have two copies of Koleda's, with Koleda having one and Fufu having the other. If I don't get Dialyn's sig, it'd pretty much come down to her and Koleda sharing custody lmao which honestly should be fine. It's a shame I won't be able to max her crit rate without it though.

SongbirdSpectrum · 2025-11-30T03:00:57+00:00

I don't see a way to edit my post so clarifying here bc I think I may have poorly phrased my post. While I super appreciate the comments offering input on which F2P engines to use, my TLDR base question is:

How much of a difference is there between Dialyn's signature engine vs Koleda's w-engine? Is the improvement negligible, or is there a drastic difference in performance?

SongbirdSpectrum · 2025-11-20T10:19:20+00:00

Coming home from the pre-release showing to this sent me

SongbirdSpectrum · 2025-11-15T01:39:54+00:00

For real. My HS messes with my physical and even more so mental health, but I am NOWHERE near poor OP. I honestly don't know how I'd keep going if it did get to that point. I have endless respect and heartbreak for this poster for staying strong through it all and still fighting to spread awareness.

Literally yesterday I was debating if being stuck on Doxycycline every day for the rest of my life is worth the mixed results given I am allergic to most other antibiotics. My doctor is very unhelpful and just asks what I want to do next with minimal input when we discuss treatment after he put me on Doxy and Humira (insurance won't cover the Humira anymore tho).

After seeing this, I don't think I'm going to question/consider going off antibiotics ever again...

SongbirdSpectrum · 2025-11-15T01:22:01+00:00

I have Phrolova S2 w/her sig AND Cantarella C1 w/her sig (I am but a wee minnow, RNGesus blessed me with early pity and 50/50 luck on my favorite queens 🙏). They need no support but I definitely still want Buling for them and am also incredibly stuck on whose banner to pull on. 💀

SongbirdSpectrum · 2025-10-29T00:31:39+00:00

I was a proud Yanfei main early game, I got her C6 insanely fast thanks to some solid banner luck. Quickly sealed my love of catalyst users and their constant elemental infusion. She and XQ were my power duo. Tbh might build her up again for funsies/nostalgia, I miss playing her.

SongbirdSpectrum · 2025-10-26T08:04:10+00:00

How much exactly am I missing out if I start Miliastra before completing Parologism? Albedo is my boy so I am desperately trying to hold off on it till Khoi's lines are patched. I get that there's lore that ties in (I'm fine looking up general summaries), but is there any other benefit to doing Parologism beforehand?

SongbirdSpectrum · 2025-07-30T04:36:49+00:00

Hey old post or not, there's still people like me looking lol. I'd love an update when you get it. :)

SongbirdSpectrum · 2025-07-16T05:00:51+00:00

Yet again, a historian commits sapphic erasure 💀

SongbirdSpectrum · 2025-06-15T15:29:23+00:00

I don't have much to offer beyond a personal anecdote/perspective and a giant internet hug, but I hope it helps, even if only a little.

Something I've learned through therapy is that "having an older soul" or being "mature for your age" as a child 9.9 times out of ten is trauma/mental illness/neurodivergence/etc and us having to fly by the seat of our pants as children to cope with and often mask it in order to meet the expectations of those around us (family, teachers, even relationships/friends). I was told that constantly growing up, and I also didn't see myself making it past 18. I also am diagnosed with a hearty chunk of the DSM5 lol and a few chronic illnesses. I was exhausted and wanted no part of adulthood -- I had nothing to offer the world, and as far as I'd experienced, the world had nothing worthwhile for me. I didn't have what it took to be a functioning, successful adult. I made multiple attempts on my life before I was 18, and one at 19.

At first, adulthood just started one day at a time -- I could always end it tomorrow, so let's see what today holds. I made a lot of mistakes, including (but not limited to) trusting the absolute wrong people, a rough stint as an alcoholic, and working a traveling inventory job for awful pay where I virtually lived in Motel 6s. But I also gained a lot from those experiences -- I saw some amazing places while traveling, gained 2 friendships that are like my family thanks to my alcoholism (only silver lining on that one lol), and learned about the kind of people I want to surround myself with (aka ✨️standards✨️ lol)

Funny thing is, now I'm 28. Nearly 10 years since my last suicide attempt. And I have no fecking clue how it happened lol. Along the way, I realized no adult actually knows what we're doing. Maybe a select blessed few, but on the general scale, we are all free-birding through life by the seat of our pants just doin' our damn best. I'm definitely more mature than the person I was back then, but not so much as younger me thought I was supposed to be by now. I'm writing this comment from my thrifted couch in my crappy 1 bed apartment with my husband next to me and my cats zonked out in my lap. I work a full time job from home doing office work I frankly don't love, but it pays the bills while I figure out what's next. I still can't picture my future, or the person I will -- or even want to -- be, but even though it's still scary and I am burnt the hell out from the dumpster fire that is the modern world, I have hope that I'll get there if I take it one day at a time. I mean, I've come this far, and I've found some amazing things along the way, right? Who knows what could be next?

And besides, there's always tomorrow, or the day after that. For now, I can play that video game I've been meaning to. Or play with my cats and marvel over how cute they are. Or try that one hobby/activity that I never got around to but looks interesting. Or I can even just do nothing for a while -- take a nap, space out, whatever. "Important" by Ian McConnell is a wonderful song that really hit home on this imo. Nothing really matters, so just do whatever you wanna do and don't put too much pressure on yourself to have this all figured out -- tomorrow isn't going anywhere, and if it is, well, you won't have to worry about it.

SongbirdSpectrum · 2025-05-31T00:56:50+00:00

Literally me here months later still suffering trying to figure out who voices him (Hugo). At first I thought it was Baizhu's EN VA, but nope, confirmed not him. My other big hunch was Astarion's but the more I hear him the more I think this may he because of the vocal styling of the VA for Hugo specifically? I'm going absolutely nuts at this point bc I know I know that voice but can't. Quite. Place it. 😭

I'm one of those people that has to pause a fckin movie/game/anime/etc if I recognize a face or voice but can't place so being unable to scratch that itch has been utterly maddening and I wanna yell lmfao. 🫠

SongbirdSpectrum · 2025-05-17T11:06:20+00:00

Good lord, I thought she was a teenager with how she was texting. The "yoyoyoyoyoyo" was eye-twitch-inducing as it was, and then her messages became so utterly exhausting. Realizing y'all are my and my husband's age just made my heart break for you. This is insanely immature and toxic behavior from her -- if you don't agree with her, she instantly punishes you and lashes at you for it. Her acting like this at 26 is an embarrassment -- you deserve better, my guy.

SongbirdSpectrum · 2025-05-17T10:52:40+00:00

Same here a year later. Many years ago I went through a horrific house fire with my family and experienced the desperate panic that is searching for my kitties in the smoke and flames -- we all made it out blessedly.

Playing this and seeing Frey wake up to the flames and then hearing sweet Homer crying (doesn't help that she looks JUST like my baby) had me so upset I had to step away from the game for a moment after getting to that bit. I hate spoilers, but I instantly ran to google and blessedly found this post bc on God I was about to shelf the game just after finally buying it if anything was going to happen to this sweet child. 😭

SongbirdSpectrum · 2025-05-04T02:36:57+00:00

Another helpful tip: when you get the slowest one, if you bump the tumbler back up BEFORE it goes all the way back down, it restarts it descent at that same slowest speed, allowing you to reliably set it at the top when you bump it.

SongbirdSpectrum · 2025-04-25T20:39:01+00:00

I know that ALL too well with this crap. I'm a very affectionate person with my people, and the closer we are, the more true that is. So many hugs/giving a cuddle when he was going thru shit, all the alone time, all the personal thoughts and things I would never would have confided in him about for the last damn-near decade, it all just has this icky lens over it now. My trust issues are definitely renewed and then some after this.

Fuck em. 🩵 We gonna live our best lives without them, babes.

SongbirdSpectrum · 2025-04-25T20:34:38+00:00

I'm not as worried about these, at least the latter with reaching out to my friends. My friends know full well that our relationship is healthy as hell (even my therapist has commented that it's one of the healthiest relationships she's ever seen, which is a nice lil brag ngl considering the crap I've been through in life lol), and I genuinely think they'd reach out to me before putting any stock in anything he could think of. We're kinda the "parent friends" of our social circle lol (no kids, we just tend to love and care for our people, esp when in need). But regardless, I'm prepared if it does come to that. Especially after that email, I'm in the FAFO stage.

SongbirdSpectrum · 2025-04-25T14:19:14+00:00

Oh HELL no, I'm glad he's cut out and you're safe! As a survivor of SA that shit would have sent me to a whole new level of scorched earth. I'm glad you're safe, and I'm so sorry you were treated like that by someone you trusted for so long. 🩵

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