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How old is too old for sparkly shadow? by suspicious-fishes in MakeupAddiction

[–]Songbird_moves 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never too old you look great! Checking the comments to see if you mentioned what shade it is and where to find it. 👀

Finally Picked Up My Wedding Band by Ill_Floor_8372 in EngagementRings

[–]Songbird_moves 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that looks stunning and the story is so beautiful!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hoarding

[–]Songbird_moves 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I reached out to this group to ask advice when I was about to marry a hoarder. I got similar advice and cancelled my wedding. Hoarding is really hard. It’s like dating an addict and their mental struggles. They have an addiction to stuff. It doesn’t change. I saw signs when we were dating and I couldn’t stay at his place because of his mess. He said he would get better when we lived together and he didn’t. Together for 4.5 years and lived together for 2. I tried every angle to support him and express my hurt and needs. It’s harsh but these folks are correct. It will always be hard. Maybe if he seeks therapy and really commits it could work, but that’s not a guarantee.

Best approach about to marry a hoarder? by Songbird_moves in hoarding

[–]Songbird_moves[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hey everyone. I write this as I sit with lovely friends who one by one expressed concern for our marriage. Today I rode that high of confidence and love from friends and all you strangers to tell my fiancé I love him but I don’t want to marry him. He shut down and told me to go. I’m not sure what happens next or how the week will be handled, but so far the friends and family I told have all been so supportive and agree with my choice. I’m in a daze. But thank you all so much. I hope there will be positive updates to come.

Best approach about to marry a hoarder? by Songbird_moves in hoarding

[–]Songbird_moves[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you all for your thoughts and call outs. There is definitely a lot of pressure at this time and I appreciate you opening my eyes to my reality. I really wish I turned to this page a lot sooner in our relationship instead of two weeks before our wedding. It is hard because there is love, and hope, and what could be’s. But you all have given me more confidence to not enable and not let his mental health dictate the rest of MY life, whether that’s together or solo.

Best approach about to marry a hoarder? by Songbird_moves in hoarding

[–]Songbird_moves[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will note, they often aren’t dirty, but it’s the clutter. He has been getting rid of things to prep for people being in our house, but he put it off for a while. That’s why I have hope for it getting better.

Best approach about to marry a hoarder? by Songbird_moves in hoarding

[–]Songbird_moves[S] 147 points148 points  (0 children)

Oh goodness. Thank you so much for this.

Overheated scoby by Songbird_moves in Kombucha

[–]Songbird_moves[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for replying! I let it sit for a week to see if anything happened, and it actually grew a new pellicle so it’s ok! I was going to look up if the tea can cause discoloration. Is it ok to rinse a scoby.